my mom says he has to pay for everything i think she is wrong?
2007-01-05 04:25:37 · 34 answers · asked by bumfuggle19 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am a girl sorry for not being specfic
2007-01-05 04:31:19 · update #1
i am a girl sorry for not being specfic
2007-01-05 04:31:20 · update #2
I think at first the man should pay for everything. But as the relationship progresses the woman should start chipping in.
2007-01-05 04:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is traditional... she follows the role where men have to pay the date for women.
In general, society still lives up to this norm. Usually, most women you encounter in various cultures are like this. Why? Blame it on the so called HISTORY of romancing some WOOOMMAAANN!
Otherwise, if you are interested in a girl... just pay for the first date. If she asks for too much. Get the hell out of there and scram!
If it's only for a dinner or movie... then that doesn't hurt.
You should ask your mom... "Well, mom... if the man should pay the woman for the date... then what happened to equality between the sexes? Aren't men and women created equally? I think women should pay for the date too."
Then leave the room with a smiley face.
I'm sure you'll piss her off.
2007-01-05 04:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first few dates the guy should atleast offer to pay, if she wants to pay then sure I'd be fine with her paying. Once you are really "dating" you should go every other, 50-50, or who ever asked the person or chose where to go should pay. But both people need to know going in how it's going to work so that there aren't any issues because some girls hate it when guys pay and some guys are insulted when a girl offers or does pay.
2007-01-05 04:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by lakerfan2534 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the person who asks for the date is assumed to pay, unless one person makes a lot more money than the other one.
If you are teenagers, neither one of you has a lot of money, so maybe you should split it.
There are a lot of things to do that do not require money, or at least not much. Look in the weekend section of the newspaper or check the webpage of your local TV station for "local events".
2007-01-05 04:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is such an old fashioned view. Why should men pay for everything? I have always at least offered to pay for things on dates and if the guy wouldn't let me then fair enough but he will have more respect for you if you at least have the decency to offer and are not just spending all his money!
2007-01-05 04:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by Little miss naughty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both wrong. The check should be split at all times. Why should one party pay for everything when a date is easily afforded? Think "equality."
2007-01-05 07:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once and a while it's nice for the chick to pick up the tab...but I like to take care of my women for the most part so I will usually pay for everything...your mom shouldn't be paying for everything....
2007-01-05 04:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Dave B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he did the asking then he should do the paying unless you agree to go dutch. If you ask him out, then you should pay. If you are in the relationship for a while and going out doesn't require formally asking for a date, then it's acceptable to take turns paying.
2007-01-05 04:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok now if he asked u out it might make him feel good to pay the bill on the first date but u should still always atleast offer to pay for ur half but then he might insist on treating and u go ahead and accept and then offer to pay something else later like a soda or something but if you asked him out when it come time to pay you go ahead and reach for your purse because he is your guest and u did ask him but if he wont let u pay dont fight it just go ahead and accept and make sure to say thank you but if he dosent even attempt then he's just being plain flat out rude.
2007-01-05 04:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by brownsuga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think you should not to fear to pay,, but even if you make the date and choose the place,, IF he insists to grab the check,, be polite. The idea your mom is following is from the pre - 60s.
2007-01-05 04:33:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋