I just found out my 16 yr old is smoking weed...help...are there any coping techniques suggested?

Question

He was arrested for smokiing weed, just looking for any advice on what to say or do now...

Answer 1

God bless.

Answer 2

First I started smoking when I was 15 and I did a very good job of keeping hid from my parents and they had no ideal until I was 17 and they caught me out with friends one night. They didn't smoke however both of my older sisters and real dad did. My mother cut out my allowance and instead of giving me money she went and filled my car up or bought what ever it was I was needing but it didnt stop me I still found a way and it wasn't until I got pregnant with my oldest that I quit and then for several years I went back and forth. My oldest is 16 and she knows her dad and I both use to smoke she also knows we will not allow it in our house or anything else BUT she is 16 and when she is away from home and with her friends I am sure their will be times when her friends will inflict their views on her and she will have to decide which to do. A parent that allows their child to do it is first breaking the law as it is illegal for a minor to have tobacco products and two they are telling their child that health doesn't matter. When this 16 year old is brought in, cited and charged with a minor in possession of tobacco then her parents ought to get cited and charged with the same thing as well only with a stiffer fine and punishment. You can't say it is all about them having money though. We are comfortable, our kids went to private schools, have trust funds for college etc and yet they have chores to do to earn their allowance, and the 16 year old has a part-time job to help pay the insurance and gas for her car. It doesnt matter if you do or dont have money you either care about your kids future and health or you dont.

Answer 3

First of all, you should know that the biggest threat to his health and safety will be the law. The biggest study of the health effects was done by Kaiser Permanente. They surveyed the long-term health records of 65,000 patients. They found no difference between the health records of those who smoked pot versus those who didn't.

The next thing you should do is educate yourself on the subject. If you don't educate yourself, then your son will pick up on your ignorance right away and you will have no credibility at all.

Marijuana is not a major threat to your son's future so calm down while you read. I suggest you read all of the following:

Why marijuana was outlawed at http://druglibrary.org/schaffer/Library/mj_outlawed.htm

The major studies of the marijuana laws and the health effects of marijuana at http://druglibrary.org/schaffer/Library/studies/studies.htm

The Consumers Union Report on Licit and Illicit Drugs at http://druglibrary.org/schaffer/Library/studies/cu/cumenu.htm This is the best overall review of the drug problem ever written. Most people here have never read it. If you haven't read it, then you simply don't know the subject.

Don't talk to your son until you have done the above reading. Also, don't accept answers from anyone who has not read these things. They are the definitive works on the subject.

Answer 4

Smoking cannabis in itself is not something you need to worry about unduly. It is far, FAR less addictive than cigarettes for example. It doesn't cause physical dependency.

Most teens do it - the unusual bit is the getting arrested.

His best move is to be very apologetic and say it was just a foolish experiment, he comes from a good home background, is a responsible member of society and-it-won't-happen-again.

Answer 5

1st thing is don't over react , talk to him as an adult not a parent , say to him about is negative effects on body mind n spirit, and also the statement of made i made to mine once > Do you hear that sound? he'll ask what sound, you say the sound of a thousand doors going shut ,government jobs , and many others but he still has time to change he's not 18 yet. and then setup an appointment with a psychologist, it with help him alot.good luck! If you treat him like fellow worker/friend he'll respond in same. NO YELLING

Answer 6

Hopefully the legal system will give him some insight on the penalties involved with smoking pot. He'll probably have to take urine tests for probation in which case he'll HAVE to stop smoking. So you're off the hook with trying to convince him of reasons to stop.

Luckily he is still young and it will be easier for him to stop and it won't be on his adult record.

I would suggest him getting a hobby he can involve himself in whenever he has the urge to smoke.

Answer 7

there isn't much you can say. if he wants to do it he will do it. talk to him about it. more than likely he will grow out of it. i know a lot of people that do it and they get good grades in school. a lot of kids do it in high school but once the graduate they quit. there are a lot of worse things that he could be doing like crack or coke or even selling. the arrested part sucks but the smoking part isn't that bad as long as that is all hes doing.

Answer 8

Most teens experiment with it, for most it is just a phase that they grow out of. Important thing to remember is not to bail him out of any problem that comes with smoking it, let him deal with all that will come his way and that just may change his mind.

Answer 9

What you should do is research the dangers and the benefits of useing pot and then let him know what they are. Allow him to decide if he wants to do it. if you force something upon someone alot time they would will still do it.

Answer 10

Let him suffer the natural consequences. DO NOT bail him out.