and say.."NO I AM NOT..I AM BEING REALISTIC..."...I DO NOT WANT TO RE-LIVE WHAT HE SAYS BUT IT IS DEFINATELY ABUSE...his wife divorced him for that...also the kids refuse to speak to him...anyway....why don't abusive people SEE IT???EVERYBODY ELSE DOES WITH A HALF A BRAIN...
2007-01-05 04:14:49 · 3 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
At least his EX divorced him for it and his kids stay away. Sounds like your older brother has some anger issues and self esteem issues also. He has to hurt others to hide his own pain and anger. He also causes people to avoid or shut him out because he wants it that way. In his mind, he probably thinks if someone really loves him they'd put up with it. Something has made him really hate himself.
He may never do anything about the problems he has because he hasn't lost enough people in his life because of it. All to often people stay by these type of people and enable them. Mostly because they have low self esteem too and what this person does and says reinforces their own self worth.
Tell him you love him, but you're not going to be treated like that. If he wants to be nicer, tell him to call you.
2007-01-05 04:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by briardan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you refer to, and that's just how he sees things. I haven't been able to cure people of this... I just teach by example... and wait for them to make changes, it's necessary he experience what he has, and learn from it... if he does.
2007-01-05 13:52:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT NOT THAT THEY DON'T SEE IT IT'S THAT THEY DON'T THINK IT'S AS BAD AS YOU GUYS ARE MAKING IT OUT TO BE AND IN TELL SOMEONE DOES IT TO THEM AND NOT FAMILY THEY WILL KEEP DOING IT SO JUST KEEP LOVING BUT DON'T TAKE THE ABUSE FROM HIM
2007-01-05 13:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋