Ok I have had a lot of problems with my ex (we have children together) and he has another gf and what not. The gf and i got into it shortly after the holidays over the phone (i was calling to get a hold of my ex) and he called me and screamed at me as usual... I have had enough of the drama and all the bs with him...he has played mind games with me and whatever telling me he still loves me and wants his family back ect....so we got into he told me he never wanted to talk to me again (it was based on his little 19 year old gf who was all upset cuz i laid into her) and I went ahead and changed my number...didnt' give it to him or his family have cut off all communication with him..he blew off the kids on sunday..never showed up to see them...I don't know what to do at this point do I break down and call him or do I let him make the first move? I feel bad for my kids but he is worthless honestly. I am sick of all the problems I just don't know what to do about any of it!
2007-01-05 04:06:19 · 4 answers · asked by MLP 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am hurt and mad by all of it and I'm not sure if I should give in or basically let him make the next move...I know from mutal friends that they have been fighting really bad and he keeps telling her its her fault that he can't see his kids and that he still loves me...but I don't want to fall into that trap again...what do I do? I know I cant keep him from his kids but he has chosen this gf over his kids so often that its hurting our kids feelings (oldest is about to be 10 and then 20 month old)..so there is a lot of history obviously between us. What do I do and what do I say to my oldest daughter?
2007-01-05 04:08:45 · update #1
I have thought about calling private...but its just not worth it honestly...I mean our oldest daughter already is having second thoughts about ever seeing him again and our youngest obviously doens't understand whats going on...its basically what his gf wants...she is getting what she wants but its at the exspense of my kids. I don't need his money or his time but is that really fair to my kids? I think his gf is preg and its just gonna make things more complicated and i don't want my kids to get hurt cuz he is irresponsible and an idiot!!!
2007-01-05 04:13:26 · update #2
We were never married...known each other for most of our lives and he cheated on me with this new gf for months before i realized what was going on...he is 28 and she is 19 and still in hs!!! Its really messed up she broke up my family and is breaking my kids hearts and he doens't seemed to be phased by it till now i guess now that he can't get a hold of me..I want to cut him out all together but is that really fair? He isn't around much and when he is he sleeps on my couch and doens't really try to interact with them....its a waste of time..got a new job and really doing some good things for my family and I want nothing to do with him. I just dont' know if thats good for my kids!!
2007-01-05 04:18:12 · update #3
don't contact him. if he wants to see them he will make a move. if not...they would be better off without him.
2007-01-05 04:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by pamcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've just gotten over a divorce with a child. So I can relate to your situation. You don't have to call him. He knows where you are, and if he wants to see those kids he'll do it. If your not getting child support than you need to go ahead and file for it. If he's not going to be around to help than you need to get a court order to make him at least help with money.
2007-01-05 12:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by Q~T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your kids call him. Dial the number and set it to private by dialing *67 before the call. Dont say anything to him or her....if they need to talk to you, they will ask to speak to you.
2007-01-05 12:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES it is screwed up.
No advice from me.
2007-01-05 12:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋