i loved my gf but then i moved...... we still in contact and haven't broke up yet....
3 months later, i came all the way from Oklahoma to Chicago secretly just too suprised her..
Then i saw her kissing another guys, i was so mad and i just leave Chicago....
Is it my fault that i came secretly OR is it her fault?
2007-01-05 04:03:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh babe its her fault! you should tell her you saw her though
2007-01-05 04:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Aubrey F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say its no ones fault. In fact i would say that these incidents are true eye openers to the real facts of life , which might turn out to be little harsh at times in this go getting or material world . What happened in your case was, is a perfect example of " out of sight out of mind " . you did loved her and so did she ( presumed in absence of information ) but you moved out to another place. So during then her NEED for just another guy has let her expose herself to other guys , however on the other hand you kept her in your mind even when you are away, It displayed your true intentions, but at the same time it is very important in this go getting world to be skeptical also, which by stroke of luck you could discover only while you were about to give her a surprise. I d say that your heart broke rather at the right time instead of her telling you that she doesnt love you anymore ( which is again hardly possible) or she might have never told you and perhaps would have kept you under her toes as she liked ( who knows ? ) ; so in your circumstances as the old saying goes" whatever happens happens for good" perfectly applies , atleast think that you have saved yourself from being made fool by a woman who could not value your thoughts. so its certainly not your fault. At the same time its not her fault either because it seems from your story, that love was stronger from your side only, you never mentioned whether you both were strongly in love, maybe she just took you to be friends, maybe there was a communication gap between you 2. What i mean to say is , you should have made it clear before leaving/moving out in first place whether it would only be you in her life while you are away and if then she had committed something like this then certainly the person deserves to be adjudged as at fault........
2007-01-05 04:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by kbs_44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not your fault...You wanted to do something nice for your girlfriend...I think that is great! She should have told you that she wanted to end things because she did not want a long distance relationship....Or she could have been doing this all along and now that you moved, she feels that she does not have to hide it..either way she is wrong...
2007-01-05 04:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her fault. If it wasn't stated and made clear that ya'll were no longer together then she was cheating. I think what you did was romantic and what she did was slu*y. If she can't be faithful then you oveiously deserve better.
2007-01-05 04:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is defiantly not your fault but maybe she thought that you guys already break up!
i wish it was me u came to surprise !
u r better off alone!
2007-01-05 04:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her fault for cheating on you.
2007-01-05 04:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by funnygrrl19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its her fault if you didnt cheat on her or on any of your exes (cuz of karma right).
2007-01-05 04:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cheated blame it on her
2007-01-05 04:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋