I am 33 yrs old and my husband is 39.This is my third marriage (but i married same man twice) and i have two children twins daughter and son that are 9 yrs old from my last marriage.My husband has 3 children from his previous marriage ages 15 , 10 , and 7.We have a 5 bedroom 4 bathroom home that is fairly large with dinning room , family room, kitchen, hubby has a den that leads to an office, basement and a living room. You think this would be enough space for when the my step-children come over on the weekends but it is not!They fight like cats and dogs with my kids over everything.The recent issue was the eldest step daughter who is 15 refusing to share a room.I told her she could not sleep in the den because its being remodled she threw a fit!she made my daughter cry when she told her i was a whore and her brothers would rape her when they got older.Then she borrowed my favorite Prada bag without asking and brought it back looking like it had been in Iraq!I need advice?
2007-01-05 04:00:22 · 5 answers · asked by Elizabeth S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This is not even going to the replacement T.V i have had to buy because it was broken by my 10 yr old step son and my 9 yr old son during a fight!It was a plasma T.V and expensive!I have told my husband to talk to them they behave up until he leaves the room and on top it this i am 6 months pregnant and running out of patience!
2007-01-05 04:03:04 · update #1
God bless.
2007-01-08 16:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word...family counseling
Everyone has to learn to be civil or you will have to make changes and the changes are not going to be pleasant. Your husband might have to visit with his kids outside the home or something. It sounds like a very unhealthy environment to have for everyone and a bad situation to bring a new baby into.
2007-01-05 04:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that they sound like monsters. I would seriously talk to there father about this the girl is fifteen she should know that they way she is acting is way out of line. If the father isn't to blame though talk to her mother if she is aware of the way her kids act then goodness you need to take this into your own hands. They may act like that at home but in your and your husbands home they need to follow your rules. Treat her exactly how you would treat your own kids probably harsher since it doesn't sound like your kids act like that.
2007-01-05 17:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the suggestion for family counseling. ALL THE FAMILY. There are all sorts of conflicting issues here. There's your spouse's ex and what she does when she has control over their children (has she remarried?). There's your position with his kids and his position with your kids. All gets a bit confused. A good family counselor can really help, everybody. Try it.
2007-01-05 18:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your husband needs to talk to them and let them know that you guys are together and if they cant behave than maybe they cant come over. if that happens than your husband could take them out on his own. It sounds like he needs to talk to them and set boundries and rules.
2007-01-05 10:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by heolcm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋