I'm a very shy person and one of my co-workers, told me she thought I would be the type of person to sit in and study on the weekends and not date. She said she feels sorry for me. Its people like this that annoy me, because I have lots of friends and I dotn drink every weekend, but I do party enough. I date and just because I'm 20 and dont have a boyfriend right now doesnt mean I'm happy. I could have a boyfriend, and will soon. I just hate how people judge me and their almost always wrong. Why do people judge?
2007-01-05 03:59:35 · 13 answers · asked by Tina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ignore her. If she was truly happy with her life, she wouldn't be worried about yours.
2007-01-05 04:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Chica Creole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have your head on pretty straight so it shouldn't bother you too much that people are judging or talking about you. Besides as a good friend once said to me "if they're talking about you they're saving someone else ***". So you can either confront these people and tell them that you are happy with your life choices and to mind their own business, or you can allow them to continue to bother you by discussing your life behind your back. I would suggest that you approach these people and put them in your place. But remember that even after you do this, which will make you feel much better, that it will not stop others from being judgmental.
2007-01-05 12:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People judge because it is in their nature to judge...
The problem is... People judge other peopel because they dont want to face the issues they themselves have, so to hide behind their own faults, they point out the flaws in others...
However, even though people may judge, they are usually accurate in judging, because it is always EASY TO SEE the flaws in others, than it is to admit your own...
While you may not be someone who sits in and studies on the weekend like she thinks... generally speaking what she is saying is the personality you have, or the vibe you give off gives that impression....
You can be mad at her, but sometimes its also a good idea to examine yourself... Her veiw of you after all isnt just random, it comes from her knowledge of you, and her knowledge comes from you yourself and who you are...
Lot of people also judge other people for the issues they themselves have... they point out their own lacking features in someone else hoping to forget their own...
People judge because they themselves never wish to change... if everyone wanted to better themselves for others, we would only judge ourselves.
2007-01-05 12:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Danlow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but try not to take it personally. This person has no right to assume that they know anything about you or your life outside of your work and is probably just projecting their own issues or insecurities on to you.
2007-01-05 12:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by menina0908 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate people like that,i think their jealous or something like that..as long as u enjoy ur life and feel good about yuourself,hell with what other people say or think about u..ur doing what u want,and not following the crowd. u go girl at u own pace
2007-01-05 12:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah people do that cuz they can, i find myself doing that sometimes even though its wrong...forget about her though, only you lives ur life so dont worry about how other people think or what they say
She's probably just jealous
2007-01-05 12:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone judges, it's automatic, it's horrible, but we can't solve or change it unfortunantly. :[
"Jude me all you want;;; just don't give me the verdict"
my favorite quote. and she must have been a snitch and a no-lifer if she gave you the verdict... don't mind what she says, but don't be too shy. ? haa sorry.
2007-01-05 12:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by goesonyahooanswerswhenbored 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have their own insecurities and in order to feel better about themselves they compare their life to someone who they think is worse off than them. Just ignore her, she is insecure and wants to feel better.
2007-01-05 12:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by triste_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Empty lives..... they cannot imagine being happy by themselves and project that onto you. Its one of those things that tell you more about them than you.
2007-01-05 12:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could answer this but we will never be able to change people.
2007-01-05 12:02:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋