Women: Please decipher this and tell me what she really wants:?

Question

After a bad fight about a week ago my live in fiance told me she needed space. I apologized profusely but it just seemed to make her angrier. So I temporarily moved out.

She called me on Wednesday to talk about something trivial then let me know how hurt and angry and upset she was about the fight. She told me not to call her unless I needed something. She also said the dogs missed me. And when I told her I was looking for roommate she told me not to do anything till I talked to her.

When I asked what our status together or apart she said she didnt know. She said she wasn't going to see anyone else, but she didn't care what I did. She said why should it matter what our status was, and to just do whatever my conscience tells me to do.

After hearing her out I sent her an email to her work that she wouldnt get till next day, just apologizing and letting her know things could still be good between us, but I would leave it up to her to contact me.

How will things work out?

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Answer 1

She wants you, she wants you, she wants you.

If she really didn't want you back she would have done much worse things, so just bide your time and give it a while.

Do not, I repeat do not get together with any other girls for it surely will be the death knell of this relationship.

You are lucky to have her and just be patient, perhaps send her some flowers and Chocolate Strawberries from Godiva as an ouverture.

Good luck to you and god bless.

Answer 2

Whatever you do, don't get a roommate, and don't start seeing other women. It sounds like you love her a lot, and want things to work out, so let her know that. Do something romantic and creative for her. Something that yells out [I LOVE YOU.] And stop apologizing. She's probably sick of it.


The remark about the "dogs missing you" is just screaming out that she's still mad about whatever you did to her, or whatever the fight was about, so give her some time. Also, you may need to rethink your relationship. I don't know what kind of a guy you are, but if I were in your place, I'd tell her to get over herself. But then again, I don't know what the fight was over.

Answer 3

The first thing I would ask, is, "How old are you guys"? Have you been together long, is this typical behaivor from her? What did you do to make her so upset? Whatever you did, dont apoligize anymore. It seems like she is getting upset because you dont know whats bothering her. If you care about her, let her be. Give her the space. Marriage is a serious thing. At least it should be. If she is feeling suffocated in the relationship now, dude forget about the future. Hope it works out.

Answer 4

The best thing you can do is back off and give her time & space. It sounds like she wants to get back together but is afraid. Don't push her-you'll only be pushing her AWAY.

Perhaps you should send one more simple email, (with no more apologies) saying that you love her and will wait for her to sort things out.

You need to set a limit, however, as to how long you're willing to hang in there, waiting. (Don't mention that just yet to her) If it goes on for too long, that's just disrespectful.

Good luck.

Answer 5

How are we supposed to know? If she knew how she felt she would have given her an answer. First of all, someone got vicious in that fight and something was said that is making her re-evaluate the relationship to examine what her true motivations are. Which is probably a good idea. I think you said something that made her think, which is a good thing no matter what the result. You shacked up, you played house....I guess that is better than if you were married and said whatever you did in that fight.....you shouldn't have left but since you did you are at her mercy unless you completely disregard her request and move back in .... which you have every right to do.

Answer 6

i don't know her personaly, but it sounds like she misses you and maybe just needs some time to alone to think. try waiting a day or two before calling or emailing her. If you want to be together, which it sounds like you do, after waiting a couple days, call her and tell her you miss her and can't go without seeing her. invite her to dinner or something she enjoys.(we like it when you plan something special and romantic), and then, at the end of the night, tell her you'll leave if she wants.
if she doesn't ask you to stay, wait it out, she'll call you the next day, no doubt.
p.s. don't talk about roomates.

Answer 7

She just needs time to cool down- give her space. She still loves you and misses you, but needs for you to stay away. Give her some time to get over the fight and show her how sorry you truly are. Once you back off and ignore her for a couple of days, she'll bounce right back. Trust me. This is me whenever my husband and I have arguments. Listen to the song by Gretchen Wison entitled "I Don't Feel Like Loving You Today," It perfectly expresses what she is feeling.

Answer 8

since there is always 2 sides to every story we need to hear what the fight was about. How long have you been together? What is she not telling you? Try some flowers but nothin too heavy.Your not telling us somethin what is it?You asked for help and here we are,but be honest with yourself and us.

Answer 9

Know one knows! how it will work out but if yous are fighting it a good Idea to move on, there just much be someone Else out there for you, you should get consoling, why did you do what you did ,that made her so mad and why did you apologized?
I can tell you this much when love is not nearest it dies.

Answer 10

She is probably looking for you to let her know how you feel about her. Her telling you that she didnt care what you did, but she wouldnt see anyone else lets you know that she is waiting for you. Now you have to let her know that it is her that you want, and no one else (but only if that is the case). What you need to do is sit down and talk with her. The two of you need to share your emotions and how you felt about the arguement. But its best to talk to her in person, that way the two of you are more prone to say everything you need to say and you would be able to read one anothers facial expressions, etc.