Im 24 years old. Im sick of being lonley. I feel like I need the company of someone else. I do date but never let things get too serious and when it does get serious I end it. I have a fear of marriage. Anyone have any good advise? or a good program they used to get over a fear. Please only serious answers. I have dumped sooo many nice guys because Im afraid of marriage.
2007-01-05 03:56:45 · 6 answers · asked by mexchick316 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
me too so lets skip the wedding and go straight to the honeymoon
2007-01-05 04:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid of marriage, too (now that I'm a 23-year-old divorcee). Don't end a relationship just because you're afraid of marriage. Tell the guy you're with that you're not interested in getting married and just leave it at that. As long as he knows not to expect it, then everything should be fine. There are a lot of couples out there that never get married and they are still able to have long, fulfilling relationships. Take Oprah and Stedman or Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell for example.
2007-01-05 12:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by funnygrrl19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to get to the root of your phobia. was there something that happened early in your life that may have caused this? did your parents get divorced? that can leave emotional scars on anyone and make them fearful of committment or marriage.. my parents divorcing left me feeling very vulnurable. i vowed to never allow myself to get with the wrong person. and because of this, i have always been picky about who i even go on a date with..
only other thing, could be these guys you dumped just didn't quite live up to your expectations. could be you are fearful that you will regret it if you stay with a guy who may be nice, but just isn't quite what you are looking for.
no matter what happens, you gotta stay in a relationship for a while. don't let your fears take over your rational decision making.
2007-01-05 12:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably dump them before they can dump you. But that fear is irrational. In life you will get hurt from time to time, but your missing out on a lot of fun. And when you meet the right person you won't fear marriage.
2007-01-05 12:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Susan P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing I can recommend is to move in with "him" or have "him" move in with you for several months that way you can really see if both you and "him" are compatible and if you still feel the love for that person. Dating is one thing....you don't really see the entire person until you live with them. If you still feel the love and enjoy the company (and sex) after a few months or even years after living together, i guarantee you will not be afraid of commitment anymore.
2007-01-05 12:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by dj tresor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smart girl....
2007-01-05 11:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by pooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋