On New Years Eve, I confessed my sins to the Catholic church. I made the priest aware that I had moved in with my girlfriend and was sleeping with her. This, he had told me, was a huge sin in Catholism. In order for God to forgive me I would I have to immediately stop sleeping with her and move out of our house until we are married. She is outraged by my decision. Will our relationship continue to work? What should I do?
2007-01-05 03:40:21 · 11 answers · asked by Jason K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I'm not religious and I think the priest is wrong, but...
Did she already know about your religious feelings? What did you expect the priest to say - you can't have been surprised...? What about your own sense of right and wrong - not just the church's?
You need to have a serious talk with your girlfriend. If you've had a big change in the way you look at the world - seemingly overnight - you can't expect her to understand just like that. Involve her in your decisions. It will be difficult for your relationship to work but you owe it to her to talk it over with her properly. She must be feeling confused and hurt, especially if this came out of the blue.
Good luck.
2007-01-05 03:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by amazingtessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but from your description this guy doesn't sound like your best friend at all. You may be close but a good friend has your best interest at heart and sleeping with you while he has a girlfriend is not in either of your best interest. You say you don't want to go out with him but you are jealous when he pays attention to his girlfriend. Maybe you are more attracted to him because he is with someone else and when he sleeps with you it affirms that she is not enough. But it works the other way too....You need to mature and that means not sleeping with someone who is involved with someone else and, in this day and age, not sleeping with someone just because you can. You deserve to have someone who is only devoted to you - not having his cake and eating it too. But you won't find that until you start respecting yourself more - if you really want to stop you are the only one with the power to do so - so stop!
2016-03-29 09:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were the one that went to confession and now must abide by the decision, if you are catholic, then you knew it was a sin to begin with, So what you need to do is figure out why you needed to confess to a sin you knew to be a sin, and knew that the church would , advise you in order to be forgiven you must stop sinning.If you look at this in this light, you were or are wanting to break up with woman and now you have a good excuse, and as for your relationship with her, no it is not going to survive, and rightly so as you are not adult enough to take the blame for its failure to begin with, as well a be a man and tell the lady it wasn't going to work
2007-01-05 03:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you kidding. Priest are sleeping with little boys and he is telling you to move out and obstain.
God is a loving god adn a forgiving god you do not need a priests permissions
2007-01-05 03:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could marry her and solve the problem that way. But to be honest it doesn't sound like you've been a Catholic very long if this is coming as a surprise to you.
2007-01-05 03:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in and sleeping together is a way of life now.
If you move out and she no longer talks to you, it will never lead to a marriage. So I suppose that's not very wise
2007-01-05 03:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by sugarscamp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.good that you confessed your sins! so who is most important in your life? your gf or God?simple answer! now you know what to do.go brother do the right thing! have a blessed year!
2007-01-05 03:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by niambie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to tell you but the girl will start to think you are rejecting her and that you don't find her attractive anymore!!!
2007-01-05 03:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by jessd2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will start sleeping with someone else.
2007-01-05 03:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u move out I don't think she will stay w/ u....
2007-01-05 03:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by Brandy B. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋