My bf & I have been together for 3 months & we moved in together a month ago. It seems really fast but we have actaully been dating for about a year it just got SERIOUS a few months back. I have never met his family & he tells me that he will only introduce a gf to them if he knows he plans to marry her. He almost introduced his ex but she dumped him before it happend. (she is 7 years older than him & was just using him to get over her divorce, she was abusive, jealous, & cheated on him constantly... every once in a while she will text him things like "I love you, I'm sorry, I know you are not happy with her so leave her for me" even though she has a new BF!) I'm not sure what to do because I found an email he wrote to a friend saying he lives by himself... he lives with me! If it were not for me he couldn't have moved to the a big city like we did. Should I trust him & just realize that he is very reserved or is he emberrased by me? He says he loves me but I don't know... Help
2007-01-05 03:34:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The friend lives in another state & would have no way of contacting his family. He is very protective of his grandparents & I think may have had some issues w/his mom in the past. His ex was his very first gf & first love... but he hates her because he has realized she is not the person he fell in love with.
2007-01-05 03:45:21 · update #1
I want to give him time to love me and fall as deep as I have fallen. But its hard to be able to trust & be patient when he is not even telling people he lives with me. Also around the same time we became serious he decided to get ris of all his myspace friends saying he didn't want to do it anymore and was just keeping his favorite bands as friends to hear about tour updates. I know myspace is a stupid childish thing (we are both in our mid twenties) but it was just kinda another thing to make me feel like he was emberrassed & didnt want me living "hey baby I love you" messages on his page
2007-01-05 03:59:48 · update #2
Should I add that I am Puerto Rican & he is caucasian? It means nothing to us but could it be why he doesn't tell people about me? We are both GREAT and amazing people.... we look gorgeous together! what is there to be emberasses about!? I cook awesome spanish food & I have that crazy Puerto Rican girl Libido!? How can a guy go wrong?
2007-01-05 05:37:31 · update #3
ooooh that's a tough one! I think you should just give him time. Maybe he didn't feel that he needed to all detailed when the told his friend about his living situation. Sometimes people don't think they they should tell everything, you know what I mean. I say just give him time and if he still hasn't introduce you to his family by the end of the month or he's still excluding you when he gets in a conversation with his friends then YES!! (not that he's embarrassed by you) he just doesn't feel so strongly about you as you do with him. That's my take on the situation at least.
2007-01-05 03:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Taylor R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things are simple but we make the answer complicated. all of your findings indicate what you know already. Your boyfriend is imature , proably using you to pick up half of the living expence , knows that your the past the time away chick and as long as you go for it he can have his cake and eat it too.. and I bet you he wants the ex back but she does not want him right now, and dont want know one else to have him either.. plus we buy the cow when you can have the milk for free...
2007-01-05 11:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he might have problems with his relationship with his family. Perhaps his family gloats over his broken relationships and he wants to make sure the realtionship is permanent before involving his famiily. Who is this friend that he told that he lives by himself? Could it be someone who knows his family?
2007-01-05 11:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by mm06840 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your bf has a history on trusting someone. Sometime "i love you" will get the trust, but for his case, it take longer, just plan for a home party. See his friend, bring them in, have lots of your picture with your boyfriend in the house. That way he can't lie.
2007-01-05 11:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a good relationship you should confront him about it. Just be honest and talk it out. Communicate.
2007-01-05 11:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by its_just_me_218 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well from what i can understand here he might just be very reserved or don't want people knowing his business so thats might be why he isn't telling his friends
2007-01-05 11:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by minnie101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ugh... you might want to leave... before it gets worse
2007-01-05 11:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Vee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋