i got divorced from my husband 3 months ago (he cheated on me). In the meantime i met this wonderful man whom i like very much, but whom i love as a friend. I met this other guy, too. He's really cute and sexy, and just told me he wants to "have something" with me. And now my ex says he wants to try to win back my love, after realizing i'm the one he really loves (you don't know what you got till it's gone, right?). Problem is i don't find it in me getting involved in another relationship, at least not yet, but on the other hand...i'd love to, just to prove myself that i can. I know it wouldn't be fair but it's really tempting to just try and prove myself. What can i do?
2007-01-05 03:29:28 · 10 answers · asked by AMBER D 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it - you don't need to. The other guy's already told you he wants to "have something" so you've already "proved" to yourself that you can pull again. Obviously you should steer well clear of your ex too. I've always found a few months on your own can really sort you out and help you get your confidence back. Also you don't want to risk rebounding and blowing things with the cute and sexy guy - you never know, but come the summer after a few months hanging with your girlfriends and getting to know him as a friend he might start to look a bit more like boyfriend material!
2007-01-05 03:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by amazingtessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear fren, i think right now you shouldn't get into any relationship either with ur ex-husband or ur fren. It's just 3 months after this divorce breaking and i think that you are still in healing process, maybe you need to give yourself more time to think about your future, right? Suggest take vacation or concentrate in your career and family. I sure that right now you in blur, but dun do something which follow your emotions but not rational. think twice before fall into relationship again as it might hurt u later in future. take it ez as believe in faith, if the things is belong to u, it will come back to u.
2007-01-05 12:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happy new year
amber-d
can i tell you that i was there where you are now my husband was hitting me, after he left i felt the need to be needed you no to prove my self. amber am not saying that it's bad to feel this way but am saying take some for me time for yourself.
i wise i could tell you all the thing i have been through and where i am now
if you wise email me @ downtownfreddo@yahoomail.com
don't be tempting it is all for a season
2007-01-05 11:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by lines 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really belive in the one last chance so i say give ur ex one last chance and see if he was honest am sure he did somthings that make's him deserve other chance and u guys had good moments2 befor right ? and i don't think u need 2prove anything 4urself i mean if some1 know that he or she can do this thing and about 2do it they don't need 2do it 4prove cuz u already know u can do it u really look like ur strong person and the other guys wont go away they alwayz there , good luck .
2007-01-05 11:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by mohame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to prove to yourself that you can have another relationship.... Of course you can, you already have two intersted guys. Give yourself some time to figure things out.
2007-01-05 11:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by Contessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband cheated on you. you divorced so leave it at that.
He will cheat again
If you don't want another relationship with any one new , just be
honest and tell them you want to be just friends for now
and explain why.
If they are understanding they will accept it.
you may find more than friendship with one of them...
2007-01-05 11:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go out with the other jus to show your ex that your not jus waiting around for him and u can move on...then when your ex continues to call you and see you, you should forgive him. but for now jus make him jealous
2007-01-05 11:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by ANNA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ew dont take hsi sorry @ss back!
2007-01-05 11:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry the new guy.
2007-01-05 11:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by colinsd76570 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD START ALL OVER AGAIN
FIND SOMEONE NEW
2007-01-05 11:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋