I'm conducting study to try and find the real reason why relationships fail. I know that there are many studies similar to this one out there already. So far I believe they fail is because both parties found each other based strongly on physical attraction and not personality. If you can't connect with a person personality wise then all you can really do is stare at each other and admire your looks and the realtionship goes no where. I know that everyone including me has a picture of their ideal soulmate. Once we gather a picture of our soulmate we attempt to go out and find people that fit this picture. I have learned that if you do this you limit yourself severely of finding someone and end up passing up on some really great people.
2007-01-05 03:28:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First and foremost, I believe it's important for both individuals to have a GOD FOCUSED relationship where both of them have a heart after God and love Him first and foremost before loving each other. They both have to be able to pray together in unity and agree in prayer with each other. That's the most important thing to me.
Second, a relationship isn't a one sided thing where one person gives and the other takes. It has to be two people giving in order to make the relationship work. When i say give, I don't mean giving gifts or whatnot. I mean giving time and giving effort to make the relationship work.
Third is a controversial issue called sex. People these days are talking about "doing" other people just for pleasure...they couldn't care less if they loved them or not! Sex should strictly be saved for the marriage bed on a wedding night and from then on out with two people in love.
Hope these answers helped a little and good luck!
2007-01-05 03:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by ღQueenღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that i have been with my husband for 5 years. Once we got married we discovered that we thought of marriage and relationships in two totally different ways. Truth is opposites really don't attract. We come from two totally opposite sides of the fence. I am a college student and he didn't even graduate high school, I find it very hard to carry on a conversation with him and it makes me resent him. As well, a relationship is nothing without trust , communication and commitment.
2007-01-05 03:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Vanessa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first would have to be Communication (because without this the whole relationship will fall to pieces.)
The second would have to be Trust (If you don't trust the person you are with then you will have doubts and doubts can destroy relationships)
The third would have to be Love (If you don't have this then there is no point in going on. This is one of the most important factors of a relationship)
The fourth would have to be Time (If you don't have time to spend with the person you are with then you grow distant and its really hard to mende a relationship when you don't spend time together)
2007-01-05 03:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by The Plague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing to have is honesty and i don't mean being honest with someone else, but being honest with yourself. when you find someone you're attracted to, and you start to get to know that person, you know deep inside , if you have anything i common with that person. ask yourself from the beginning if your attraction is only physical and answer yourself honestly. if the answer is no, just be friends and let that other person know that's what you want and you can also tell them why. they may end up having more respect for you then and it could also stop you from having so many bad feelings towards others.
2007-01-05 03:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by bravo95165 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most attractive to me are guys that collect fish, like plants, have earthly interests, and have a sense of humar! They cant be tree huggers they just have to be spirtual. They have to be trustworthy, very sensitive, and have cute little charachtaristics! THey have to be responsible, loving, and forgiving and be able to to let go as well. They also must be attractive and I dont mean Ken barbie either, they must be attractive in the way that their personality makes them jump out and glow!!
2007-01-05 03:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by renew69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication.
Trust.
You have to be able to connect with the person on a higher level than just physically.
2007-01-05 03:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by elanor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that a relationship requires the following, amongst other things, not necessarily in this order:
mutual respect
communication
open-mindedness
willingness to compromise
common interests
love
2007-01-05 03:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
economic stability is maximum excessive element in any relationship. Love is a good animal yet debt is a beast that comes between many happy and stunning couples recently.
2016-10-30 01:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a cliche' but it really is about communication, honesty and loyalty. If a relationship lacks those, it's doomed to fail.
2007-01-05 03:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by Vena cava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found mine and no he is not what i pictured in my head, but he makes me laugh and makes me think we can debate about just about anything. Our opinions about things are different and that's what i love about him we can talk about anything from A-Z.
You have to be able to talk to your love about anything. They also have to want to be there for you. They have to let you fall and not say told you so because they wont say U CAN'T they will say I will be there for you and support you and if they have to pick you up and brush you off when you fall.
2007-01-05 03:36:15 · answer #10 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋