I went to a party on new year's eve to new years day, and this woman had 3 children a 7 yr old girl a 3 yr old girl and a 5 month old boy. When I went there at 8 the baby boy was on the couch sitting in his carseat. Dangerous of course. From 8 to about 1am I was taking care/playing with her children including mines. When they would ask her something they would distance themselves away from her, and if they did something wrong like not throw their cup away or bring a barbie to the living room they would get beaten..severly. The children don't even have bed sheets. With my children I nutured them and when they sleep I take them to bed and tuck them in, like a mother should! When my 2yr old was standing by the front door he got hit by it when someone opened the door, I gave him a hug and the mother said I shouldn't do that, Tough love she said. Aren't we suppose to nuture and give love to the children? Why show tough love?
2007-01-05 03:05:55 · 13 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She probably shows "tough love" because she grew up knowing that, and knows nothing else. You should try to sympathize with her a little [but also make sure the kids' are heathy and what not.]
2007-01-05 03:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you are describing is not tough love, it's neglect. Tough love is telling your child no they may not have a new toy every time you go to the grocery store, or not giving a band aid for bumping your knee on the carpeted floor. Severe beatings, no sheets on the bed, that's neglect.
2007-01-05 07:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by disneychick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people shouldn't be parents. I think tough love is different than no bed sheets. The reason is to help the child to survive in this world and be self sufficient. I don't agree with it but, I have seen this before. Its scary.
2007-01-05 03:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by someones sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS COMMING FROM A) A BABYSITTER AND B) A SIXTEEN YEAR OLD KID
A) THE KIDS ARE TOO YOUNG TO KNOW WHAT TOUGH LOVE IS AND THEY NEED TO BE TREATED WAYY BETTER. I DONT REALLY BELIEVE IN DHS OR CPS BUT IN THIS CASE IT MAY BE NEEDED.
B) MY MOM DIDNT SHOW ME TOUGH LOVE UNITL I WAS LIKE 12 OR SO AND IT WAS NOTHING LIKE WHAT THESE KIDS ARE GETTING ... IT WAS MORE LIKE YOU DIDNT CLEAN YOUR ROOM YOU CANT GO TO THE HOCKEY GAME W/ YOUR FRIEND.... I AM SUPER SCARCASTIC TO MY SIBLINGS ( THEY ARE 15, 12 AND 7 ) THEY KNOW IM ONLY JOKIN WHEN I TELL THE 15 YR OLD AND THE 12 YR OLD I COULD CARE LESS IF THEY WERE HUNGRY THEY NEED TO MAKE THEIR OWN FOOD ... ITS A TYPE O TOUGH LOVE BUT ITS ONLY JOKING
TOUGH LOVE DOES MAKE YOU STRONGER BUT .... HOW STRONG DOES A 7 YR OLD A 3 YR OLD AND A 5 MONTH OLD NEED TO B?
XOXO
EMILY
2007-01-05 03:18:30 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Emily ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have gooten my children out of there immediately, and I would report her. as said above thats not tough love. that is no love..... and abuse. ough love is saying no and stiking to it, tough love is grounding a teen and sticking to it.....keeping your own children up til 1 am is not a good thing, was there drinkling going on there with the children present? You need to re look at this situation
2007-01-05 03:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by zarem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not tough love, that's abuse.
Tough love is about doing things that aren't always easy and don't always make the child happy, but are the best thing for them.
2007-01-05 03:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by tabithap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 21:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is NOT tough love, it is ABUSE.
Please call Childrens Services and get these kids out of this home, and quickly.
2007-01-05 03:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by siriusblackpearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually thought your question was a joke at first. That's how ridiculous that mother's behavior was....
That's not "tough love". Its neglect, physical abuse, verbal/emotional abuse, ignorance, inadequate parenting skills, inadequate maternal instincts.aggression, and probably a severe inability to love and nurture the way normal parents love and nurture.
2007-01-05 03:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I BELIEVE YOU DID THE WRIGHT THING, ONLY TIME I THINK YOU SOULD SHOW "TOUGH LOVE" IS WHEN YOU HAVE TO STAND YOUR GROUND. MIGHT NEED TO HAVE A TALK WITH YOUR FRIEND. THAT'S CRAZY HOW SHE'S TREATING HER CHILDREN.
2007-01-05 03:10:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋