She recently lost her grandfather to long term illness and was crying last night. I have not lost a family member that i was that close to and felt helpless to console her. What is the best way to ease her suffering and brighten her outlook on his passing. I am dying myself everytime i see her cry. She doesnt do it often at all and i mean i have seen her do it only 5 times maybe in 3 years. Please help!?!?!
2007-01-05 03:03:52 · 9 answers · asked by wannabegamer2714 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just be there for her. You cant take away the pain she feels and will continue to feel. Its life. You have to help her through it. Instead of making it better. Tell her its ok to cry. Ask about her grandfather.She crys right now because of his death. If she talks about him it will take her mind off the fact that he has passed and will give her visions of when he was healthy and alive. And even if she crys its because of all the happy memories she has had and not because of his passing. You are a great guy for caring!
2007-01-05 03:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is the great unknown for most. What you can do is hug her, tell her you love her. Let her know that even if you can not understand her grief, you are there for her. Hold her in your arms and let her cry as much as she wants.
I had a g/f who did the same thing when her Grandfather Died. Had a million wonderful memories of him. I told her that the memories were not going anywhere. The other thing i asked her was "when was the last time you called him?" "Went to see him?" "Saw him?" "wrote him a letter?" for her it had been many years since she had done that. So i told her, "what has changed?" it may not have been the most sensitive thing to say, but it did help her see that her grief and loss were a little silly since she did not take advantage of him when he was alive.
Hope this helps, more then anything, just love her.
2007-01-05 03:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by j m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe take her out for a nice dinner of just the two of you? Or even take your child/children as well, make it a family thing.
Hug her, hold her, embrace her and tell her everything will be ok as you will be there for her when ever she needs you and forever more. Let her cry on your shoulder if she needs to.
I'm sorry for your Wife's loss, and I'm sorry you feel so bad about your Wife feeling so bad.
I admire you for being so caring towards your wife, it's a great thing to see.
-Danny
2007-01-05 04:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by Danny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother was my only biological relative with whom I had positive contact. When I lost her it was like losing my whole family. I am still very sad about it even though eight years have passed. It makes me feel best when someone compliments her "Your grandmother's recipe was delicious" everyone is different and grieving is a complex process, so offer her tissues and a hug. She will stop crying when she moves past that stage of grief which takes different amounts of time for everyone.
2007-01-05 03:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Sugarshots 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold her, tell her everything will be okay and God will take care of her. Her grandpa is better off where he is now anyways. You dont have to say much, just be there for her until she can get past this. Sometimes, words are overrated.
2007-01-05 03:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by dirtytara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she lost someone she really loved? I say just talk to her about it and tell her that he is always looking over her. just remember the good times she had with him and she should be fine after a while. good luck. tell her that I know how she feels. I lost my grandma, grandpa, grandma davis, and my great-grandpa.
2007-01-05 03:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by i_love_rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is be there for her and assure her that her feelings are very normal....when she cries maybe you can hold her ...by the way you seem like a winner to me!!! she is lucky
2007-01-05 03:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do special little things just for her, hold her, tell her you love her and you are there to listen if she needs you.
2007-01-05 03:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flowers, make dinner and just listen to her. Hold her when she cries.
2007-01-05 03:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋