I have been going out with this really great guy for a month and a half. I know we're just kids, but is it wrong to want to have sex with him? We have protection and a place to go but I'm nervous. Im 16 years old. He's 15. I feel like if we do this so many things will go wrong. But we both want to. It would be both of our first times, and we want to share it with each other. We've talked about it a lot and we just decided we should do it. I know people say you get "caught up in your emotions" but I really love him. I know we have protection, and that its not 100% guaranteed, and thats what bothers me. If anything ever happened (aka getting pregnant or an STD) I would die telling my parents. Im just really nervous. What should I do?
2007-01-05 03:03:24 · 16 answers · asked by Molly K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do anything you don't feel 100 % good about doing. That doesn't mean don't do it, it just means you'll know in your heart when it's right. Listen to yourself.
2007-01-05 03:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do it if you're not on birth control. Plus, you both should WAIT. Respect yourself and the relationship you have. If you both truly care about each other, then you can wait. Give the relationship some time to see where it goes. You shouldn't be giving your virginity to someone so soon and at such a young age. Give it a year or so. If you're still together, then go for it, with birth control. And also know this: with sex comes regular visits to a gynecologist. Your parents are going to have to know one way or another.
2007-01-05 11:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by funnygrrl19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a bad idea to do this, you really haven't been together for a long time and are getting caught up in your emotions. If you guys are still together in a year and still feel the same as today then go for it. And if you are going to start having sex, always use protection and you'll need to start seeing a gynocologist.
2007-01-05 11:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Molly, hun, it's normal. Our hormones as teens are so out of whack. I've been in your situation quite a few times. But a month? I know it feels like love, but it's really not. You''ll look back on this and laugh. But no one can or has the right to stop you. It's your body and your decision. But I'm glad you're going to use protection. A condom isn't guarranteed though, as you know. Be sure though that you're willing to accept the consequences of your actions(pregnancy, STDs, relationship ruined, etc). I wish you luck girl. Nothing's wrong with saving yourself.
2007-01-05 11:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a stupid idea.
What is the great ness you have seen in this small boy in one and half month?
This is not your age to go for sex and that to in this tender age. Be sure once you have it, you are going to be addicted just like drugs. Its time for you both to concentrate in your studies.
Dont commite suicide by adopting wrong way, and I am sure you will be in a process of becoming a b itch or a whore.
2007-01-05 11:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by ga ga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly if you are that worried about it then you should wait you may think your ready but if you both love each other then it can wait untill you are both fully sure.love can wait if it is truly love. so talk to him tell him that you are worried about it becauce your protection isn't 100% guaranteed and just so you know no birth control of condom is so do what you think is right but if you want to wait then do you have your whole life!!!
2007-01-05 11:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by love strong with no regrets! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all, its up 2 u and him. If u think u should, then go ahead. But remember, once u do, u cant regret what u had done. But make sure he doesnt want u for one thing. If he do, leave him, if he dont, go wit him and follow you instinct.
2007-01-05 11:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you don't feel prepared physically..seriously if so many things are bothering you, why have sex and let these thoughts worry you soo much?
yes, the two of you may love each other but i think you ought to wait till your older before u have sex with him.
2007-01-05 11:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling my name is molly 2 and i am in the exact same position. We havent done nyfin but e and i wnt 2. i have told him dat i wnt 2 but i am not ready yt. he understood and now we r fine. trust me he is as nervous as u r. i wud w8 ntil u ave been goin out 4 longa, i wdnt trust im so soon. xx
2007-01-05 11:08:25 · answer #9 · answered by Queen Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abstain until you are 18 years old...you can't be in "love" yet, and the dangers of sex are too numerous to mention.
2007-01-05 11:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋