My daughter in the past week has started hitting me, the dog, the highchair, the couch, etc. She doesn't seem angry it's more like she's testing me but I don't want her to think that this behaviour is ok. She has also knocked several people in the head by throwing her toys. What's the best way to correct her behaviour?
2007-01-05 03:02:34 · 5 answers · asked by 10 pts for me? 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
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2007-01-05 03:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by malc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter did that for a while. What I did was the toys that she threw, I would take them away from her. I was told that she would not understand taking toys away, but she did. I would tell her that you threw it away so you dont get it back. The hitting thing wasn't too hard to overcome either. At first I would tell her NO and that it hurts when you hit. After the 3rd time, I would lightly pop her hand. Not to hurt her, but she looked stunned that I had popped her and after about a week of doing that she stopped and I didnt have any problems with hitting or throwing toys again. Even now, at age 4, she doesnt hit or throw her toys, even when she gets mad or upset.
2007-01-05 03:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Tori P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the toys that she throws away, make her sit in time out in a chair alone. Dicipline does not have to be nasty or abusive, but it should be firm and consistent. She has to understand that what she is doing is not acceptable or appropriate. You do not want to allow this behavior or else you will lose friends or have them talking behind your back and saying your child is unruly, bad, etc...
It also sounds as though she is already entering her terrible twos, which are real!!! I survived two boys through it, but it takes patience, dicipline coinsistancy, control, and tough love. She will throw fits at first, but she has to learn that mommy is the boss not the child, as do you. Time out chair, or as the nanny would say...the naughty chair, no toys..no more than ONE MINUTE per yr of age in time out...she is 15 months, she can sit for 2 minutes max, BUT do not allow her to get up, or throw a fit, if she does you must place her back in the chair. NO YELLING, calmness is the key no matter how frustrating it gets. She should also have a daily routine, if she gets out of her normal routine it can cause the agression you are seeing. NEVER reward for ugly behavior, only reward with hugs and kisses for good & proud "big girl" behavior.
It will be trying, but stick with it and be consistent, you will get her to understand.
2007-01-05 03:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by thedothanbelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I vividly bear in mind my baby hitting the "undesirable 2's". He change into 11 months previous and change into crawling in the route of a door to bypass outdoors. I ran ahead and close the door and suggested "no, its getting too chilly to bypass outdoors". He screamed so loud that my father got here operating wondering he had heavily damage himself. Now, shall we glance on the info a million. he had in no way performed this earlier so it wasn't a tried and examined technique of manipulation 2. he had easily in no way considered me throw myself on the floor and cry so he did not study it from me! really he change right into slightly toddler that extremely, extremely needed to bypass outdoors and change into so beaten by the frustration that he screamed in frustration. Your daughter is the same. All little ones are diverse and some mothers and fathers have angels with a lot gentler temperaments so merely smile and nod even as they furnish you with suggestion. They understand not something about the troublesome stuff! toddlers and little ones commence having tantrums because they're beaten by the skill of those new emotions. you want to judge the challenge and act consequently. At 15 months you may't discipline them. Smacking merely teaches them that hitting is a perfect habit. Time-outs do not artwork because they ignore what they have performed incorrect about 2 and a nil.5 seconds into the time-out. Do inspite of you may to distract them (eg. no you may't watch cartoons yet you may examine this great e book). If the tantrum keeps do not supply in because it truly is even as they study a thanks to repeat the behaviour to get what they prefer. even as she hits you carry her fingers and stress her to gently stroke your face and say "gently, strong female" and every time she hugs you, kisses you, touches you nicely supply her extreme praise for it. quickly she will be able to commence to be smooth and then if she's something like my son she'll commence all of it yet over again in six months time (sigh). even as she hits human beings ascertain that all and multiple stops searching at her and make a very massive deal about the guy who she has hit. This shows her that hitting easily receives her a lot less interest. The golden rule for this age is they prefer interest. So supply them a good number of interest even as they do the right component and as low as achievable interest even as they do the incorrect component. in the journey that they throw a tantrum on the floor on the shops and also you may't merely walk away %. them up, carry them far out of your body and gently say "no".
2016-12-01 21:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a time out every time she does it. She'll catch on.
2007-01-05 03:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by oldmanwitastick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋