I am divorced with two children, ages 15 and 7. I am 35 and thought I was finished having babies. I met the love of my life (he's only 28) and he has no kids, but wants to get married (planning to this year or next) and start a family with me. I am so afraid to have another baby so late in life, especially since the chances of defects and multiple births increase with age. He is the only male in his family and his father just passed away. He wants to carry on the name. I love him with all my heart, but I am so afraid. Can anyone offer advice?
2007-01-05 02:56:04 · 13 answers · asked by kimberly 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It is true that your chances increase with age of having a child with a disability. I have a daughter with Down syndrome and I was only 29 when I had her. I did not know she was going to have Down syndrome, and I am glad I didn't know, because I could have let others convince me not to have her. Having a baby changes your life, no matter how many children you have. You could give birth to a genius. Are you ready for that? Your baby could need special attention, or your baby could be perfectly average. The real question is whether you want to have another child, any child. Boy, girl, healthy, special needs, etc. I am married to a man I love very much and would love to have another baby, but I know that it is better for my children that I don't. He would like to have another child as well, but we are 34 and 39 and realize that our best bet is to wait until we are grandparents, then we can spoil the heck out of our baby and send he/she home! I wouldn't have another child simply because my husband wanted a boy, there is too much committment to consider than gender. Good luck with your new marriage and congrats on the kiddos you've been blessed with!
2007-01-05 04:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by redbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all there is only a fifty fifty chance the first child you have with him will be a boy. I am living proof that having children in later life can end in disaster, but you cannot let that stand in your way. The likely hood increases that you will have birth defects, but it rarely happens that way.
I think the main thing you need to think about is do you love him and do you want to have his baby because you love him, and then time will tell whether or not you should have his baby. Also think about the other children you already have, do either of them have birth defects? Do what your heart tells you, and if you love each other and there is suppose to be another child then there will be.
2007-01-05 03:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you could do is do what You want not what he wants. If you really want to have another child then do it. Go to your Dr get a physical with blood tests make sure your not in premenopause. That is where the birth defects come from in older woman. Talk to your children about having another baby see what they think, they might be excited about having another brother/sister in the family. GL with your decision.
2007-01-05 03:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by dietpepsigirl77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 40 divorced with no children until i met my 28 yr old man! We now have a six month old daughter and an incredible little family. I don't regret my accidental pregnancy for a second !
2007-01-05 04:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by coolmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a lifelong decision, but you already know that having had 2 children already. Whatever you decision be, you should make it and stick with it, and let him know as soon as possible, for if you chose not to have his child, then he may want to move on and find someone that does ( Which is fine). I would suggest talking to your Dr., and they will go over the history of your family etc... I know many ppl that had children in their forties and the children are perfectly Healthy ... So decide whats right for you, dont think about him and his reasons but instrad think of you and your reasons for now, and then go from there....
Good luck!
2007-01-05 03:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Why? ... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are not old for having babies yet, so I think you should have his baby if it would make you a happier couple.
On the other hand, he is just 28 and nobody says he would like to be with you for ever, he is too young to know if he really wants to be with one person for the rest of his life.
2007-01-05 03:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by Angela Vicario 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fever is the physique's way of burning off the an infection that your toddler has, so it is not extreme as long because it does not spike over 103 or 104. i could replace Motrin/ Tylenol to maintain your toddler gentle till the fever is long gone
2016-12-19 09:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carrying on a name is a bad reason to have a baby but regardless to that, no, you are not too old. Women have babies into their 40's.
2007-01-05 03:03:28 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 36 and 5 months pregnant. Of course u are not too old
2007-01-05 04:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, let him have a child. I'd start trying now though.
2007-01-05 03:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋