I have a bf of 3 yrs. In the beginning it was great, we'd have petty fights but we'd make up right away. I love him, but I don't feel 100% happy and contented. Lately we've been having really major fights. Like today I confronted him about what I found out. I found out he's chatting with other girls. I've got proof but he vehemently denies it, trying to turn it around. It hurts, I don't like being taken for a fool. He says he loves me but he's lying to me. I can't be with a man I can't trust.
But even before this discovery, I've been having second thoughts about him. I asked God to give me a clear sign, if he's the one for me or I'm destined for somebody else. And guess what He gave me? He brought my ex back into my life! I admit I still have feelings for him. But I'm confused. Is God trying to tell me my ex is the one for me? Or He just wants to show me that I'm taking my bf for granted that's why I'm unhappy? Please help!
2007-01-05 02:53:15 · 15 answers · asked by foxy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Thanks so much to all those who shared their thoughts. I really appreciate it. God bless you all.
2007-01-05 05:07:00 · update #1
It warms my heart to know God is taking time out of completely ignoring people drowning, starving, hurting or otherwise dying, to help Foxy B sort out her love life.
What a guy, that God!
2007-01-05 02:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is the chatting with other girls perhaps perfectly innocent? There's no harm in talking to people and maybe you're keeping him on too tight a string! How would you feel if he told you that you could never talk to other boys? You've got to be sure that you really do have the right information and are not showing excessive jealousy where there is no need for it.
However, if you do have proof of something more than innocent chatting, then it is a serious issue. If you can't entirely trust a person and rely on him to tell you the truth, then he's not the one for you. It's as simple as that. Marriage has to based on trust or it doesn't work.
Don't rush into anything. Keep praying and keep your eyes wide open. May God bless and guide you. Contrary to what one answerer suggested, He has a great deal of time for you, here and in eternity, and He does care about you and your concerns. Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares about you. (1 Peter 5:7).
2007-01-05 03:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by Doethineb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matthew 12:39
He answered, "A wicked and adulterous generation asks for a miraculous sign! "
God wants you on the completely right track with Him above everything else. It sounds like these two problems are taking your full attention, and taking attention away from God. Back off from both people. Get so in-tune with God that you know each step he wants you to take. The rest falls into place. Wisdom comes from God and if you have God living inside of you then you have access to it.
I have only ever had two boyfriends. One who obviously I am not with now and my husband whom I have been together with for going on 6 years, and married to for almost 4.
God couldn't have blessed the first relationship because the guy was not seeking the Lord and I allowed myself to be decieved for a very short time. I am so thankful it ended quite quickly, and instead of saying what next God? I said ok Lord, I want all of you. I don't want to do this dating game. The next person you put in my life, I want him to be my husband, and fill that void and consume me. You see, I stopped looking for a boyfriend. I knew if I never found someone that Jesus would be enough.
My husband was praying the exact thing at the exact same time. It wasn't long until God developed our friendship. We had already known each other cordially, but that was it. I wasn't even interested in him. Until, I saw how in Love with Jesus he was. It was beautiful. He literelly shined. We were friends for a LONG time before we officially got together. The only reason we got together was because we were both on the same level with God.
It doesn't sound like it is the case here. I reccomend you back off, and take the time you were spending with your boyfriend and spend it with Jesus. You will get answers, but know that they might not be the ones you want or when you want them. Know also that if God says no about both of these people, that HE has something so much BETTER planned for you. Trust me, I speak from experience.
2007-01-05 03:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If God's hand is in this, I suspect it has nothing to do with your ex OR the text messages. Instead, it's probable He's urging you to see the situation with clarity instead of through a veil. You now have concrete evidence to show your bf is at the very least being emotionally unfaithful, instead of just having a "feeling." Also, you've in the past tolerated an emotionally unsatisfactory relationship; now, you see this isn't the best thing to do. Again, this is evidence God is prompting you to see the situation for what it truely is, not what you WANT it to be.
Remember, God doesn't make our choices for us -- but He does help us to make good choices IF we let Him. What do you think God would have you to do in this case?
(By the way, unless your ex is a Christian, I would discard this as a "sign." We are told for very good reason not to be "unequally yoked" with unbelievers.)
Peace.
2007-01-05 03:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked and God answered. And remember God doesn't always answer the way we think. It's clear he may be moving you out of the situation with your current bf by bringing your ex back for support, but it doesn't necassarily mean God wants you to be with your ex either. You may not have met the right person yet. See God uses people all the time to help us along our path. And not necassarily for the reasons we think. So, I think you should continue praying and remember what you asked God and remember how He answered. I used to pray all the time for the right guy. For 10 years I prayed this. Finally he came into my life. God doesn't always give us what we want right away. Sometimes he just moves us in another direction for awhile until he is ready to give us what He wants for us.
Count it all Joy
2007-01-05 03:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by Stacey B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your bf is lying to you even when you present him with evidence, how will you ever be able to trust him? I think your ex showing up is a sign that you should move on because you deserve to be treated better. I would pray on this some more if I were you. Good luck and may God Bless you.
2007-01-05 03:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Baby girl let me say God has nothing to do with that if your living immoral so please don't put him in that your living in the flesh which your spirit man does not approve of. You have to be completly satisfied and know who you are in the Lord, before God sends you a Godly man, but when he does you will know, so what i think you need to do is focus totally on the Lord and get rid of them both and find out who you are in God.
2007-01-05 03:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your current bf sounds like a loser anyway. Dump him, then God's plan may come into focus for you. It may be with your ex, or it may be with someone new, but I know that your current bf is not the right man for you, I dont have to ask God to know this.
2007-01-05 02:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by dean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First sign: Your intuition itself has told you that your boyfriend is not right for you because you dont feel 100% happy and contented with him
2nd sign: He has cheated on you.
3rd sign: Your ex has re-appeared.
I think you know the answer deep down but are lonely and dont want to act too rash.
Please put yourself first in this situation.
2007-01-05 03:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by JDJ34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question resides within you due to your spiritual connection to the divine. Instead of seeking answers "out there" take a moment to relax, close your eyes, and focus on your own divine energy. The confusion will clear and you will know the correct course of action to take.
2007-01-05 02:59:47 · answer #10 · answered by gjstoryteller 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋