Ok, basically my sister has been with the same guy for very nearly 5 years, but the other day she asked ME if I thought she loved him. The thing is that he has told her he wants to get married and have kids but if they have a row he says he'd never marry or have kids with her and it's really confusing her.
She met another guy who's only a friend but he tells her that she's beautiful and deserves better etc etc. She told me the other day that she can't even remember the last time her bf told her she was beautiful.
If I tell her she should leave him, she might still love him and regret it for the rest of her life. If I tell her to stay and try to work it out, he could keep messing with her head, never get anywhere, and in the meantime she could have had a really good relationship.
I don't want to give her the wrong advice because I obviously don't want her hurt, but I really don't know what I can tell her that might help.
2007-01-05 02:40:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when people are hurting they will say the most hurtful things they can think off as a defence against their own pain. she must talk to him about how she feels and it wouldn't hurt to let him know someone else thinks she is attractive, but not in a hurtful manner , open and frank is best.
2007-01-10 07:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by elaine g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the fickle personality that this guy has, It is difficult to put up with and it's hard to trust someone who is so adament about conflicting points. And if she want's to be told she is beautiful then she should be with someone who tells her that! (Tho, It does get boring, trust me!)
I've never really understood why people stay in relationships that they're not happy with (although I used to do the same thing!) Seeing as, that's your life that you're wasting and constantly compromising over - I couldn't stand it anymore!
Let your sister know that, There are no laws to say that we have to have a partner, tell her not to be scared of being alone, remind her that if she does get lonely, she can always get a hug from you! - Once she has seen things from this perspective, (that there is much more to life than the lesser half!) she will know whether or not she wants to try new things, meet new people, or stay with this particular guy.
2007-01-05 12:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Honeymist 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must stay out of it..its her choice and I think she knows herself if she is questioning her relationship.
2007-01-05 10:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋