How do parents justify?

Question

So many parents now a days let their kids get away with so much crap. Picky eaters and fits and just doing whetever in the hell the kid wants to do. What happened to good ol' fashion I'm the MOM and that"s the end of it.

Kids need bounderies and discipline. Hell If I didn't have it my parents would be bald. If my kids didn't have it well my youngest would be dead because if he had his way all he would eat is cereal and with his health condition he need good nutrition that takes all four food groups to get.

Well CPS is not an excuss have had to deal with them on several occassions because every time my youngest goes to the hospital and well one of our niehbors calls and say that our kids are home all alone just because my van isn't there and they don't think that my husband is capable of taking care of his children.

Answer 1

The truth is that a great number of the parents out there now had parents that did not care much about teaching them so how can they teach theirs. Yes it was the Hippy generation that really messed up the family relationship thing.

Every time a child does something that seems a little out of the norm it is o the doctor and wala a new mental problem is born. Oh and it could be the alergies causing this. Oops on the other hand it was the school teacher that caused it so home schooling is in order.

I for one can not stand to be around children in the EU or USA.
I want to take the parents and kick their so hard they will have to take off their shirt to....

Yes i am one that has had it with the young.

Would you believe that as old as I am most of the people I really get along with are the youngish but not below about 25. There are some out there.

Answer 2

Probably for the same reason I was such a terrible parent the first time. I didn't know anything about raising kids so I started reading all these books from 'experts'. What a freaking joke! I was worried about damaging his head, you hear all those psychologist stories about it being the mother's fault. I didn't realize it was the mother's fault for not teaching her child self accountibility.
I finally threw the books out and started doing what I thought was right and my kids are so much better now, happier and healthier and they even behave in public!
I have 3 boys 16, 14, and 5. None of my kids smoke, drink, have sex, do drugs, steal or even skip school and no they don't fool me either. I know the oldest one cusses (nothing major like the F word) but I can deal with that. He doesn't do it in front of me, he knows better.
They know what they can get away with and what will happen if they overstep their boundries. But that's just my 2 cents.

Answer 3

One of the challenges of being a parent today is that there is no longer any respect for authority. I think things have changed. There was a time when the rule of parents was stronger and held kids faster. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that being a parent today is tougher than ever before. Blame it on the moral decay of society, the impersonal nature of technology, or the breakup of the home. Either way, contemporary parents feel out of touch with themselves and their children.

The solution is not to turn back time but to open our selves up to our children. Ironically, strength comes through vulnerability. Letting children see our
frustrations, pain, and failure can be a valuable lesson to them. Many parents can’t see the wisdom in being transparent to their children. Already debilitated, they can’t understand why they should give away their power. This notion of power comes from a false parenting authority of “Do
it because I said so” or “I am the parent therefore you must obey!” This is not true strength. This is force. Strangely enough, giving up this false
strength will lead parents to the true power of intimacy, in their family relationships.

Answer 4

Children do need to be disciplined to turn into good caring adults. Child rearing can be difficult. I donot believe in beating. There is a difference between spanking and a beating. Your idea of setting limits is good. A child is not going to do somthing just because you say so. There are so many things that need to be considered as a parent. As well you know. I taught my children that with actions there are consequences. What they might be will depend on their ages.

Answer 5

Picky eaters is not big deal, unless they are in the extreme group. Kids need around 10 exposures to try something new.

However, I believe that parents are lazy or they have grown up without having things and they over-indulge and do not mean to have such spoiled kids.

Besides, there are all of these quacks on t.v. who are constantly telling parents that almost anything they do will traumatize their children for life.

Answer 6

You're right! Kids DO need boundaries and discipline and today it's becoming more and more difficult to raise them properly. There's so much emphasis in the media about child abuse and the definition of abuse, itself, seems to have changed over the years. I know my mom used ta' spank me with a belt when i misbehaved. Not that i condone that, but i don't think she was abusing me. I had misbehaved and i was being punished. She had a valid reason for doing what she did. Now, kids just look at you and threaten to call the police if you try any sort of disciplinary actions. It's one thing to abuse your children, but isn't it a form of abuse, too, if you don't even discipline them at all?? I mean, how will they function in society if they aren't made to follow any rules?

I'm with you..... i just don't get it.

Answer 7

I pick my battles. My kids know that when they get the mom voice or the mom look, that the discussion is over and they will do what i have said...period. That said, I also think it is important for kids to learn that they do have some control over there lives. By kids i am talking more about older ones....my 9 yr old for example. There are instances where I will let her choose for herself and then deal with whatever consequences...good or bad...come out of that decision. How else is she going to learn what works for her and what doesn't?

My youngest always tells me, "i don;t like you" when she has to do something she doesn;t want to. I respond to her, "nobody said you have to like me, but i still love you."

Answer 8

Because now the government is so in your business all your son has to do is complain to the right person that you are abusing him by not letting him eat cereal 24/7 and CPS will be beating down your door to take your son away.

Answer 9

I see alot of it especially since we've had our second daughter we meet alot of new parents, who are trying to do the best they can.

I think alot of parents try to "Not do the same thing their parents did" which allows for looser and looser rules.

When me and my wife found out she was pregnant we talked about alot of htis stuff, I grew up in a stern home with rules, and I wanted to continue that tradition.

And my daughters for the most part people are surprised how well behaved they are, and it takes very little work but staying constant with the decisions you make, make sure that both parents are involved in rules not "Go ask your mom".

It worries me when I see the lack of respect kids have these days to one another and to their elders and where this world is going.

Answer 10

They are too tired, plain as that. Too much going on, too much work, TV, computer, games, stimulation in general. Discipline takes energy and most working (and even some SAH) parents don't have it. I wish families would cut out all the extracurricular stuff they cram down their kids' throats in the name of sports/education/I never got to do it excuses and replace it with actual parenting. Rant over!