My girlfriend and I are both 19 and we were dating for a little over a year. We had an absolutely awesome relationship, and everyone thought we were the perfect couple. 2 nights ago she came out and said she isn't in love with me. I kind of forced it out of her with questions, but she said she doesn't want to break my heart because she doesn't think she's in love with me. I adore this girl, and I want to know if there's anything I can do to try to win over. She's the sweetest girl anyone I know has ever met. Any input will be appreciated.
2007-01-05 02:31:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I may have scared people by saying that I've forced it out of her. Here's what happened in detail. Jess (my girlfriend) and I were at a party at my friends house, and I was getting the same minor vibe from her. The last month we've been dating I've noticed a slight distancing from her, but I think that's because we go to different colleges. Not neccesarily long distance, but an hour away.
Back to what I was saying. We left the party, and I asked her why she seems like she has lost interest in me. After a while of questions, she told me that for a few weeks she'd been feeling a little differently about me. She said that she doesn't see a "big future" in our relationship. I told her that I thought she had the wrong idea about me. I told her "I love our relationship, but it's not like you have to worry about me proposing tomorrow". In a nutshell. She told me that she loves our relationship, but she doesn't have "butterflies" for me. I was crushed, but didn't let it show.
2007-01-05 02:57:23 · update #1
So I got her back. I just totally reversed the whole scenario on her. I told her it was fine if she wanted to break up, because it would be wrong of me to keep her with me if she didn't want to stay together. I told her she had the wrong idea about me and that I screwed up, but that I was fine with breaking up. She totally changed her mind after this. It's all about keeping your cool people.... all about keeping your cool. Never overreact, or she's gone.
2007-01-07 06:27:21 · update #2
Stop asking questions. Actions speaks louder than words.
2007-01-05 02:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a lovely girl there that is honest and true. She must like you a lot, it shows by her beening truthful to you..She has had a awesome relationship with you, thinking of you as a friend. and nothing more.. Now that she is confronted with what you ask of her, she can do nothing else but be honest with you and herself. Be thankful she is being honest and that you know now where you stand. Sometimes a person that is so young, is afraid of commitment, and it and could be so with her.
Let her be and give her, her space, if she changes her mind in the future, she will come back, in the meantime, do not force or harass her.. Have patience, go out and meet other girls, and time will tell... Good Luck
2007-01-05 02:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you pushed her too far and she lashed back by saying what she did. If she didn't want to hurt you, she does have feelings for you. You should try to figure out weather those are feeling of love, like or dependency. If it is love, it will happen. If it is like, with time it could happen, but don't push it. If it is dependency, let her know you don't want to be her crutch. I can tell you are very intelligent by the way you write, but, you are both young, and still have a lot to learn. Maybe she just needs some alone time to figure things out.
2007-01-05 02:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean you "forced it out of her"? If you keep hound her with insecure questions, you're going to get an answer you don't like. More than likely she won't tkae you back unless you can prove you've gained a little self confidence if not, then move on. That's the best thing I can tell you move on.
2007-01-05 02:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jeanny W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Many girls break up with their significant others, is because they need time to figure things out. Don't take it personally, if you want her back, you have to show her you can help her. If you love her then you'll let her go, that's it. Not everybody who you date in high school you end up staying with, the chances are extremely unlikely. So if she doesn't want to, then you need to let her go.
2014-10-24 10:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ask her questions.. dont interagate her.. shes not gonna fall in love with someone who absolutely needs answers.. she wants to be her own person, and i'm sure she wants her man to want her to be her own person, not force her to feel such strong feelings.. she needs to do it on her own.. it never means that you cant get her or "win her over" but you, my dear, and i mean this in the NICEST way, need to relax and act like an adult.. be yourself, lay off.. give her her space.. and she'll come to you.. just show her that your there, and ESPECIALLY dont make her feel bad and make it blantly obvious that you love her more then she loves you.. it will make her leave you, that i can promise you. goodluck babe.. if you need anymore help let me know email me, or message me www.myspace.com/jaimelaine<3
2007-01-05 02:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by .:*BeAuTiFuL*:. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Will...first of all, I'm really sorry about your situation. I know how you feel. (Really) First of all...call her and tell her that your upset..but sound like your strying to make her feel guilty. Then send her a letter and flowers and chocolate...then e-mail her...then......just.....STOP....stop emailing stop calling stop sending things....if she wants to be with you then she will call you or e-mail you....i hope she comes back to you will....i hope i helped a little....good luck sweetie!
2007-01-05 02:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u just pushed her a little much, just ask her again if she loves you, if its a no, move on, before you get too hurt.
2007-01-05 02:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by yuygj2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, theres not much you can do if the girl doesn love you; find another girl.
2007-01-05 02:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are plenty of fish in the sea.. MOVE ON!
2007-01-05 02:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by A.C. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋