She will be 5 in Sept so she'll make the cutoff, she's just so passive and shy that we are wondering if we should wait a year so she's at least not the youngest and most passive shy child in the class. Anyone have any experience with this?
2007-01-05 02:31:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes put her in, I'm guessing she was never in day care and therefore has little experience around other children, she needs the experience to help her open up.
2007-01-05 02:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am shy. Let me assure you that she will be fine. She's not the only passive child there. It will help her come out of herself to be surrounded by other kids. You still have time to get her into preschools like tutor time... and their is always the park. Get her around other kids.
Being shy has nothing to do with education. If you think she is too shy... home school her, but put her in dance classes or gymnastics so she can learn how to cope with social situations. Over protecting her will do her more harm than good. If you hold her back, she'll resent you for it later.
Good luck.
2007-01-05 02:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by lizbeyond1973 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Way too many parents try to hold off their kids' education to keep them "babies" longer and that is never the right thing to do. My son was shy and not used to playing with other kids, and sending him to school was the best thing for him. Chances are your daughter will open up and become better socialized when starting school. She probably won't change any if kept home another year. If she's very bright, keeping her out of school will only hold her back later in life.
Send her to school and give her the chance to flourish. What's the worst that could happen?
2007-01-05 05:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mom to 2 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes a child who displays these characteristics needs alternative relationship experiences in a group. They also may act differently depending on what adult/child figure/s are around.
I think it would be great. If things do not work out how you expect then you always have the option of taking her out. I would go for it and maintain open communication with her teacher about your daughters progress. Sometimes parents get shocked to hear about their child's day as it seems opposite of what they have experienced. She is learning and growing and finding out about herself. She may amaze you or catch you by surprise when you least expect it. She is developing her personality and any and all experiences are great to encourage positive learning experiences.
She will be fine and if there is a problem the teacher should have enough education/knowledge to explain to you your daughters behaviors and what they mean. Do not be afraid to ask......
2007-01-05 02:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My advice to you would be to wait until she is 6 before you enroll her in kindergarten. I have been teaching in a Montessori preschool/kindergarten for over 12 years and in the case of every child who just meets the cut off age for kindergarten or children who are last summer born or early fall born advise the parents not to send them on. It does not matter what they know academically. What matters most is social and emotional development. The trend these days is to hold these children back. Think about how would she do with children 1 or 2 years older than her? Children who start kindergarten early often fall behind. They cry more, have a hard time making friends, playing games, following directions, being on the playground. The other children often see them as the "babies" because they are the youngest in the class. Also, a lot of children who start kindergarten early are held back. They see their peers move on. They feel something is wrong with them because they were left behind.
Over the years I have contacted many former parents who decided to send their child on early. A lot of these children had the problems I mentioned. Every child was held back, most repeated kindergarten, some were held back a grade or two down the road. Every parent who sent their child on regretted their decision!
Also think about her later years. She will always be the youngest. She won’t be able to play sports (they have a cut off age). She'll be a 16 year old in high school with 18 year olds. She will forever try and catch up.
These are some basic skills that you daughter should have before starting school: hold a pencil in an orthodox way, recognize her name, write her name (upper case first letter followed by lower case), know 8 basic colors, cut with scissors, dress herself, take care of bathroom needs. Here is a link to some more readiness skills. http://www.srvusd.k12.ca.us/schools/REGISTRATION_INFORMATION/KINDERGARTEN/Kindergarten_Readiness_Skills/
If she is not enrolled in preschool or does not have exposure with children (one on one and in groups) several times a week, consider enrolling her in preschool (no more than 4 days a week and no more than 3 hours per day). Many Montessori schools offer this option.
Spend some time helping her to gain some confidence. Stop saying "Good job!" Saying "good job" is an extrinsic motivator. If you are a parent who says "good job," your daughter will only care what others think about her instead of caring what she thinks about herself. Instead, say things like "You did that by yourself! You can run super fast! Look how high you can climb! You worked on that for a long time! You used so many colors on you picture!" These types of phrases are GREAT confidence builders, GREAT ways to show attention, and GREAT ways to help her to feel powerful in a positive way. I do this as a teacher, and I see amazing results in my students when it comes to building self-confidence!
Offering choices also helps boost self-confidence. "Should we have chicken or pasta for dinner? Should we walk or ride bikes to the park? Do you want to wear the green shirt or the blue one?" Children who are offered choices feel very powerful. You can also have her help with "adult type" activities. She can help you with dinner, making snacks, cleanup, or shopping for groceries. She’ll love it!
Please, give her the "gift" of another year! Hope this helps! Good luck!
2007-01-05 07:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being very shy is more reason to get her in an environment where she will have to learn social skills. If she has not had a lot of exposure to other children then definitely. Children need to interact with children.
Besides interaction, kindergarten provides the child with essential learning building blocks in a fun and intereactive environment.
2007-01-05 02:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by smedrik 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is your country? In India - particularly in urban areas - people put their kids in a Play School as early as 2 and half years, Pre KG at 3 and half, LKG next year and so forth...
I have seen kids put in a Play School (run under Montessori trained teacher) adjust very well soon, thanks to skillful handling of the teacher.. but there are a few very timid and reserved ones too... who feel very home sick... perhaps because the parents have never taken them out or allowed to mix with other children in the neighborhood... or just as shy at home as well...
Such kids may be taken to school bit late, after giving adequate exposure.. or consult a trained child teacher.. good luck.
2007-01-05 02:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by goldenage 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as if the social interaction Kindergarten provides would be good experience for your daughter.
Let her also spend time with other children in your neighborhood to help her social skills, especially if she has no siblings.
She may never be the natural center of attention in a large group of people but she needs to learn to hold her own rather than hide away.
2007-01-05 02:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by Alex 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have an extremely shy child who has turned 9 yrs old. I honestly don't think any amount of preparing.. is going to change their personality.
For instance we have a younger daughter about to turn 3 yrs old and she is the complete opposite of her shy sister.. outgoing and *not* shy.
I am sure your daughter will muddle through Kindergarten just fine.. will probably just always be on the shy side of things.. or quiet.
2007-01-05 03:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by Momto2 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
u should probably put her in kindergarten b/c she can meet friends easy in kindergarten. my sister just met the cutoff and she is rather shy and ahe made soooooo many friends in kindergarten. in fact she has a b-day party to go to at least twice a month. it is really cute. so if u ask me i think u should do it because they feel more mature and express themselves more and more and the kids there are glad to make new friends also. DO IT!!!! u could also ask her to c what she wants. Dance classes or gymnastics also help shyness. good luck
2007-01-05 02:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i'm 13 now and that i began in 5th grade and that i became kinda imbarassed. throughout this society tween girlds may be very harsh and rude. i might defiantly ascertain she is shaving by technique of seventh grade cuz in center college that is going to easily worsen. or make a cope along with her and tell her if u get all A's u can or enable her start up in 6th grade and u men can meet interior the middle:) wish it facilitates sturdy success:D
2016-12-15 16:20:28 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋