my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 3yrs. we have alot in common and have lots of fun together. but lately i think hes only with me for the sex. he calls me rude names, and igonors me when i text him or call him, he'll just have me on the phone talking to some one else or tell me to hold on and hang up on me. i love him but hes acting a littlw werid and i dunno what to do... help!!
2007-01-05 02:20:40 · 17 answers · asked by DaNi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Having a boyfriend is a relationship that takes two. It seems as if you really care for him but aren't receiving the same kind of feelings from him. Don't be used. If he just wants sex then let him find someone who thinks less of them self. Don't lower you standards of being a girl who hangs on just to have someone there. You know what you really want and if he cannot be that person for you then cut you ties with him and allow yourself time to get over the feelings you have for him. It's not easy letting someone go that you love but it's harder to continue to be hurt by the person you love and waste your time on someone who doesn't want to be with you. You deserve to be treated only how you allow someone to treat you so let him go if he can't be the guy you really want.
2007-01-05 02:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by alymarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you like how you are being treated then you need to "dump him". I had a some what similar problem. I was with my Boyfriend for over 2 years and we were living together. If I didn't have sex with him when he wanted then he would totally ignore me. Some nights I would say that I just wanted to watch a movie and "cuddle" and he was not interested in that at all. He wouldn't even come in the same room as me. That gets really old. Then you start to feel like that is all you are needed for and you do not need that. There are a lot of guys out there that will love your company and companionship without always wanting sex.
2007-01-05 10:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is a three-option problem. You can either: A.) dump him for the negative reasons but still let him go nicely; or B.) If you really love him, then try going to couples counselling, maybe you can work it out with some help; or C.) you can talk to him about your problems with how he's been acting and maybe find out the reason and mend the problem yourself.
2007-01-05 10:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should.
do you in any way feel loved, or cared for, with the way he's acting?
if no, then you should drop him flat.
if, however, you do feel love emanating from your guy (in your direction, of course) then perhaps you should sit him down and casually, gently, but also firmly let him know that this is really bothering you the way he's acting and that he should make some changes so you'll be happier.
hope this helps somehow. :)
2007-01-05 10:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by sparklene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not respecting you and you let him continue with that behavior then it wont stop. You have to put your foot down and decide what you will and will not put up with, if this is something you dont want to continue then you have to stop it. Tell him that you love him but you cannot put up with him treating you like this and you will have to break up with him if it does not stop immediately. If it happens again- be strong- and break up with him. If its meant to be you guys will work it out, if he loves you he will miss you and things will work out. You have to love yourself first and foremost.
2007-01-05 10:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by paradiseintn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give him sex when he wants. Woman use sex to get love and guys use love to get sex apparentley. So if he's lacking on the love side then he should'nt be getting any from you.
2007-01-05 10:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
when you typed in the details, did you notice all the negative things he's done to you? what do you think? you dont deserve some jerk like that
2007-01-05 10:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. he seems like he is a jerk now. You deserve better. It could end up being abuse so I would leave asap.
2007-01-05 10:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him becuz he loves u like he says he does than he wouldnt treat u the way he's treatin u
2007-01-05 10:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by mickeyrtz@yahoo.com 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not respecting you nor are you respecting yourself buy allowing this to continue. The choice is yours, not his.
2007-01-05 10:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋