I know there's a lot of stress and things to take care of....but, geez, it seems like we can't even talk about the wedding plans anymore without argueing. Advice anyone??
2007-01-05 02:18:10 · 16 answers · asked by angel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, in 200% of all cases you will argue, see what men fail to realize is that girls start planning their wedding when they are born!! We keep with us this concept of what our perfect wedding would be, some of us actually start making a scrapbook of our wedding plans in our late teens!! and then the men come along and try to change things, not they they are doing it on purpose to hurt us, they just don't understand. Now most importantly, marriage is about compromise, and when people expect things to get easier they end up getting a big surprise because they only get harder.
I have been married for 5 years now and I love my husband more then anything on this earth, (except my son), and I can honestly tell you that you just have to learn to give in once in a while, or just say, honey I love you I don't want to argue with you. Don't always give in because then he will think that he rules the house, just let him win enough to keep him happy then make your changes accordingly to make sure everything is good for you. Honestly, unless it is a food(what to serve) he will not even notice the difference!!!!
Good luck and Best Wishes
2007-01-05 05:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by lissa7903 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of couples seem to argue alot during wedding planning. The main reason is that everyone has a different opinon of how the wedding should be. Most of the times I will tell the bride and groom to write down what is important to them for their wedding, and that is what I put them in charge of. That part. But most of the planning is usually done by the bride without the grooms input. ~ wishing you best of luck!
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2007-01-05 02:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by Heather C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not all couples argue... Just the ones who put too much emphasis on the party decorations & little unnoticable details... and not on the important part of the gathering of friends & family for the ritual of uniting the couple they all care about.
Stress happens...
It's the pressure the couple puts on themselves or dare I say the bride puts on herself for everything to be perfect.
That kind of perfection doesn't (or rarely) exist...mostly due to the fact that there are too many people involved.
My advice for you...
Relax, breathe, smile, listen carefully and realize countless couples have gone through a similar process... it's up to you and your fiance to choose to go through it calmly & discuss issues or argue and set up resentments that won't easily dissolve once you are married.
Know things are going to go wrong and sometimes you can't fix it in time...
My husband & I got through our planning by bringing our ideas to the table and talking them through... together.
Trusting each other's opinions, we both comprimised on different things. This is a good warm up for marriage let me tell you... if you are argueing over the planning what's going to happen when the real serious stuff comes up later?
When ever someone's stress level or voice started to raise the othe would say..."Hey, is it necessary to start getting upset?" Then we'd calm down and see it was silly to let it get to us.
We kept a sense of humour throughout with a healthy respect for the planning... it's no joke, it is a happy occasion.
But as I understand it, arguements usually arise because of money.... When that happens be calm and let all whose wallets are involved have a say/ share their idea and see who has the most sensible input.
There are plenty of websites with wedding etiquette that may help with this too.
That's all I got today, hope it helps a little.
Good luck with the planning, your wedding and your marriage!
2007-01-05 15:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gigi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, all couples argue about the planning. It's a stressful time compounded by the demands of decisions and deadlines.
Try to respect his time and don't bring it up if he's having a rough day or is tired or has something else major on his mind. Even though we want our answers NOW, it's worth the wait to keep peace between you.
Hopefully, he'll catch on and do the same for you.
Congratulations and good luck.
2007-01-05 03:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I have not had alot of arguements about our wedding.Surprisingly, we argue about other stuff unrelated to the wedding.As a guy there are some aspects of a wedding that he does not really care about example the color of the table cloths.So I gave him things to do that he is interested in like working with the dj to select songs or going to pick out a suit and buying the liquor. He helps me with other stuff as well but I give manly assignments. Face it, planning a wedding is alot of girlie stuff and most guys do not care.
2007-01-05 02:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the wedding planning process will ever go so smoothly that a couple will never squabble, but i don't think it's good to be fighting a lot. My fiance and I have had a few minor disagreements, but for the most part we've been working together and haven't been having many big problems.
2007-01-05 03:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by katskradle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, its pretty much as bad as it gets right now - so.... you have nothing to lose. Which is good. That means that from here you can pick yourself up, dust yourself down and get ready for the not so easy but nonetheless rewarding adventure of parenthood. I think he should be at the birth if only so he can see how much pain you have to go through to deliver his baby. It sounds unfortunately that he has had a mini freak out and decided to cram as much of his 'single and free' life in before the baby gets here. Its no excuse but scared men are stupid men. Once the baby gets here he might change, once the baby gets here you probably will change. You will realise that there is only one important thing and that is the baby and how you raise your child. Be strong, good luck x
2016-05-23 05:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because they have different opions on what they would like and how they would like it done!
Mosty argue also because it's there special day and they don't want anything to go wrong.
Another is that sometimes they my have very different opions on what kind of wedding they may want.
One may want a simple wedding just close family and the other may what there fairy tale wedding.
Its just different opions but don't feel bad in the end you all will just laugh
2007-01-05 02:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by I can be your Juliet 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know I did argue a lot with my husband when we were planning.
I think it was a combination of stress and wanting everything to be perfect.
He took the mentality of "it's your wedding, do whatever is going to make you happy" which made me mad. In my eyes, it was our wedding.
Good Luck!
2007-01-05 05:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by baadfishii_35 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to first sit down adn figure out why you are arguing. im planning a wedding right now, and i find it easier to draw out my plans of the way i want things, and then sit down with my fiance and see what ideas he has or what input he wants to give.
2007-01-05 02:25:39 · answer #10 · answered by a cutie n va 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋