There's a girl in my class who I really like. We used to like each other for a while even though we didn’t talk that much. Anyway, it now seems like she really hates me for no reason and I think that she knows that I still like her. When I start talking to her it seems like she's trying to ignore me... I think it could do with the fact that I talk to other girls more than I do to her (these girls are her friends). Would totally ignoring her for a few days do any good? I'm thinking about asking her why she hates me so much. What should I do!? I would really appreciate your honest advice.
2007-01-05 02:08:37 · 11 answers · asked by ari90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe she doesn't share the same feelings as you do? Have you ever thought about that?
Love is not forcing someone to like you in the way you like them. You can't make someone love you romantically if they don't feel that way about you.
Playing games like playing hard to get or testing a person to see if they will pay attention is not the best way to go.
You could also be reading into things that may not be necessarily true about her hating you. Maybe she's just not interested in you romantically.
Sometimes people back away when ever they sense that someone may show interest in them. Perhaps she may have done that with you?
2007-01-05 02:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hate seems a stron word. i dont think she hates you, she just doesnt like you in that same way. sometimes its hard to accept that simple truth, there is really nothing wrong with it. people like or are attracted to different things. if you enjoy talking to so many people then you should have no problem meeting someone else, and if that person doesnt share the same feelings either that accept that also. why is that so hard. you seem to be creating an illusion and unnecessary pressure on yourself. just accept it. to ask if you should ignore talking with someone becasue you think that could manipulate her into talking with you is wack, and unreal and unfair to her and yourself even if that was the solution, which its not. be yourself and let her be herself, if people are meant to be more than what they are it happens by itself mutually, do you really think you need a game to figure that out. i wish you luck in life, if you are not trying to be a player, if you are trying to be a player with all her friends, then that is what it is and thats no secret to her and her friends, or if she just doesnt share that way of thinking, accept it and let it go. this may not be what you want to hear, but it is honest advice.
2007-01-05 02:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by doctor d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing to do is to play games with each other. I would refuse to be pulled into her behavior, which is manipulative. It gives you an excellent idea of what your life with her would be like if you became closer. If she is treating you as if she hates you, then assume she doesn't like you, doesn't want to have anything to do with you, and go on with your daily life. Don't ignore her in a pointed way, but just treat her as anyone else. In relationships it's best to be as transparent as possible; you shouldn't allow yourself to be "tested." You may not like to hear this last point: you like her a lot (you say "love"--I doubt that), but it will soon dim, and you will find someone who reciprocates your feelings and is honest with you.
2007-01-05 02:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by Antonio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once in this same situation. And now I'm married to him. LOL When i would show him attention he would blow me off. So after a long time of putting up with that i said NO MORE. And as soon as i showed him that i could move on he got scared. Then he showed he how he really felt. That he was in love with me!!! So as long as this girl knows you will wait all your life on her shes going to take advantage of it. If its meant to be shell let you know . But it sounds like your still young. Just take your time. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-01-05 02:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by amydevtrev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are nervous about talking to the one you really like and talk to her friends instead. I know it well myself.. I would guess that she actually likes you and is acting as she does not care or maybe she is angry because you are (in her eyes) ignoring her. Just try to approach her as honestly and openly as you can, and try to feel what you want. I think she is waiting for you! Good luck!
2007-01-05 02:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kamran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, DON'T be P*ssy whipped it's not right, IF the girl is ignoring you maybe it's because
(A)- She doesn't have any interest in you
OR
(B) She is playing hard to get most females play hard to get for the man they really have interest in. Just ignore her for a little while and see what happens, (Not to the point she thinks you don't like her anymore-Just to the point, Where you are playing hard to get as well).
That's my advice to you...Take it or leave it dude!
Jackie
2007-01-05 02:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make sure that she knows u like her and u should never ignore her unless u kno that she doesn't like you just always be a friend unless u both agree that u like eachother but when she is ready she will let u kno
2007-01-05 02:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have to ask her why she is behave with you like this ?
but, i advice you that love them who loves you, not them who hates you.
so, good luck...
2007-01-05 02:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by rana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST GIVE HER SOME TIME TO COOL OFF OR IT DEPEDS ON HOW LONG SHES BEEN DOIN IT
2007-01-05 02:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone that loves u back
2007-01-05 02:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋