How do u stop the heartache?

Question

OK here is thing!!! My mom passed away when I was 15 and i am now 18. What i am worried about is that all of my sisters and my brothers have gotten better!!! Like they are able to think about her without crying and only being able to think about the way she passed away!!! my question is how can I make this heartache go away and start only thinking about the good times that we had with her instead of the bad?!?!?! plz help Tell me what to do?!?!

Answer 1

I'm very sorry to hear that about your mom. I'm not going to pretend to know what you and your family are going thru. I think it's good that you are trying to think about the positives. I think you are off to a good start. Maybe you may need further assistance like going to a professional to talk things out and to say how you feel. I hoped that helped

Answer 2

Hi there!!!!
My dad passed away when I was 13, and the pain was so bad I do not think I could ever find the words to express myself. He was everything for me.
Time passed by, I survived even though I thought I would die.
I did many things through out the years, so let me give you some pointers on how I got by and still do

I wrote a letter ( for my eyes only) and expressed all that I had deep within, ( it took me more than a month to write because I would cry and have to stop) I wrote from my heart, expressing my love for him, my frustrations , my anger of him not being here,ect.. when I was done with the letter I went to a safe place a burned it. As I watched the smoke go up into the air I felt that I was letting go of all of the pain , all of the anger and frustration.

I would read self help books, also the bible

You might find yourself trying to find a female figure to fill that emptiness you feel inside, that is normal, just be careful.
Remember everyone deals with pain in a different way, your siblilngs have gotten better, that is good, you can and will get there too !!!!
Honey it is painful to lose our mom or dad, remember all the good times you had, all the things she taught you. She lives within the very essence of your soul. It took me almost 15 years to not feel a sharp pain in my chest when I mentioned my dads name or thought of him. Today I am able to speak, or even write about him, and I feel joy deep within my heart, I feel blessed that I was his baby girl and he was my daddy. I feel blessed that all I am today is thanks to the wonderful foundation he gave me. Have faith my child, have faith.
It will get better over time.
You can begin a hobby also, that helped me. I began to ride horses. I found it to be so exilirating and fun.I would feel as if I were flying. Forgetting all of my pain.
Do things that make you happy. Please be careful and NEVER do drugs to try to forget, this will never help you, but make things worse.
Get a pet if you do not have one. Going to a shelter and giving a pet there a second chance in life is wonderful, and they do make great pets, like if they knew (and they do)
Chin up honey, and just remember, if you need some more advice we are all here for you. I will pray for you and your siblings, but mostly for you.
May the lord embrace you
may he shine his light upon you
remember you are special and very much loved
Love light and peace

Answer 3

Having purely found out my ex resides with a woman youthful adequate to be his grandaughter who he became seeing as quickly as we've been nevertheless mutually, I so be attentive to the way u experience i found myself doing the comparable element, very almost drove myself mad, i might desire to extremely experience my pulse raging whilst i began on it, like a record I couldnt turn off THen sometime I realised i became purely hurting myself, I sat down and wrote a catalogue of each and all of the flaws he did incorrect and a letter I never published asserting each and all of the flaws i needed I had suggested to his face THEN I gave myself somewhat mantra THIS TOO WILL bypass every time my concepts started on its cycle i might say it, it had the effect of pulling me up and making me keep in mind how a lot i became hurting myself yet in addition appeared to cease my concepts happening its merry go around After some weeks i found I wasnt questioning approximately it any have been close to as a lot, sturdy success

Answer 4

Find some photos of you two together where you are smiling or laughing, and find photos of happy days.

Remember the happy times. when a bad memory comes into your mind, try and think of something happier and put your mind on that. It will become easier in time, but everyone takes their own time to grieve and sometimes it takes years and years.

Try to be happy for yourself too. If you are really sad, talk to photos of her. It does help.

Answer 5

Ok here is what you do. first you have to forgive YOURSELF for the trouble you caused her, Then start remembering the good things and stop dwelling on the bad.It's hard I know I lost my mom and had to go through the same proses.

Answer 6

Well, Honestly..you must think what does your mother want you to do. she wouldnt want you to cry when you think of her. She would want you to smile and do great in life. Shes watching over you, and everytime you shed a tear shes watching you. When you think of her smile and tell her you will make her proud. ^_^

Answer 7

everyone's greiving period is different. you should try to make a scrapbook with pictures and things that remind you of her. it might be hard to do but it may also help you feel better.

i'm sorry :( i hope this helps

Answer 8

. go to her grave and "talk" asking for her for help to move on and pray everynight. write her a letter and leave it at her grave to make you feel better too.

Answer 9

it will probably stay there forever.. my step mom also passed away its very hard.

Answer 10

u have stop thinking about it and move on