Daycare Rude?

Question

Just wondering?
Well, I am a stayhome mom.
I was left needing a daycare at the last moment.
I decided to leave my 3 year old at a daycare.
She already went there 3 months back.
I took her out because she got sick alot
and cried also.
Well, I decided to check on her ,the lady says
she is fine and drawing pictures.
BUT SHE ADDED,NEXT TIME PLEASE
GIVE US NOTICE BEFORE DROPPING HER
OFF.
WE MAY BE SHORT HANDED WHO KNOWS.
Someone tell me am I being too sensitive?
Do they not want me to bring her?
Or do they just not like me..I was a bit
nervous bringing her..but tried to be nice.

Answer 1

God bless.

Answer 2

You're being too sensitive. but then again, I didn't hear her tone of voice when she told you that.

I think that they are only trying to help you realize something as a SAHM you wouldn't know. That is, if the daycare is full, and you had another emergency where you can't take your child with you; you really should have a back up daycare because you are not a regular.

Being a new mom is much harder to do than any job because you don't even know what questions to ask because often you don't even know what could go wrong.

Answer 3

well, i worked in daycare for 4 years.
they probably dont really care if you bring her, but really would just like some notice, at least a day.
many times if someone has called in sick or there are lots of children out some classes may be combined to require less teachers, but just one more child can put you over the state legal limit then what are they supposed to do? just call ahead next time and i'm sure everything will be fine.

Answer 4

They are just telling you to call before you come incase of a situation where they don't have enough staff what is so wrong witht that? You could say is having my daughter in case putting you over the limit for the amount of children you have if so its not a problem to take my daughter out until there is more staff or more room so that everyone is safe.
NY Daycare Provider

Answer 5

Licensed daycare homes and daycare centers have rules regarding child to adult ratios. I have been a licensed daycare provider in my home for 20 years and have cared for about 50 children in that time. When a child leaves my daycare then I no longer keep that child on my rolls. A daycare center will also do this. Just because you used to take your daughter to a particular daycare does not mean that you can just return any time you need. I provide some "drop-in" daycare, but this only means that I have families who will call needing daycare but I can only accept them if I have enough room that day. I am licensed for only 6 children at one time. Daycare centers require enough adults to meet the ratio quota. I don't think that the daycare doesn't want you to bring your daughter there, but they MUST have advance notice of your need prior to you dropping her off. I am sure you did not mean to be, but from a daycare point of view, I think it was rude on your part to just show up at a daycare with your daughter assuming they had room and adequate supervision that day. When a family leaves my daycare I do not expect to see them show up on my door step one day. I am sure the daycare accepted your daughter because they had room for her, but it would be polite to call ahead.

Answer 6

I think you might be a little too sensitive, as long as they weren't TOO rude to you. Running a day care is a lot of work and having last minute drop offs can disrupt their cycle. Just try to be considerate that they're doing the best they can (at least I hope) and that they do tend to get run down. Chasing after one little one is enough to wear you out, try chasing after multiples. I'm sure they didn't tell you those things because they don't want you to bring your child, but they were probably stressed out a little. And I don't think it's because they don't like you. Best of luck to you. I hope this eases your nerves a bit.

Answer 7

If you pulled her out 3 months ago and hadn't been back or payed to keep her spot open then they didn't have to take her at all. And I'm surprised they did. They have a certain ratio of adult staff to children that they have to meet and have to know how many children will be there each day in order to have the correct number of staff. Be thankful they helped you out and next time give them some notice.

Answer 8

I think you are being too sensitive. They have laws to follow about how many children there are for each adult. If you bring you child in unannounced and they are at there limit, they could get in trouble if there is an inspection that day. Or the other parents might be upset because less time is spent with their children.

Answer 9

I think you are being WAY too sensitive. While, I was not there and the tone may not appeased you..

They are governed by the law in reference to staff to child ratio. So for instance in Virginia, infants are 4 to 1 staff..well say they already had 4 and you went to drop off your child.. well they would have to either turn your infant away or get another staff member..
I would say it would only be common courtesy to call ahead and that was all she was asking for.

Answer 10

Yea, this place was rude and you're justified in being concerned about their behavior. Look, I did the same thing and pulled my kid. The one lady who watched my son was fantastic, other's, no so good. I watched as many of the children sat in bouncy chairs for 45 minutes doing absolutely nothing. My son also became ill. I wondered as a new parent if I was concerning myself over nothing, afterall, I wanted him to gain "social" skills as some books point out. Wrong! I want my kid(s) to be safe and in an enviroment that fosters growth. I keep you in business, I pay your wages, if I'm a parent who is concerned, you better listen to what I say when it come's to my child. Never forgett he pen is mightier than the sword and you can do a lot of letter writting. Hey good luck to ya!

Answer 11

well, they need to be able to prepare for the day, what if the teacher was already at her max # of children, what if they didnt have enough food because 10 moms did the same thing.

I would have called myself, but maybe it should have been said to make you feel better about her request. Im sure it was just the delivery of her request/