I wrote about my guy friend who "can't get a date to save his life" in 2 other posts. He is very insecure & self-hating. He is a nice, very inoffensive person, yet b*tches at the bar are really mean to him(1 or 2 times, he literally got slapped at hello!). People suggested that he find a nice church girl, but he is NOT the church type! He is AFRAID of chuch & feels guilty when he (rarely) enters one! He told me that he's waaay more liberal than most churchgirls he's metThey also suggested him finding girls at places of "nerdy" hobbies, such as libraries, video games, etc...but he's not into any of that stuff either! He could *try* to get into video games, but it'd be more as a way for him to try to get girls than anything else. So basically, he's too inscure/shy for the obnoixous bar scene, but he also doesn't fit in with the churchgoers, computer geeks, etc either. He doesn't seem to fit in anywhere! (Oh and PS, I am NOT an option for him)He's at a big disadvantage. What should he do?
2007-01-05 01:45:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He could try the Unitarian Church. They're not religious in the traditional sense, their membership is generally VERY liberal, and people tend to be nice.
He's got to work on his insecurity just by getting out there and being social. Surely he has a few interests. He could try volunteering, taking a photograph class, joining a hiking group, getting into a softball league, or something like that. All are great ways to meet women. Even if he doesn't find a girlfriend right away, he's boosting his self-confidence and meeting people who could potentially introduce him to a girlfriend down the road.
Basically, your friend needs to stop making excuses for himself, and start using the options at his disposal. Dating takes effort and a willingness to face disappointments on the road to success.
2007-01-05 02:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he looks at you when you kiss because men are stimulated visually. he probably just wants sex or he wouldve slowed it down a bit. if you go for friends with benefits, dont go into a relationship because then the relationship will b based on sex and nothing more and it wont work (i've learned that the hard way) and you'll just end up heartbroken. i mean, there's nothing wrong with friends with benefits in my opinion, everyone needs to have their needs met, we are sexual beings. he draws back maybe to get you more interested, or maybe he just doesnt want to get too involved because he just wants to hook up and b on his merry way. i mean, i wouldnt b surprised if you're not the only girl he talks too.. and as far as the astrological **** you put up there, it wouldnt make a difference what his sign is, its the same for everyone in this situation, ive been there done that.
2016-05-23 05:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do blind date
hook him up with some u think will be good for him.
also try not to look all desperate by looking for someone for him.
why?
b/c he might feel even more insecure when thing don't go his way. so i suggest to be his friend than being his dating service
there is someone for everyone out there and believe me when the time his right, he wouldn't even look for it and the girl he been looking for will show up to him.
don't put presure on him, make him understand that u guys should enjoy live and stop looking that it will happen when the time is right.
2007-01-05 01:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy maybe nice but a church girl is stupid to date someone who doesn't share her beliefs. If he's smart, he'll re-evalutate his desire for a church girl especially since there would be no shared interest. Is it because he doesn't want a girl that has "been around?" You have to be what you want. . .
2007-01-05 01:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by Chick-a-Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋