what should say to my father?he was diagnosed with liver cancer and it has spread to his bone?

Question

i really want to make him happier.i feel very guilty because i can not do anything helpful!

Answer 1

I am sorry to read about your father but it is very difficult to advise you since we do not know anything about you, your father and his prognosis. You know how, as a family, this sort of subject is discussed, if at all. Has your father been told that nothing can be done for him and so his remaining time could be short? Or, has he just been diagnosed and so any treatment is still in front of him and he may have a good life span left? The answer to these questions should provide you with the clues you need to work out what to say.

You should not feel guilty since you cannot be expected to be able to help him medically. However, the most important thing is to be there to listen to him and to help him physically and spiritually if required. If you can, go with him to his hospital appointments. This will give you a better insight into his disease, what the future holds and what his needs are likely to be.

The very best of luck to you both.

Answer 2

Oh I am sorry to hear this bad news. Best thing to do, is just be there for him and with him. Do things together, go out places together and just talk...it will be nice, just try to be happy, he wouldnt want to see you down in the dumps, he will want to see u happy so try your best, i know its hard. My mum was diagnosed with cancer in year 2000 and also died that year, the cancer had spread within 3 months, I dont want or mean to scare you but I am just telling you from past experiences. Just be there for him. Now my father has been diagnosed with heart and kidney failure and I am trying my best to make him happy, but aslong as you are there for him, thats more than enough you can give, its the only thing you can give, its the best you can give, just think about that. Your father will obviously understand that and am sure he knows thats the only thing you can do.
I hope this helps and sorry if i have scared you.

A very important note: Make sure you tell him you love him every single day.

Answer 3

What is there to say that hasn't already been said? Just be there for when he needs you. There are all sorts of things you can do to be useful in the days and weeks to come. They will become obvious when the time is right, like when he fancies something special to eat or drink, or maybe a book to read.
I'm very sorry to hear the bad news. When things like this happen there is always a million things we want to say, yet we can't think of a single thing at the time.
But a friendly smile and a squeeze of the hand speaks volumes.
Blessed Be!
Marcus X

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Its really difficult to try and be positive in a situation like this. You just have to be strong and be there for him. So much can be done these days and you have to keep telling yourself that. My Mother has recently been diagnosed with secondary breast cancer (spread to the brain) and this is the 4th time she has battled cancer....went to chest wall and then the lungs. I get days when I just break down and cry. I know exactly what you are going through. Try and remain positive! My thoughts are with you!

Answer 6

Just be there for him and use the last of his time letting him know you love him. Make memories that you can tresure forever. Three years ago my grandma was diagnosed with Emphasema, a terminal illness caused by smoking. As the months passed, she got more and more poorly and struggled to breath. We knew she would never get better so I made sure i told her I loved her every time I said goodbye, in case it was the last time. I spent as much time with her as I could and when she died under two months ago, I was so happy that I had told her I loved her as I would have spent the rest of my life regretting it otherwise.

Answer 7

Give him a big hug several times a day. And tell him " I love you".
As doing stuff to help him, just do the every day things. Things he may not feel up to doing. I am a breast casncer survivor and it meant the world to me to have help. I was also my mothers care giver through 17 years of Parkinson's disease. I'd do it all over again in a heart beat.

Answer 8

first i like to say im really sorry to hear ur news just be there and be urself talk and do thing just like u used to go out have fun the best u can from a personal experience enjoy each other relive those special moments

Answer 9

In addition to what the others said, you should also just listen to what he has to say. If he's terminal, he may want to tell you stories and things he wants you to remember. You can also ask him if you can record some of your conversations as well.

Answer 10

Sad news. Just be there for him to talk to. Listen and involve him in things. He'll appreciate having the support so try to be strong for him at this difficult time. If he wants to talk he will, if he's not ready to discuss his cancer, please don't push him. Try to do practical things for him to help out too. Take care.