Why is it that people who don't have kids, KNOW EXACTLY how to raise yours?

Question

ShrimpD, you are very long winded, with very little that you are actually saying.

Answer 1

I KNOW!!! It's amazing isn't it? We have so much to learn from the childless...maybe it's because they're getting all the extra sleep at home or have the extra money to blow on themselves or get the better projects at work. Gosh, I'm so jealous at their infinite wisdom...

Answer 2

Would you take advice from a child-less teacher? That'll be me real soon, so I hope parents will not blow off everything I say.

I remember working at a summer camp, some of those kids were there 12 hours of the day, 5 days a week. I did pass on some advice about the children. I knew I was spending way more time with them than their parents were. When they got home at night, I'm sure they just ate take-out, and went to bed, so that they could be sitting there at the summer camp at 6:30am waiting for it to open.

Also, some parents think their children are angels, that they are perfect and do nothing wrong. I know that I am not the only one who sees that many children are in fact not perfect darling little angels, and sometimes parents need to hear it from someone else. You can still go home and ignore me, but that's you choice.

One more thing....Everyone agrees that "It takes a village to raise a child"- does that mean that everyone in that village needs to have kids otherwise their input is no good?

Answer 3

because human beings without youngsters see what they dont like in youngsters and take a verify out to make you conscious of it. you're evidence against their undesirable habit because you're round all of it day and characteristic realized to settle for it. That doesnt make it ideal to at least something of society, and also you want to study that this isn't ideal. I, who has no little ones, might want to not ought to placed up along with your undesirable behaiving youngsters. women human beings or adult men that were divorced can nevertheless pull from their peronal reports and understand what works and what doesnt. Be extra open minded and savor that there are different those which have already been in a similar adventure than you're in. do not commence to imagine that your challenge is unique. Be open minded and be prepared to hearken to those which have extra adventure than you.

Answer 4

Ha ha ha! So true! I have two kids and still am trying to figure things out. So much I thought about raising kids turned out to be total poop! You need the actual experience of raising children to actually have an opinion about it.

Answer 5

They don't. They just know how to give good advice. Let them alone with your kids for a day, and they'll have the kids running on the roof with butcher knifes and playing tag with the cars driving by on the street. People always like to act like more than they are.

Answer 6

Because they DON'T have kids and therefore have the time to see the problems. Just because they don’t have children, doesn’t mean they can’t see or hear what’s going on. And, they look objectively.

People without children don’t know anything about a child’s antics/problem? Wow, talk about a narrow minded attitude. Is that like saying….A non-parent is qualified to watch your child, but not qualified to bring up their problems? A non-parent is qualified to work at a child day care center, but not qualified to talk about the child’s behavior? A non-parent is qualified to become a kindergarten teacher, but not qualified to talk about the child’s problems?

I listen very closely to people without children when they bring up my kids. I don’t necessarily agree with everything they say and how they think I should fix the problem, but most of the time the underlying point is valid and should be addressed. I love my kids too much to just ignore someone's comments because they don't have children and I don't like what they have to say.

We all become complacent and eventually turn a blind eye to our children’s antics or problems for many reasons. Maybe we’re too busy with all the other things going on in our life. We’ve got a lot on our plate these days.

And let’s just face it; know one likes to hear that their kid is/has a problem, we just don’t want to see it. Most parents won’t see or admit to a problem because they feel it somehow makes them a bad parent if their child is a brat or has a problem. “My kid isn’t that bad”. “My kid wouldn’t do that.” “My kid usually listens; I don’t know why he’s acting up today.” The problem is that there's no reprisal today for bad behavior. Isn't that a great message to send to our kids!

Well, if we just ignore everyone because they don't have children and we don't like what they said and don’t do something about it, then yes, we are bad parents.

We all think we’re doing fine but let’s face it; sometimes we need to sit back and really take a look at our children. People without children have a lot more time to look than we do. And, again, they can look objectively.

Are they brats? Can you take them in public without them being annoying and aggravating the people around you? Do they listen when asked to do something? Are they polite? And the all important question (which most kids don’t have today) is: Do they have respect for others?

Most of the time the parent wants to be a friend to their child. Perhaps they should try being a parent first. The friendship will come when they’re older. My parents were strict & demanding. I was disciplined and loved. I'm not mental, neurotic or distrubed and my Mom is now one of my best friends. We need to give our children a chance to be good, stable adults by starting them off on the right foot. And, if listening to meddling people without children helps us do that, then who are we to deprive our children of that chance.

I refuse to be the type of parent our society is turning out today - the one who won’t take responsibility for their own actions. Let’s blame everyone else; it’s the way of the world, it’s it? You see the kids doing it all the time now days - I wonder who they learned it from. Just remember, your child’s behavior is a reflection of your behavior.

Answer 7

I know exactly what you mean!!! If it's a friend or a family member, let them watch your kid for an entire day and see if they know so much about raising children at the end of the day.

Answer 8

I wonder that myself sometimes. Some people think if they babysit other people's kids once in a while it's just like being a parent. I have also had people who don't have kids compare my kids to other kids they know and compare me to other mothers they know like they really understand what I or they are going through.

Answer 9

The difficulties can be seen exciting from distant. So some people are eager to give other people many advise .Just smile and say thanks.But dont take it serious

Answer 10

Know it alls are everywhere. Jsut ignore them and raise your children as you see fit.