I wanna take it to the next step.He's a gr8 guy.Except when it comes to intimacy.He scared to talk bout it in front of me.Although i do know he wants it.Let's just i cud pick up some explicit hints from his body.And oh yea we have common friends so i checked with them and now im sure he's str8.So wot shud i do wait a while or seduce him?...coz he's 19 and im 18.lol he shud have made the first move by now.
Should i just push him to the wall and give him a handjob?
2007-01-05 01:30:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that, when one says "take the relationship to the next step," they really mean that they want the sex and whatnot. I really REALLY believe that that should be saved for the marriage bed, not for you boyfriend now matter how much you love him. If you really really do love him and wanna spend the rest of your life with him, why don't you marry him and have done with it?! Just a sugestion...
2007-01-05 01:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by ღQueenღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intimacy can be scary when you don't have much experience with it. It can also be difficult to talk about -- as a woman I dated put it, it's sometimes easier to have sex than it is to discuss it.
I think the answer with your boyfriend is to start with the most basic kinds of intimacy (hand-holding, kisses) and work your way up. Accept that he might be a little uncomfortable at each step. Communication and respect are important. Tell him about your desires, but assure him that it's perfectly okay if he wants to go slow. Don't pressure him in any way -- that always kills the mood!
2007-01-05 01:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seduce him. hand job or face time is good, the next time you're making out just keep going and when you (you said be specific) reach in his shorts, you'l know real quick if he's interested! And something tells me, he WILL be. Don't over-do it getting dolled up, most guys find a casually sexy girl more attractive than a dressed up model. Answer the door in just a short skirt he can reach up, and a Tshirt. You'll do okay!
2007-01-05 01:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last line you wrote sounds like it would be fun for you, but don't do it, you could scare the hell out of him. LOL Take it slow, but do talk to him about it. Don't let him change the subject. Let him know how important it is to you that you do talk about it. You are both still quite young. It takes boys longer to grow up and talk about stuff like that. I am 45, and my BF is 46 and I still have to push him to talk about the state of our relationship. You should fell lucky, most men at that age are all to eager to get their girl in the sack. Perhaps he is giving it time to see how real the relationship will be before he commits himself to an intimate relationship.
2007-01-05 01:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely have a serious conversation with your guy before you do anything that either of you regret. Maybe he has personal or religious convictions that are preventing him from moving to the next level. Or, maybe he's waiting out of respect for you. Either way, you two need to talk about this first.
2007-01-05 01:34:33 · answer #5 · answered by qtpie831 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would not sound such as you have a shy guy, yet a deferential one. sit down with him and tak to him approximately it, clarify to him your needs and desires. additionally, for the reason that he does sound respectful, maximum probable if it incredibly is his first and your first, even no remember if it is not, he will in all probability elect it to be a memorable romantic night. not basically some rapid boffing in his discern's basement. you have a voice, use it and communicate over with him, make helpful it is the marvelous time for the two considered one of you too.
2016-10-30 01:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having a similar problem.....in my opinion you will only push him away if you try to seduce him..If he becomes intimate with you when he's not ready, you will probably not enjoy it anyway.
the best thing is to do is to let him come when he is ready. Because if the situation were turned around you would want him to wait for you.
2007-01-05 01:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldnt do anything, wait for him to make the first move, maybe he really likes you and doesnt want to ruin your relationship and wants to do it when time is right...GOOD LUCK
2007-01-05 01:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like ur bf is not into u, I gurandamnteez that if ur gonna spread ur legs, aaibmiester will not disappoint u.
2007-01-05 01:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL THIS WHAT YOU DEW..THINK ABOUT UR FIRST TIME..YOU DIDN'T WANT TO RUSH THINGS BECAUSE YOU WANT IT TO BE PERFECT RITE? WELL MAYBE THAT'S HOW HE WANT IT TO BE. HE MITE NOT LOOK AT YOU AS TO HAVE SEX WIT ALL THA TIME. HE LOOKS AT YOU AS HIS PRECIOUS CHARM AND WANTS TO CHERISH IT FOREVER. SO I THINK YOU SHOULD WAIT UNTIL THA TIME IS RITE. DON'T PUSH HIM INTO DEWIN IT OR YOU MAY PUSH HIM AWAY. LET ME KNOW WHAT HAPPENS.
2007-01-05 01:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by ~*BuGs*BuNnY*~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋