ok guys.going out with a guy for nearly a year.discovered he has a profile on a dating site.and been chatting to other girls.
confront him about it and somehow hes turned me round to thinking this is acceptable as ,in his words, it was just flirting fun and he was never gonna meet up with any of them.he insists that it was just a sexual kick and that it was never going to move into the real world so to speak.
all my girlfriends are outraged at this and mad at me for not kicking him to the kerb.
so whats the deal.is this a man thing ?? or is he just a cheating toad who i should dump quick smart.
i should say we actually met on a dating site too.but as soon as i realised we were going to be together i took all my details off the site.hes not :-| :-|
2007-01-05 01:22:25 · 15 answers · asked by pc confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i do love him and he says he loves me.were not 2 young teens here.i was just wondering what the male opinion is on this.my girlfriends say that if hes not single he shouldnt be on a dating site.as it is i forvive him.but just wanted others opinions on this
2007-01-05 01:38:44 · update #1
He's not happy with you and he's trying to line something up before he breaks up with you so he doesn't experience any 'female down time' when your relationship ends. There is no other explanation.
2007-01-05 01:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by screenwriter_usa 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is chatting to other girls (on a dating site) then he is a step away from meeting one and going further. The women on the site are looking for relationships or something similar, that's why it is a dating site. If he was just talking then he should have gone to a chat room. Additionally, why would he go through the trouble of creating a profile? I agree, kick him to the curb before he takes the next step.
2007-01-05 09:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Mugwump 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously!!! It depends on a couple of things: How much confidence do you have in yourself? Do you feel threatened by "cyber competition"? And, do you trust your boyfriend? Guys and girls will always enjoy the magic of flirting. It's a human quality. I'm sure you flirt too. If your heart remains pure, flirting is great.
I like it if my wife flirts with other guys. I get to take her home! And I trust her 100%!!!!
2007-01-05 09:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem? You asked him, he admitted to it and told you his reasons. Either accept that that is what he does or don't. Is he going to cheat on you because he flirts with other girls on the internet? I doubt it but if you have trust issues you should probably call it off. Otherwise I wouldn't worry about it. Hell, maybe you should join him. Flirting with other couples can be fun!
edit: @the_pharaoh109
Well said!
2007-01-05 09:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lies, he's keeping his options open and searching for new girls, and if he found someone that tickled his pickle he'd definitely meet up with her. But yeah why get mad; I mean, are you 100% sure that he is the guy for you? You're not checking out anyone new? Unless you can tell me he's the best man for you, no need to get worked up about it.
2007-01-05 09:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, it is a man thing. we like to always feel attractive and wanted by other women. some men will take it further if given the chance. the apples are dangling in front of him, its only time before he takes a bite. he needs to remove those apples if he loves you. give him a chance if you believe him. but only one chance. but the famous comedian chris rock told the truth when he said "a man is only as faithful as his options". but i'd say that goes for women also.
2007-01-05 09:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by beechjb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First question: Why did your girlfriends need to know?
Second question: Has the sex between you two dropped off?
Last but not least: Do you want the relationship to fail?
If the answer to these questions make it worth your while to end the relationship, then do so. Do waffle, don't invite everybody you know to analyze his behavior, make your decision and stick to it.
2007-01-05 09:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ita only a matter of time when he meets, one or more of them.. Insist he deletes them and not visit them, if he does not, then you have your answer. Its better to he hurt now, then later when your more deeply in love.
2007-01-05 11:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating. If he is in a relationship with you, he has no business "flirting" with other women on a dating website.
2007-01-05 09:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your taking of his needs 100 percent he probly wont cheat.If he isnt taking care of yours.Lose him.
2007-01-05 09:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋