this guy has been chasing me for ages.
We have met up a few times and kissed.
after we have met up, he doesnt contact me and he ignores all my messages. why is this???
months later, hes back on the scene and the same thing happens again.
he does want to take things futher sexually.
2007-01-05 01:20:48 · 31 answers · asked by hunni!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When nobody better is around he wants you..he is a scumbag.
2007-01-05 03:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of coarse he does! Don't do it. Unless you want to for yourself. This guy is with you and then something better comes along and he dumps you until that is done. This kind of person is no good, there is nothing good to come from it. Move on. If he pops in and out of your life and you allowed it even once, you are toast. Go out and see how he continues to shop even when he is with you. DONT TRUST that he will ever be loyal. Have fun and let him chase you for a while. then say no.
Don't sleep with him, it will become all about that and the only time he will give you time is when you do it.
Pat yourself on the back, make a good decission and don't let people like this that don't put you first in your life, it becomes a pattern and you will end up thinking less of yourself. You will make decissions that aren't in your best interest because he brought you down. MOVE ON NOW>
2007-01-05 09:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by kpd2020 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's not in it for you as a person, in my observance of the examples you gave. He's there to fullfill what his needs are at the time with disregard towards you. Take the kissing- you met up a few times and happened to kiss then afterwards he just ignores you until the next time you meet up... think of the same scenario, but change out the details from kissing to sex... do you want this guy to come around every once in awhile to "do you" then ignore you until the next time he feels like having sex with you???
I hope this has made you think and open your mind. If you analyze my answer and your situation, I think you can able yourself to make the right decision.
2007-01-05 09:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some guys have an infatuation that fades when some kind of contact has been made. Don't lose too much sleep over this. Just believe and know youre a good catch and move on. Before you hook up with this guy ask questions like "Are you a huge player?".
2007-01-05 09:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by Asianfmle 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if its the guy you want to be with but you want to take your time then keep the man at a safe distance.if he really wants you for more than just sex he should give in over time and start to make an effort.Start ignoreing him,let him text and ring you instead then dont answer back for alittle while,make him jealous by flirting with other men.But its your choice at the end of the day and if he meets you once every blue moon then its more likely he's playing the field the rest of the time.U should get rid of him if its that worrying for you.There's plenty more oysters in the ocean.
2007-01-05 10:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by prettypete 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Think about why he chases you. What is it that he really wants from you. Looks to like me like you let him conveniently come around whenever he wants, which by all means is your choice, but why waste your time on someone who comes and goes whenever they please? He obviously doesn't want any kind of relationship, or he would be around all the time, and want more than something physical. He's playing a game with you by ignoring you. Where do you think he goes when you don't see him for months. Turn the tables and ignore him.
2007-01-05 09:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by alymarie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like there may have been someone new in the picture that's why he was ignoring you. And maybe the relationship (or whatever it was) with the other person is over and he is trying to get over it with sex with you. Even if I'm really off think about; he chases u, hooks up with you, then absolutely ignores you do you really want that .. i mean him?
2007-01-05 09:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by skris 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Break contact and run - he is a user and abuser. Or accept the fact that you will get hurt and keep on going after him. It never ceases to amaze me that you girls convince yourself that you can change a "bad lad" and get him to reform. If that is you then stand by for heart ache . . .
2007-01-08 12:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by 31Alpha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have sex with him he could either:
1. Keep acting the same way he has been acting and you won't hear from him until he wants some more nookie
2. Screw you every chance he gets. If you're giving it up, why not stick around? That doesn't mean he's taking you out, but he will stop by when he's in the mood.
2007-01-05 09:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've got a guy just now chasing me as he is only after one thing - and he actually says it! We get on well, but I'm not interested in being used. And told him so - then he seemed surprised as he's not used to girls resisting his advances!! Then he got a bit nasty (in a jokey way of course!) and made a couple of comments like I'm not laid back etc. Stick to your guns hun and tell him your not interested. Then find yourself a real man.
2007-01-05 09:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Cat burgler 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He just want to have sex with you. He will ignore you the same after he gets it. Maybe he remembers you only if he wants sex adventure. Be careful with this "hit and run" tactics. If you see him again ask him about his true intentions to you and don't get easily duped by it. Take time until he proves it to you. Meeting the people close to him... especially relatives will be of great help.
2007-01-05 09:43:43 · answer #11 · answered by wynx888 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋