Questions every good ***** wants answered by the females in the world?

Question

1. Why is it that a ***** like Tyrese can punch his girlfriend in the stomach and she's pregant with his child and she stays with him?
2. Why is it that the ****** that cheat, beat there girlfriends up, curse them out, stay out all times of the night keep there girls around?
3. Why do females sings songs like the Fantasia song"I need a hood boy", or Shareefa "I need a boss" and go after guys like that and when they get a good one that does anything for them they run over him, and use him?
4. Why do people use the words I Love You so damn lightly?
5. How is it oyu can say you love someone and do **** that makes them feel like they are dirt and then say well I didnt mean it im sorry now forgive me and forget about it?
6. Why does love suck so damn much?
7. Why do relationships suck so damn much?
8. Why is it so hard to hold on to something good, but so easy to hold on to something bad?

Answer 1

I dont know if i can answer man... I do know that I love you right now... you did not actually ask a question... you brought up a subject...
What i do know is that things are EXACTLY as you described them... and the worst is that allthough almost all of us went through sh1t like this we keep diving head first-mouth open to a new sh1thole each time...
Personally i think the problem is that we like, as a race, to suffer. We destroy everything and everyone around us. We have done it so much throughout the lifespan of our existence, that it has become a trait rather than a flaw... And when someone appears who thinks differently, acts differently, wants to care about us and treats us with affection we think that he wants something from us.... It is so strange to realise that some people actually have feelings for us... And most people never do. They get into relationships and are never certain that their partner has feelings for them.
Most choose, subconciously, to adapt to this selfdestructing line of thinking and act exactly as you described. In one way or another.
Love has been degraded to a base emotion. It has been degraded so much that we fail to see it when it comes...
I am sorry but i cannot continue... I am so sad right now..

Answer 2

Alright, lotsa questions, but I may have answers.

For a couple of your questions, they refer to the whole "bad boy" type thing and why women stay with them. Well aside from causes such as the media, movies, globalization, social and family upbringings, they all boil down to psychological behaviour. A lot of girls, of any ethnicity, want a guy that they think (and often say they know) loves them (so in answer to question 4, people say it because it keeps the relationship going, which they get a feeling of attachment for, sex and possibly other things, even though, whether they realize it or not, it means nothing to them) but they also want someone who won't be too clingy and needy, because they have been brought up in whatever way, that makes them see that as annoying. The main thing is, that many girls want to feel loved, and they will do anything (including letting the guys get away with so much) just so that they can believe that it's real. When the guy says, I'll never do it again, she wants to believe it, so she does. They don't want the good guy that will never do anything like that to her, because they are seen as boring, not rebellious enough, and there's a lot of loss of sexual attraction, because the excitement creates small doses of adrenaline, which result in sexual attraction. Also, there is something to be said about the "my boyfriend could beat your boyfriend up" idea. They also want a sense of security, which a "wimpy" (this is obviously stereotyped) nice guy doesn't look like they could readily offer. It's hard to hold on to that good thing when you are being too nice. A lot of the time, if you look on a deeper level, if someone constantly gives a girl stuff, like money, jewelry and such, the girl will think that's all it is, take what she can get from it, then leave it because they got no deeper connection from it. That plays into the idea of "hard to get" which also seems to attract certain women.

Answer 3

1. I would have taken a sharp object to him in his sleep, so not all women are the same.
2. One possibility is that so many women grow up with deadbeat or abusive fathers in the world today that they just do not know better. I say this out of experience and lots of therapy.
3. I don't know.
4. maybe that is true maybe not. I've fallen in love a lot in my life with lots of different people. Sometimes it sticks and sometimes it doesn't. If it doesn't it doesn't mean you weren't in love.
5. I don't know, but I've been at both ends.
6. It is not easy to be so close and so emotionally attached to another person. Hey, love hurts.
7. You can not get along all the time. Then you would be complaining that the relationship was boring. However, if it really really really sucks a majority of the time then it might just be a bad relationship. This is nobodies fault.
8. I don't know, but I wish I did! :)

Best Wishes!

Answer 4

I think you need relocation to tell you the truth. It seems you are only looking at the cup half empty. There are so many things out there and you are just stuck in the wrong croud, or watch too much tv.
Understand that media is a simple way to entertain everyone, and another thing human beings are like monkeys unfortunately they like mimiking others.
However saying that , some people see get away from all that because they see the world differently. I think you need to learn more than what is being taught to you there , and experience things for yourself.
Media is playing most of us like puppets. We kind of can anticipate what certain people do, that says that no one is being unique anymore, and that most people are insecure, cause they either have had bad experience or they would do certain things if they were in their partners shoe. Therefore, there is no trust out there , love and trust go hand in hand.
look at the cup half full and you will see how you start lookin at the world

Answer 5

Well the world is not a perfect place. I hear Tyrese did not punch her in the stomach but hurt her leg and arm. Who knows why people stay in "physical abusing" relationships. Some wont tolerate it, like me. Some people are just attracted to abusiveness as it is all they know so they think it is okay. Well its not and it should not be tolerated by anyone. There are some females out there who are caring and gentle and will love you for who you are and treat you with the respect and caring that they want to be treated with as well. Dont give up hope.

Answer 6

OMG, there are decent guys out there.

Girls stay because they are stupid and because it is easy. If he has money, they will stay for the lifestyle.
If they have been emotionally and mentally abused for a while, they will not have the courage or mental strength to leave, or they fear they will be stalked or murdered by their boyfriends if they do leave.

Anyone who abuses - verbally, emotionally, mentally or physically - their partner has serious issues themselves. Even if its just repeating behaviour they learn from previous relationships or parents, or just plain issues. And they take it out on the easiest target - their girl/boy friend / partner.

Relationships suck for you because you have been unlucky and have only dated b*tches so far. I hope one day you do meet a decent girl.

Because holding onto something good takes a hell of a lot of work, from both people, and if both people aren't into it at the same level of effort, then it will fall apart. Holding onto something bad - only the weaker one has to stay for it to keep going.

Answer 7

A lot of it is a control thing. violent men love to be able to know that they have control over women and knowing that they can beat the crap out of them and they keep coming back. some girls are either really stupid or it is all they know. it is really hard to explain but i do wish that things would change, that children are brought up well and the parents teach them to never allow someone to hit them. i left my ex-husband not because he abused me but he didn't know how to love me and i didn't want my daughter to grow up and think that this is what a couple should be. NO, now she really knows what love is suppose to be like b/c of the way my fiance and me are. my child is the sweetest most lovable little girl in the world and i am going to teach her never to settle and to never ever let anyone hit her and get away with it.

Answer 8

If by any chance these things are happening to you and of course you are the one they take advantage of, let it go. Maybe you are also finding the wrong women. And for all your why questions those women are the ones with low-self esteem the ones that probably as a child have been exposed to abuse,neglect and molestation. Relax my love that right girl is out there some where and she will find her way to you. Just be sure to not let any one take advantage of you. Good-Luck & Happy New Year

Answer 9

You seem a little confused about the male/female thing and it is not surprising. I think we all go through something like that early on. The problem is that the generation before yours didn't give you guidelines and set examples so you don't know how to live. Really. It is normal for young people to push the boundries, and that is a good thing. No advancement happens without effort. But you still need some rules and your generation was never taught to obey rules. Nor were you taught that nothing is free.
America still has a core of steady, happy people living in stable familys with roots, traditions, expectations and support groups.
Here is some old fashioned advice about love, sex and relationships. Children who are raised in a home with a mom and dad learn from what they see. If dad beats on mom, they think that is how to act. Alcoholic parents often have drunks for
kids. Parents who show each other love, respect and commitment, who are civil to each other and share respondsibility for keeping the family together, almost always have kids who grow up looking for the same thing in a mate.
Kids who have no self-respect and are not taught to respect others never know how to make a relationship work. If you have a job you know you have to '"get along with" your fellow employees. But people often go home and treat their mates like they are trash.
OK, you wonder about the girls who put up with being beaten, degraded, misused? No one has ever told them they are special, deserve respect , are loved for themselves. They believe they are worthless so it doesn't matter what you do to them, they think they deserve such treatment. Listen to the music and lyrics and understand that a lot of girls believe it.
They are not the majority, though, and if that is all you know of girls, you need to change your friends group.
I have no idea of how old you are, you sound pretty young, but I'm sure you feel you are a man, not a boy. There are women out there who don't give sex or love lightly. They know they are valuable and want a man who is worthy of them. Not some play boy. They are grown up and want a man who will stand with them as they make a life. Sure there will be hard time and arguments, but real adults work through those times. Look around at the "boys and girls" who are pushing their 30's & 40's and still are not adults. They are the ones who are easy to hold on to because they really don't know who they are and suspect they may not really be worthy of another persons respect or love.
Don't waste your time on them. Don't expect causal sex with a woman who values her body. Don't bother with the whiners or the push-overs.
Love doesn't suck, relations without respect or committment suck. Casual sex deadens the senses. Say you use your best shirt to wipe the windshield with. It's not your best shirt anymore, it's just a rag. But if you value that shirt, keep it clean and wear it proudly it will last a long time and still look good.
Now look at you list and think about how you can avoid all the bad things on it. Don't bother with a woman who don't respect herself. You won't be proud to be with her. Don't say or do mean things and expect a good woman to put up with you. She will know she doesn't have to take your c**p. Don't say "I Love You" just to get some gal in bed. If she goes for it, you know she doesn't know what love is. When you find someone good, be good to her or she will leave. Easy things are not worth much. A C.Z. is pretty and easy to buy, but a diamond will last a lifetime and you will always know you have something really special.
It takes some doing to find a good mate, but when you get to my age, and can look back over 50 years with the same lover/mate, it is very nice. Being old and alone is not something you want to do. Now go find yourself someone who can be your friend, your lover and your equal. Not just your "punch"

Answer 10

1. Ok girls stay with guys like tha because either 1)they dont want to be alone or 2)they are scared the guy might hurt her or the child.
2.Some girls like bad boys too.
3.Insecurity...not thinking that they deserve a good guy.
4.Honestly...i couldnt tell you the answer to this one...people have jus lost value for love is all.
5.That person just isnt right for you.
6. Love isnt supposed to suck...hence..its not love.
7.Relationships are supposed to be joyous...you shouldnt feel like you are a piece of crap when in one...if you do...get out!
8.Life isnt easy. Thats all i can say!