My 6 year old son doesn't understand / ignores the meaning of beeing grounded from going out or banning from the tv, computer, games.After he ignores the punishment i doubled it but he ignores it again so we arent getting anywhere. How i should handle this problem?
2007-01-05 00:50:38 · 13 answers · asked by Rock On 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
God bless.
2007-01-08 16:33:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really expect 6 year olds to 'police' themselves when you ban them from something they want to do. When you impose a punishment you have to be able to be there to see that it is carried out or be able to put the banned item in a place where they can not get to it. Unplug the computer, lock toys in the closet, hide his bike,.......whatever you have to do to make him know you mean business. Also, be prepared to explain several times what is happening and EXACTLY why he is being punished. You want him to get the connection between the punishment and the crime so he will think twice before breaking the rules again.
2007-01-05 09:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are letting him ignore his punishment, you're not following thru. Unplug the TV (don't watch it yourself) lock up the computer and take the games away. You must follow through at all costs. Also: pick your battles. Not making his bed is not on par with fighting so the punishment can't all be the same. If you use the same exact punishment time & time again it will become meaningless to him. Be creative.
2007-01-05 09:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lyn 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you heard of actually PUNISHING him??? When he watches tv, UNPLUG IT....DUH!!! I'm sorry but I have no tolerance for people that can't control their kids. I was raised in the enviroment of spanking. So many people think it's wrong but I was raised on it and I turned out to be VERY well behaved. By age 5, I no longer was spanked because I knew how to stay out of trouble. I was only grounded once when I was a teen for staying out too late. My parents took away my stereo and locked up all my games. They also locked the tv in their room...That was a LONG week. I knew what was expected and my parents would enforce punishment. You need to do the same. DON'T LET IT HAPPEN...Take those things AWAY!!! It's not rocket science!!!
2007-01-11 13:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Violation Notice 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 12 year old still has issues with this. What I have done is either disable the device that I am grounding her from or completely remove it. She is a computer junky so I take the mouse and put it in my purse and it comes to work with me. I disconnect the power cord etc.
If he has these things in his room, remove them completly and return them when the punishment is over. Lock them in your closet, the trunk of your car, take them to grandma's house etc.
Why are you allowing him to use the things he's grounded from? Be firm and let no mean no; not maybe if it keeps you quiet.
2007-01-12 14:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by Wealth of useless information 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start taking away things he/she likes. As soon as you find the most cherished possession. An day or two without should bring him up to code. If not take two or three things away and see how it works. I have put up the tv, computer, even toys and made it an after dinner sleep time. After a couple of days I had no problems.
2007-01-13 03:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by fourwheeln05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should physically take the banned items away and hide them if necessary. If the computer gets taken away unplug it, put a sign on it, be creative. Also make sure that when you punish him you stick to what you say. Kids need consistency.
2007-01-11 12:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by kara_marie04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 6 year old.
When he is punished, he sits on a chair in the middle of the hallway for a certain amount of time.
If he's not allowed to play games, computer, etc, I take it out of his room.
You are the boss.
2007-01-05 08:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of sight out of mind! We had to take all those things out of my kid's room when she was 8. We only aloud her books, paper, crayons and her stuffed animals. It may seem harsh, but in the end she became very creative at play. She played school. She did a lot of art work. She sang. We only banned her for a week, but even after the weeks end she was still using her imagination. And when she did earn her things back, she appreciated them a lot more. Good luck!
2007-01-11 02:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy dearest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to make him understand that he is punished is have him remove all the fun thing from his bedroom and put them in the basement or attic. I assure you he will not like it and make sure you let him know he will be doing this every time he is on a punishment.
2007-01-12 19:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by Angela T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MIGHT WANT TO MAKE SURE HE ISN'T ADHD. MY STEP NIECE IS BAD AND DON'T LISTEN COME TO FIND OUT THAT WAS HER PROBLEM. BUT IF THAT'S NOT IT JUST TAKE AWAY SOMETHING YOUR CHILD REALLY LIKES IT WORKS FOR MY FRIENDS 5 YEAR OLD. TAKE AWAY TOYS. TRY SOMETHING NEW. CAUSE IT SEEMS LIKE HE DON'T REALLY CARE FOR THESE THINGS
2007-01-11 00:22:12 · answer #11 · answered by rachel c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋