I was raped by 3 men when I was 17 (6 years ago) and I have never gotten over it. It has messed up my idea of love, respect, and most of my sexual encounters. I have talked to Dr. after Dr. and never get any resolution. Will I ever get over this? What else can I do?
2007-01-05 00:49:08 · 23 answers · asked by FILLME 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As for my username....just an example on how this has played with my mind. Most times I only see myself as a sex toy for men. That is how I have always been looked at, and it was easier to conform then fight it.
2007-01-05 00:54:00 · update #1
Put evil potions in their drinks. (the men you don't like)
maybe they'll turn into chickens and run around destroying innocent people's chocolate milks.
just kidding.
Therapy, counseling, womens groups (with similar issues), KARATE!!
2007-01-05 00:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I want u to know that what is passed is passed u must carry on living .Being assaulted is not your fault. If you have been assaulted, get help from someone who you trust, whether it is the police, a friend, a rape crisis center or a relative. Don't isolate yourself because you have no reason to feel guilty, and, most importantly, don't try to ignore it. Rape, even by someone you know, is a crime and a violation of your body and your trust. Counseling and support groups can be helpful to deal with the emotional trauma caused by rape.
2007-01-05 10:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by bob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no doctor will get you over this or through this. they can only guide you. its ultimately up to you. what happened to you is not your fault. you need to still respect yourself and men as a whole. there are bad guys out there, but most men are good guys. it just so happens that some bad guys found you. its over. its in the past. your life is ahead of you and love and respect for yourself and others IS your cure. find a man who can ive you this and you can give in return. do not fear it. you will get hurt again in your life...emotionally, by men. but do not let that deter you. its part of life. learn from it. use it. do not let what has happened and what could happen hold you back. and do not hide what happened to you. be honest with your self, and any man you may come to love. you may be surprised how your life will change if you face this head on, and with a good man by your side.
2007-01-05 08:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by beechjb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im turning 18, i was raped when i was 16. the day before xmas. since then i havent gotten out much. i hav a huge trudt issue and i havent dated, cause it was my bf who raped me. and 2 this day keeps stalking me. i, like u, hav gone from 1 expert 2 the next 2 get over it. it takes time. and it doesnt seem if i'll ever b able 2 let go of it. my lack of trust has been the reason 4 countless problems and two breakups. i'm afraid to set foot out of the house and to venture on my own, but it doesnt keep me from living life and enjoying it to the maX. i hav realised talking to other victims has helped me 2 gain a bit of myself respact and confidence. so all i'm trying to say, maybe it womt go away but try to make the most of what u have?
2007-01-05 08:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by BabyT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We cannot answer if you will ever get over this only you can decide that. However I suggest finding someone you have this odd feeling of him being special... you feel great with the person then after things get more deep discuss what previously happened and tell him your discomforts and possibly he will give you an intimate special night to show you are to enjoy it too rather than just him. Good Luck!
2007-01-05 08:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Frater K.H.A. Zelator 1°=10□ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am genuinely sorry to hear that...
genuinely...
But u must make up your mind that u wouldnt let urself be held down by the wickedness of wot someone did to u...
Its time to free urself in ur mind...
Believe me it must hurt very much and u may find urself doing things that normally u wldnt do and wishing u were like other girls without that experience...
its time to free urself tho...
i really wish i cld help u...
IF u want someone to talk to (i am not sick, i just want to help) u can IM me or sth... or add me on ur friends list... no harm meant i just want to help...
All the best this new year ok...
things will surely get better for u... only if u let them...
my heart really goes out to u, it must have been messy and painful... oh well im me if u want to talk...
doctors usually can say how they "think" it feels, most times they r clueless...
cheers girl, i believe in u anyways... at least u have started the journey to ur healing, u have been able to talk about it...
2007-01-05 09:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Rare Gem 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear the awful news. Have you tried joing a support group with other women who were raped? Maybe by talking and seeing that you are not the only person in this terrible situation will help you out. Find out what others have done to help them move on. Dont blame yourself. It wasnt your fault.
2007-01-05 08:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by hank 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cannot imagine the hell you've gone through. Even though you might realize this in your head, remind yourself that IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. If you see a doctor, do what they say to do - therapy will only get as good as the action you take when getting good advice. Also, read Scripture. God loves you and wants to help you. Ask God from your heart what you need. Also, get the anger out with a punching bag - THAT is essential too. Writing helps alot - write down all feelings. God Bless You Sweetie.:)
2007-01-05 08:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by j b 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry about what happened to you.I think group therapy will help, talking to people who went through the same thing helps. Give yourself time and tell yourself that you want to get over this and take everything one step at a time.
2007-01-05 08:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you mean medical doctors, psychiatrists, etc? medical doctors just give you a xanax prescription and tell you to go away.
i once saw a psychologist that was so steeped in post-modern bullcrap (not biologically grounded theory) that she completely failed to realize that my feelings were there for a damn good reason, and that i wasn't consciously choosing to feel terrible all the time. it made me angry to be invalidated like that. i wonder if you had the same experience?
instead of giving me tips and ideas on how to get through it, i got "well you need to choose to not be so angry" or "you need to choose happiness" or "your emotions are ALWAYS coming from your thoughts, NEVER the other way around, so just change your thoughts!" SO not helpful to someone who's experienced trauma. maybe ok for depression, but not for anxiety and panic, which are more biologically rooted.
shop around, i suppose, and tell the psychologist on your first visit what exactly went wrong with the others. they will probably admire your desire to feel better.
one thing that helps me is thinking through everything rationally, when i don't feel angry or anxious. i used to repress it until the panic got me, that made it worse. bringing it up in my mind while my mind was capable of handling rational, logical though made things easier for me.
try finding ways to talk with others who have experienced sexual trauma about how they got to feeling better. sometimes drs. and psychologists just can't understand cause they weren't there.
2007-01-05 09:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i am so sorry that that had to happen to u, obviously some of the ppl answering this question have no common decency and should die becasue of their rude remarks.....
that is a very tramatizing event several of my friends have been raped 1 was raped at 13 by her father! she has never gotten over it and she still self mutilates sometimes, just give it time i dont no if u will ever get over it but i hope u do best of luck to u i hope u never have a tramatizing event like that ever happen to u again
2007-01-05 08:55:39 · answer #11 · answered by HanginByAMoment 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋