i just don't understand, i'm confused?

Question

this may seem like a sob story and things but i just don't understand whats happening to me anymore i mean i just want to cry but i don't know why, i feel like nothing i don't understand whast wrong with me, i'm on anti depressants and have been for 2 weeks, i just feel bad, like evrythings my fault and like everyone hates me, i just feel like i'm getting to the point where i don't want to do it anymore, but i want to its confusing i know but i'm confused and i don't understand whats happening to me, and no before i get any sarcastic comments i'm not an emo,

i just want to someone to make it all better you know? i'm confused

Answer 1

No, you're not an emo hun, you have depression, which is an awful thing to have. The anti-depressants you're on will take at least 3 weeks to start working, and I know its easier to say than hear, but don't worry about it, just relax and let it happen. Remember that nothing lasts forever, you won't be depressed forever and before you know it, you'll feel better about what you're doing in life.

In the mean time, i recommend taking some time to take your mind off of things, have some "you" time, look after yourself. Keep active, because doing nothing increases the likelihood of depression. Perhaps take some time to indulge in some hobbies, join a group perhaps... you may meet some like minded people who become great friends, and this will help you feel better too.

As for wanting to cry, just do it. Crying is like an emotional cleasing, it makes you feel better, and It's healthier than keeping it all in.

All the people who say "there are worse things happening to other people": this is true, but depression alters your perception of things outside of you. This doesn't mean a depressed person is selfish, because it isn't their fault. Depression is an illness, and this person has already taken the step to get treatment for it, so how about try being supportive rather than knock them down with harsh comments?

Good luck, and hope you feel better soon x

Answer 2

Anti-depressants take a few weeks to feel the full benefit and at first you may feel worse, ironically this is a common initial side effect. Theres nothing worse that waiting for it to kick in and waiting to feel great overnight, they don't work like that - give the tablets a couple more weeks and you should see the benefit when you reflect back, if you feel no better in a few weeks go back to your doctor who will try you with a different type.

Well done on taking the hard decision to see the doctor in the first place, admittting how you feel is the hardest part and it can only get better.

I wish you all the best and hope everything turns out well for you.

Answer 3

Please don't fret so much, it really isn't as bad as you now feel, and the feeling will pass. Your symptoms are because you are depressed and what you have described are common in depressed people.

Ask yourself if you have felt worse since being on the medication? Sometimes the medication is not helpful for everyone. Dont come off it without speaking to your doctor first though, but do go back to see doc and tell what you are experiencing.

Also ask your GP about self help program, you can do on-line and see psychiatrist or counsellor attached to GP practise.

Regardless of the internal dialogue you will be experiencing and what other rotters will say or do that isn't helpful to you, I know, so do you deep down; and so do many others on the planet, you are a very special and loveable human being, worthy to be on the planet and no doubt have something very special to share with the world and other people you come into contact with.

Keep on Keeping on because you are worth it.

Best wishes to you for a new happy and healthy year.

Answer 4

You need to call your psychiatrists office. It sounds like your medications may not be right for you or the dosage needs adjusted. Most antidepressants take up to 6 weeks to have a full effect but you should at least see some kind of change in two weeks. Psychology is not an exact science. Sometimes doctors have to try several different medications in order to find the right one. I know it is frustrating, I've been there myself. The feelings and thoughts that you are having are from your illness. Keep telling yourself this. You are not alone. There are millions of people out there fighting depression everyday. I am just one of them. Don't give up. Your life is so precious! Please don't do anything that you can't take back. Things will get better as long as you don't give up. Call your doctor today, right now. Tell them the thoughts you are having. You are not crazy and your doctor doesn't know what is going on with you if you don't tell him/her. If there is anything I can do, just let me know. Good luck and God Bless.

DON'T GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

As you have been on anti-depressants for 2 weeks now and you are still feeling like this then it seems that maybe your doctors has prescribed the wrong ones? I am not an expert and I don't know you, but please don't feel like every one hates you and every things is your fault because they don't! It may seem hard at the moment but you won't always feel like this and things will get better! I think you need to go and see you doctor again and tell him how you are feeling - hopefully there are other types of medication you can take that will be more effective. Hope this helps xx

Answer 6

If you have only been on Anti-depressants two weeks, you probably should allow more time for them to kick in. After two more weeks if you do not feel better, you should consult your doctor and maybe try a higher dosage or a different kind. It is very common for somone who is depressed to feel like everything thing they do is wrong. It is a spiral YOU must take control of. I know how sometimes it seems like you cannot find anything in your life that you can be happy about. I have been where you are and I can tell you, there were times that no one could convince me that I did anything but mess things up for everyone else. But you have got to believe in yourself, and be proud of the things you have accomplished in life so far, I know its hard to see what they are right now, but they are there, your brain just isn't letting you focus on them. Sit down and think about all the wonderful people in your life, and all things you've done that you are proud of. And remember you are a good person and there are people who love you.
Internet hug :>

Answer 7

Im led to believe that anti depressants can take a while to get into your system therefore please kepp with them, there are many people available to talk to have you tried the samaritans, they can offer a listeneing ear and do not judge.
Maybe a close friend or family or perhaps your gp, I would query with your gp about the dosage of your anti depressants maybe they could be titrated up? failing that try keeping a diary of your feelings, this could help to divert your confusion and may answer some questions. Can you remember when these feelings started/ what started them? I know it can be hard but please do try to concentrate on your posistive attributes and not dwell on those things you arent very good at and remember that depression and mental ill health is one of the most common health problems in the uk so you really are not alone!! Good luck I hope you feel more yourself soon

Answer 8

well there is nothing wrong with crying as a matter of fact it is a natural system of release so when you try not to cry you build more anxiety.

feeling unsure about yourself is also natural we all have those feelings from time to time a sense of belonging is critical to our well being.

I do not feel that pills are the answer to the problem Doctors will tell you it is a treatment for your symptoms the Key word is "Treatment" not a "CURE" what you need to seek is a cure.

here are some natural remedies to take care of yourself

Love yourself by

Meditating - calms the mind and soul
messages - nurtures the body and relieve tension
exercise - relieves stress
eat healthy - sometimes food chemicals can cause mood swings

I want to suggest a book to read

"As a Man Thinketh" by James Allen

the best part of this recommendations is there are no ill side effects.

Good luck and let me know if this helps

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Answer 9

i really feel for you, i completely relate to what you are saying, and it feels like nothing will ever change or get better.

you have only been taking your antidepressants for a couple of weeks so you really need to give them a bit longer to work. if you feel worse now than you did before taking the medication, dont stop it abruptly but get yourself back to your doc straight away, it may not be agreeing with you.

along the same lines it may just need an adjustment of the dose or another brand... bare with it, and keep talking to your GP until he gets it right!

in the meantime, try to be gentle with yourself, the world keeps revolving and things always always change eventually, and despite not believeing it right now things will get better.

for you self esteem, you need to perhaps have some cognitive behaviour therapy, which helps you to look at situations in different ways, it really helps, i had low self esteem, but eventually realised that other people were not any better than me, and it didnt actually matter if others talked about me, because it had no impact on my life.

i hope i have helped a little, keep your chin up, i shall be thinking about you. Plan your days keep some structure, a little excersize eat healthily and dont drink alcohol. i think you will feel brighter soon. take care.
Trixie x

Answer 10

1) join a gym or start going for brisk walks everyday - the endorphins you produce will giv eyou a lift to help you through a good few hours each time you do.
2) Ask your doctor to refer you to a good Cognitive-Behavioural psychologist who will help ypu to change the negative thinking (if you can afford it pay for a few sessions with one but make sure that the one you see has been recommended by a friend, there is a long waiting list on the NHS).
3) Keep taking the tablets but remeber they can take a couple of weeks t take effect and they do not make you feel good just bring you up to 'normal'.
(Though I do wish doctors would get patients to do this rather than reaching for the prescription pad so quickly.)