I am and always have been an uncontrollable but harmless flirt. My partner never minded, she found it amusing. But I was taken to task recently on what was one of my more tamer flirtatious remarks (first time I can recall it ever backfiring). And partner chastised me with a "That'll teach you"...Ummm....what do you think? Does it bother you, would you mind your partner doing it etc?
2007-01-05 00:21:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a huge flirt and so is my bf, we're both cool with it as long as it doesn't go to far. As long as you remember first and foremost to respect your other and to be respectful to the person you're talking to, it really isn't a problem. When people start to feel uncomfortable with your remarks or if your other is hurt by it, then you need to curb it. Know your boundaries and you're sweet.
I am interested in how you were "taken to task". Haha.
2007-01-05 00:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you gotta a problem. The thing about being a flirt is that it's the thing that attracted her to you in the first place. The down side is that every woman secretly looks at a man as a challenge.....
There are qualities in a man we see and we want all to ourselves as the relationship progresses. If we don't get it, we become jealous that you're giving that quality and attention away to someone else. We begin to realize what a mans secret is: he's always waiting for someone better to come along and if your openly flirting then it hurts her feelings.
That being said: Only flirt when she's not around and be sure to flirt alot with her. The rest is peas and carrots.
2007-01-05 08:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by redslippers 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your secure in the relationship enough I don't see why it would matter. It wouldn't bother me none as long as I was secure with his feelings for me. Nothing wrong with harmless flirting. I'm a big flirt and my partner gets a lot of female attention. But we understand each other and at the end of the day, he's still the only man I want.
2007-01-05 08:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did she find it amusing when you were flirting with her? If so, then it may not really be amusing anymore. And you say it was a "tame" flirtation, but don't mention what it was, exactly. Maybe your version of tame and others' is a little different? And if your partner is starting to comment like that, maybe it's time to rethink your flirtatious ways.
2007-01-05 08:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by J m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have problems with my partner flirting but i dont mind them looking at another person as long as it dont get out of hand
2007-01-05 08:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would mind... especially the more your relationship progresses. She may feel closer to you now and feels this is something againist her when you flirt with other women. Also maybe you are not flirting with her enough.. show her you care by actions - not only words
2007-01-05 08:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's disrespectful. You are lucky to have an understanding partner, but just think how you would feel if the situation were reversed.
2007-01-05 08:25:33 · answer #7 · answered by flipdout2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are married, try to tone the flirting down a few notches. Perhaps you are going too far.
If your partner is uncomfortable, you obviously are going to far for them.
2007-01-05 08:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's always that ol' saying, "There's a time & place for everything", it appears this behavior has grown tiredsome. If you were my partner, I'd be asking, "What are you trying to compensate for"? "Are you that insecure with yourself?"
2007-01-05 08:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by Lords of Stockton 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it doesnt bother me at all as long as no physical contact takes place but maybe she just doesnt mind she just doesnt see a point in it
2007-01-05 08:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by HanginByAMoment 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋