my almost 1 yr old help?she will be 1 in 2 weeks?

Question

My lil girl used to sleep in her baby bed when she got real sick i let her sleep in my bed. since she was 4 months and since then i couldnt get her to sleep in her baby bed anymore so i took it down and bought her a toddler bed thinking she wanted a big bed like momma. and i cant get her to sleep in it either any ideas?

And what age should she stop sucking on a pacifer?
and you know the sockets where you plug things in...well i bought some safety plugs for them... but that was a waste of money because she can take them off with no problem. and she wont listen to me when i say no or tap her hand so what can i do about that?

Any ideas send them my way please thankx

Answer 1

I completely understand! My almost four year old still comes into my bed in the middle of the night asking to sleep with me. The way I am trying and seems to be working is telling her that if she doesn't sleep in her big girl bed, then Mommy is going to have to put her crib back up so she can't get out like a baby has to have and so far that is helping. Your daughter is a little young for that but I think that if you just tuck her in and read her a story and def. have a night light to turn on and then tell her you love her then go sit and wait.....trust me she will get up several times but after about the third time of telling her good night just don't say anything pick her up and lay her back down then leave the room and shut the door. I know it is hard to listen to them cry but I did this with my now five year old daughter and it worked wonders. My four year old went thru it but she now waits until after we are asleep to try to sneak into our bed and just telling her that I am going to wake up Daddy to put the crib back together seems to be working she just runs back to her bed and lies down and that's the end of it. On the electrical outlet topic though that's very dangerous my son put a key into one and blew the outlet and after that I wasn't afraid to use an open hand to swat his behind.....not hard and no I am not a child beater but just a swat to get his attention and make him listen I would much rather listen to him cry for a few minutes than never be able to listen to him cry again. As far as the binky or pacifier goes......start pushing to get rid of it! The way we got our youngest daughter to give hers up is we took her to the store found something she wanted and the cashier told her it would cost five binkies so she handed the ziploc baggie over to the cashier and her daddy took her on out to the vehicle new toy in tow I asked him politely to throw them away so that I couldn't break down in a moment of weakness and give them back (after all she is the baby of our family) and paid for the toy item and left. When my daughter got upset, she went to find a binky and we told her they were just gone that she used them to buy her new toy and believe it or not at ten months she was okay with that! Worked like a charm. Hope all of this helps! Good luck

Answer 2

i always wished my daughter came with an instruction manuel....

i would start by saying that i bought the big bed for when she became a big girl. i would say that every day, not nagging, just saying when you grow up, you will be able to sleep in this big girl bed. when you think she might be ready
i would try to put her in it, lie down with her, read her a story or two, then tell her it is time for her to sleep. it is a hard thing to do, but in time it will work.

she is only one, so it may take time for her to be ready. little ones want the security of their moms. this is not uncommon, i think it happens a lot more than people say. i think that it might be a while, but, even if you did not bring her to your bed, she would have found her way there by herself. it takes persistance to change how she feels.

as far as the plugs, figure out what the facination is. she is too little to realize she will get hurt if she sticks something in there. maybe you could use a harsher voice, and remove her from the plugs, then distract her with something more fun.

as for the pacifier, my daughter sucked her fingers, couldnt take them away from her. she is still very small, i wouldnt worry about it for a while. it really isnt going to harm anything. if she gets to be 3 or 4, maybe start hiding it on her, only giving it to her when it is sleep time.

all of this is judgement. she is still very young. everyone will give you different answers, so you have to go with what you feel inside is right. somethings you need to be stern on, but i dont think anything but safety issues is important right now.

good luck

Answer 3

Truthfully my son always slept with us until he decided he was ready to go to his own bed when he was 17 months old. We bought him a queen size bed and put it on the floor so he couldn't fall and hurt himself and he decided it was much better to have the bed all to himself.
Now when he comes to my room my husband or I carry him back to his own bed and he falls back to sleep rather quickly.
Sometimes we lie with him as he falls asleep but unlike popular belief he still has no problem falling asleep on his own.

As for the pacifier Nathan turned 2 in November and still has his. The pediatrician said there is no problem with this. The old myth that pacifier will hurt the growing teeth is false he said. Unless a child is getting his permanent teeth and still has a pacifier there is no problem. I would imagine by the time a child is 3 they would be off the pacifier.
It is a comfort item.

Cover the outlets with full plates you can find in the hardware store. It goes over the entire plate and covers the outlets completely. At this age your daughter is too young to completely understand what is right and wrong.
And of course, consistency is the key to everything!

Answer 4

I'm not sure how to deal with the bed thing. My son was two before he stopped sleeping with us. We bought him a backyardigans bed, and had no trouble since.

I didnt have any problems taking the pacifer from my son. He was probably 2 or 3 months when I just quit giving it to him. You can try what my friend did though. After her son turned one, they went on vacation. She left all of his bottles and pacifers at home, and had her mom to come over and clean them out. After a week of cold turkey, he didnt want them when they got back.

Try what I did with my son. He could take out the "child safety plugs" too. As she reaches for it, take her hand in yours, and spank your hand. Make sure its loud! And tell her, "No! It will burn the baby!" It may take a couple times, but she'll get the picture.

Good luck and God bless.

Answer 5

That's gonna be a tuff one, I'm a mother of 3 kids 12,10,5.My five year old still sleeps with me and my 10 year old camps out on my bedroom floor.Once you let them into your room they will never leave unless you show them you are the boss.I am a softy so its hard for me to put my foot down and stand my ground.But you need to put your child in there room and tell them they have to sleep in there and just put up with the crying after a couple days all will be forgotten and bam, you have your bed back.I know i should listen to my own advice but right now it dont bother me.The pacifier is another thing my kids came off them at 4 months old i just took them away and threw them away so they were not available to give back.That worked out great.Then on the first birthday i took the bottle away.Good luck

Answer 6

As for your bed issue, kids will jump in bed with you & within one night expect it to be an everyday thing especially at this age.
Reversing this can take some time though!! Positive reinforcement and consistency in making her sleep in her own bed will get you through this, keywords, firm and consistent!! Try sitting in a chair next to her bed with some good story books and maybe her favorite animal or blanket to cuddle with.
You may have to start bedtime a little earlier, for this can sometimes take awhile. DO NOT READ STIMULATING BOOKS.
Like adventure & wonder. Read bedtime stories.

As for the pacifier, your child will start to show you signs when she's ready, like leaving it lay around to play with toys etc. Pacifiers to me pacify parents, and just becomes a habit for kids.
My daughter turned three last month and she was around 2 when she started leaving it lay or losing it, after she lost about three of them and I kept going to the store and buying more I realized I needed it more than she did.. so when I noticed she had left it lay, I would take it and put up. When she would ask for it I'd tell her she must have left it some where and have her look around to find it. Alot of the times she'd get bored with looking and just move on to playing. If she'd really throw a fit and I'd give in.. we'd start all over. You will have to come to point eventually to not give in and give it to her. So after awhile of the, YOU MUST HAVE LOST IT GAME, I decided not to give it to her AKA the FOUND IT part of the YOU LOST IT GAME. It was hard, for both of us, but again the key is consistency on your part.

For your plugs, I recommend SAFETY 1ST brand recepticle covers they fit so snug half the time I can't get them out!!

Take it from me, mother of 3 ages, 3, 15, & 16 , consistency will get you everywhere!!

Answer 7

Children should stop using a pacifer by one so that the pacifer doesn't ruin their teeth, that might be hard to make happen though. You will have to be strong and take it away from her, you can't flip flop on it are she will get mixed signals from you, she just can't have it anymore. As far as the plugs go, those never worked for me either, all I can say is maybe you have to make the punishment harder for her if she touches them. Either give her a flop on the butt, or have her sit on a chair for a 1 minute time out everytime she does it, but the key is to be consitent in her punishment. The bed issue will require you to be very strong. Tell her she must sleep in her room, in her big girl bed. Make a ritual of bed time for her, give her a bath, read her a story, let her pick out a favorite toy for her to sleep with, tuck her in, and then say good night, turn out the lights and close the door. She will complain and cry, but don't give in. Let her cry for 5 minutes, then go in calm her down, tuck her in and tell her to go to sleep. She will probably cry again, wait 10 minutes, go in and put her back in bed again, telling her its bed time, go to sleep. If she still cries, wait 15 minutes, then repeat the process of telling her to go to sleep. She may still cry, but keep waiting 15 minutes before entering room. She will eventually get tired and fall asleep. Keep doing this for several nights if you have to, but it will get better each night, I promise, and she will start to fall asleep sooner. Eventually she will get use to the bed time routine and not fuss at all. It will be harder on you not being able to comfort her, than it will be on her. But be strong, it will be worth it in the end when she sleeps in her bed and not yours. Good luck!

Answer 8

I had to tell my daughter that my bed was broken and i would have to sleep in hers...she was 2 at the time and i would sleep in hers til she fell asleep and then leave her bed....it took ages for it to work.but there was no tears and loudness.it became routine for her. The pacifer my son would not give up was making him delayed with his words and speech until my husband said that the toothfairy didnt want his teeth for a while but wanted the pacifer to borrow and she would leave some money for it so he could buy something new.That actually worked.!!! The plug sockets....ive no idea...that would scare me though and put furniture in front of them or super glue them in. . You seem to me to be a good parent so good luck

Answer 9

you have to be strong and explain how wonderful her bed is and keep putting her to bed there. It is a comfort thing just like the pacifier. Keep the pacifier for bed time. Then when you can reason with her take it away or replace it with a new toy, or say the new baby at the hospital needs it, she may give it away willingly.

Answer 10

i assume "merely approximately" is the operative be conscious right here. maximum little ones could have a sequence back each and every now and then yet scolding isn't the respond. you will make him irritating and the undertaking gets worse. attempt to no longer make a great deal of it while he has an "twist of destiny", yet be there with a cuddle and a "next time tell mummy ok?" while he sees you're cool with it so will he be; and what if he's taking slightly longer he gets there interior the top.