Any Cure for Vulnerability?

Question

Okay, it might sound stupid but I really need to know if there's any real way to cheer myself up. I've been heartbroken for a few months now, since October and I've still not quite gotten my sudden feeling of vulnerability sorted. Every so often I find myself feeling useless and not worth it.

I'd really like to find out if there's anyway I can make myself feel better and soon. As things have went on, I've suffered greatly from insomnia and I'm failing to get to sleep at night because of it all. Can anyone recommend anything?

I'd appriciate it if I got helpful answers and it's okay if you don't know anything just do your best.

Answer 1

well, i opened your question cos wanted to read some answers - im in the same boat with u. i am not heartbroken, but im not excited about my life at all. how do people stay excited? i wish i knew

just read the first answer. i think the woman is right - get a job. i don't have a job, so maybe that's why i am so not excited about life anymore. my husband has a very good career, he is very satisfied with life, never is depressed and he is full of energy

Answer 2

Thoughts. All of life is thinking, and vulnerability in its barest form is really just another thoughtform. See if you can start feeding your mind with thoughts of self-confidence and self-esteem. Praise yourself (privately) and remind yourself of your positive qualities. Make a list of them and remind yourself of them often. After a while, your mind will 'pick up' the new messages you are giving it, and 'recycle' them as behaviour, and feelings.

It might be worth joining a new club or association or something. Is there anything in your local area which interests you? Sometimes, a change in routine can work wonders (especially if a new activity stops you from 'thinking' about being heartbroken) and meeting new people and making new friends can be very exciting and empowering. You would be amazed at the effects on your confidence, that a new circle of friends will have.

As for your sleep, nip along to the local supermarket and buy yourself a packet of herbal tea. Drink one of these about an hour before you go to bed each night. They help to calm your nerves and mind, and will help you sleep better. As you lie in bed, take about 20 deep breaths. These also calm down your heart and make you feel a lot better.

I have also had times in my life when I have felt very afraid and vulnerable, but remember the old saying that THESE TOO SHALL PASS. Nothing lasts forever, and whichever way your life changes depends on you. If you expect things toturn out really well for you, they invariably do. Good luck.

Answer 3

So sorry for your pain. You have to plug into a support group or a private councilor. Do things even if you have to force yourself out of the house, but do this for yourself. You are in charge of how you feel and can control these emotions and how they effect you.
Help someone else by what you have learned in your failed relationship.....learn from everything and share with others. Turn your situation into a positive one. It can be done. I've been there. It's up to you.
Exercise if you can. You don't need a membership....walking works. Get those endorphins going and this will give you focus and energy while helping you to sleep better during the night.
Best wishes! You have a New Year to practice new ways to a new and improved new you!

Answer 4

The only road that I could suppose that you were taking when suggesting a cure would be the result of the strength gained by having to go through a difficult situation and what that imposes on one. In actuality, being vulnerable causes one to experience both suggestions. I can only go by my own experience and I can say that both occur.The doors are open wide in this situation. The pain involved can be difficult if one doesn't have a good support system in their church, family and friend situations.Let's face it, after all is said and done, that's a miserable life learning experience even if one does gain strength overall......

Answer 5

Vulnerability is linked to a bad shake in self esteem and self confidence. A break-up can easily make that happen. I found that the cure is to be strong within yourself. Know that you are a strong person and don't need another to be a complete person.
Know that you are stronger mentally and emotionally than you have ever been and you can fly solo and still do anything. The self confidence will attract the opposite sex and start new relationships.

Answer 6

can you find anything that interests you - like a hobby that would take you mind off things and tire you out so as you'd get a good nights sleep??
A hot bath with lavender might help also.
We all go through phases like you are - its just part of life really - chin up hun - you'll be flying along in no time! xx

Answer 7

Well, I don't know any real answers but when I'm down I always find hanging out with my friends help. Talking is always a good option...
Just remember everyone is priceless and useful-spend time with people that appreciate you!

Answer 8

no you dont sound stupid.you're heartbroken thats why..you are in the healing process..you feel useless coz maybe,just maybe, there's a part of you blaming yourself that you should have done something in the relationship so it wont end.
my adviced to you is go out with your friends,TRY to have fun,,divert your attention to something else,dont do stuff that makes you remember about your ex.
lastly,never,ever think that you are not worth it and useless..things happens for a reason.just hang on for yourself and paray really hard.it works :)

Answer 9

get a job

are you heart broken over a girl you don't say, if you are get a job it will help you honestly , play outiside with mates get a hobby if you would like to talk to me you can

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Answer 10

Mind over matter