we met on line,chatted a lot ,daily 2-3 hours ,shared a lot in common at first ,and when we met we had a nice time together,then she says its better we stay friends,i asked her y ,she didnt answer ,and took one side decision ,i wanted to know what was wrong she didnt tell me and said u have no right or deserve an answer,well we r friends now,luckily she opened up and gave me the answer with still insisting i dont deserve it,like this,i am muslim she isnt,i am controlling ,obsessive,dependent,have no ambition ,and happy with my current stat quo,well just for u to know, i am 32 ,i run my own business,i have good income,i aint poor,,i was loving her a lot ,and spent most of my time close to her ,never left her side,i am educated have a college degree,and regard religion she knew i am muslim from beginning and i never asked her anything religious ,does domeone walk in and walk out without with no respect of dialogue normal and mess your life,i really loved her,?
2007-01-05 00:06:35 · 11 answers · asked by reifguy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the daily chat was late night between11-2 am ,i spent a whole week with her together,seven months non stop daily we speak and talk .
2007-01-05 00:13:00 · update #1
I think she used you, you made her feel good emotionaly when u guys were talking online and stuff so she thought she loved you, but when you met her for real, she might not have clicked for you, she might not have fell in love so she wants out. Her excuse is laim though. Anyway, move on and find someone new
Good Luck
2007-01-05 00:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really believe that the chat lines are not all what they are cracked up to be.
People can give you a false sense of interest especially if they are lonely or troubled.
Unfortunately you wasted alot of time and effot on someone who was looking for a way out of her slump.
I feel that a chance meeting such as the computer is doomed to fail.
I believe the sight of a person, face to face will give you your answers very quickly,
You can see if they are genuine; you can see if there is humor,compassion, and most of all reality.
It is very important not to be fooled by immature, spoiled and insecure people.
They flit from one person to another, doing all kind of damage , emotionally and spiritually.
They are looking for something to complete them and have no idea how to find it. Their problems lie within.
These people are not where you are in life. You have set goals, you have achieved goals. You sound grounded and have a good regard for religion and beliefs. The fact that you were of different backgrounds and it didn't matter to you, told me you were and open and had maturity and education. The fact that you don't judge, is very important here.
This was a mistake waiting to happen.
You must not be so vulnerable to bleeding hearts and to people who are not real or people who haven't reached the same place in life as you, emotionally and spiritually.
There should be more similar qualities than not, if you want to find the right match.
Let this be one of life's lessons for you and hopefully you will give it thought and not repeat the behaviour.
Be a bit more guarded and don't trust what you read on an inanimate object that pops up on a screen.
We are not robots yet!
Go out and find someone whose face lights up when they smile, crinkles her nose when she finds something distastful. Someone who has chemistry with you and who you don't have to heal or fix.
Don't be needy, make your choices wisely, and don't settle for something you know is completely wrong for you.
2007-01-05 00:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, so you met her on the Internet. Obviously she was NOT looking for a long term relationship, and you were. I think she used your religion as an excuse to kinda let you down gently. (Although I think she was a bit rude saying you don't derserve an answer. But that is only MY opinion) Take it as it is. Move on. Stay friends, but look for love elsewhere! (I met a guy on the Internet, and I truly ONLY want to be his friend - and we are both happy with this) You are obviously a good catch for some gal, and will make the RIGHT person very happy. Hang in there. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2007-01-05 00:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i am 36 year old women.if i was you and this lady spoke to me like you said then she has no respect for you at all by the sound of it there could be two reasons why she as done this ,1st she married, 2nd she has a thing about you being a Muslim and her family will go mad,if that's the case then get rid of her she has no respect for you and to find someone new as i am with a Muslim guy myself and sometimes it is hard to but i don't care what ppl say so find someone that has respect for you good luck
2007-01-05 00:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunate that she treated you that way, but learn a lesson from the experience. Don't trust on-line relationships! Many people just go on line to chat, not find a life-time partner. Go out into the real world to find a woman that's right for you. Best of luck!
2007-01-05 00:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems your differences were too much for her to handle. Out of respect, she should've given you an explanation sooner, but maybe she was too afraid to tell you the truth. Either way, it's better she break it off with you, than stay together knowing she couldn't tolerate you. It's unfortunate that you were hurt, but you will be okay.
2007-01-05 00:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole point here is she is gone . Pick up your boots and get on with life. You have the right to feel sorry for yourself,hurt and rejected. Now its over. Its happens to each one of us at least once in our life. So, if this is a first then lucky you. Get over it and move on. That's life.
2007-01-05 00:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You loved who you thought she was.
She's from the shallow end of the gene pool. Your story has me too. I don't get her either and I figure I have heard it all. Trying to figure her out will get you nothing, especialy of she isn't going to change her mind.
Move on. There are plenty of women who wouldn't agree with her.
2007-01-05 00:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can u love someone with whom u just chatted and only once met? doesn't sound as a man with own business and loads of money and high self esteem. sounds more like lonely loser who has low self esteem and will jump an anything that even looks at him
2007-01-05 00:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She sounds a little screwed up-let that one go and find someone else.
2007-01-05 00:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋