Hi there...my husband is stationed away from me. He has threatened divorce and froze all our joint accounts with USAA. USAA said they will not help. Can or will the JAG lawyers help the "wife". I am 3 hours away from a base. Military One Source gave me the runaround. I'm at my witts end. With him yanking the funds...rent was not paid. What can I do? My children and I are now 120% desolute and state agencies will not help until a divorce is final.
2007-01-05 00:05:40 · 13 answers · asked by Smiling Belle 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Your last post said he cheated and now he is pushing for the divorce!? Wow, nice change of events. Call USAA and speak with a manager and find out why you cannot access accounts that your name is on. That makes zero sense.
While one of the posts on this page said his CO cannot force him to spend money they can twist his arm until he relents. I have seen MANY soldiers and wives get their way simply by calling their congressional representative. Call your congressman/woman and tell their office the story and what unit your husband is in. Trust me! When a senator or congressman calls the military they start with the base general and work their way down. No general on earth likes to be bothered by high ranking politicians when some SSG is doing dumb crap. My grandmother used to call politicians when my grandfathers child support checks were late.....it never happened again! I had a friend at Ft. Bragg who was not getting medical attention for a back problem. Luckily his mother was friends with one of his state senators, he was seen by a doctor a few hours later.
Tell your representative all the steps you have gone through to solve the problem and they should be very receptive to help you. They can normally get results in hours not days!! Get a hold of them before the weekend and think about moving in with family until this blows over. oh, and since you are military you can call the congressman in your home town, the one where you currently live, and maybe the one where he is originally from. Your political leaders can handle these problems very easily and efficiently with one phone call.
Lastly, call Army Emergency Relief or AER!!! They give short/long term interest free loans to military families in your situation. They will certainly listen and help if your rent hasn't been paid.
These are immediate and FREE steps you can take to get back on track. Lawyering up at this point is going to take to long and cost too much money you simply don't have.
Good Luck.
2007-01-05 04:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by SL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can call the Executive Officer of the base where he is, that would be a good thing. If you can't get him, try the base's Personnel Officer. If you can't get him, get the base's JAG officer, and if you can't get him, get the base's Chaplain, or one of them.
If you continue to get a negative result, or no result at all, I would contact a lawyer in the area where you live who has experience working with the service regulations and the Uniform Code of Military Justice. He can waltz through some doors that you can't get through, even taking the case to Washington and the major officers in charge of the service he is in.
What you have to work out in your mind is the conversation that you are going to have with any of the various officers (and only talk to officers) you contact. I understand that you are very emotional on this issue, but keep reasonable in the conversations, displaying some emotion, but not going haywire.
I think that this can be equated to abandonment of his wife and children and if they agree with that, this can tear up his military career. If he is an officer, he will rise no more in rank. If he is enlisted, he can be busted down and possibly serve some time in the brig. Stronger things can happen in my opinion, but he has responsibilities to his family whether he is divorcing his wife or not. He cannot jepoardize the children.
If you are a contributor to the joint accounts, then there is an additional problem.
I am sure that you will contest the divorce and I might recommend that you start the divorce proceedings prior to the time he does.
However, if he has been in Afghanistan or Iraq and exposed to a lot of terrifying things, he may be reacting that way because of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which I can tell you from personal experience, makes life hell for him and all of those around him.
I am not a lawyer and can't give legal advice. I was, however, a legal clerk and court reporter in the legal office on a base that had no lawyer and saw similar things. I have seen strips removed from the sleeve and brig time for idiots like that.
His base might have a variety of chaplains, contact the one that is closest to your religious affiliations - that is if you are protestand, contact the protestand chaplain. If you are Catholic, contact a priest who is a chaplain. and so forth.
I think I would start with the chaplain and work my way up.
2007-01-05 02:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Polyhistor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I keep seeing this same scenario over and over again in the Q&A. Kind of makes you wonder what the guys are finding out about the wives back home to shut off the funds.
Don't start with the crapola about its the guys screwing around stuff, I've been in the service for 26 years and I've seen it a million times.....fleet pulls out for a cruise and "momma" is out within days looking for some "strange".
Not saying this woman is doing that, but it seems that here on Q&A there is alot of this going on. And just to be fair, I've seen the guys do the same thing while away serving.
Advice for the wife, file a WRITTEN complaint with the Family Services at your nearest military base, then go get a job until all is resolved.
2007-01-05 02:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by jonn449 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 20:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to get a lawyer, but it can be a military lawyer. The only people that will go after a member of the military faster than a civilian court is a military court. But a good divorce lawyer will get you access to your accounts, even if it is only long enough to get them separated.
2007-01-05 00:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by The_moondog 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell his chain of command that he's not supporting his children? That should be a decent quick fix. If they don't help, give the Inspector General (IG) a call. I guarantee his chain of command would rather help you than get a call from them. I don't know what his responsibilities are to you, but he has a definite obligation to take care of his children, and the military is good at making sure that happens.
2007-01-05 01:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by DOOM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a joint account and they cannot keep you from your money. Also (i just IM you) Also get in touch with his superior officer they WILL make him take care of his responsibilities. It doesnt matter where he is at. He probably gets BHA basic housing allowance which is paid to him to take care of you and your children and you have every right to that money. JAG will not get involved especially if children are involved. Also get in touch with his FRG family rediness group they will walk you through the process and get you talkint to the right people. But he CANT do this to you and the military WILL make sure this situation is taken care of immediatly. Ifyou are a squeaky wheel with them you will get the grease.
2007-01-05 10:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a civilian lawyer.. JAG cannot represent you. Without a court order, the Command cannot and willnot force him to supply any support.. they will NOT get involved with a domestic dispute.
NO CO, no matter how willing they are, can order anyone to give up funds.. they can counsel, nothing more, unless there is a court order.
2007-01-05 03:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely get a lawyer. However, have you contacted your husband's commander? Your husband is required to support you, with a bare minimum of the BAH rate he is receiving for his or your location. If you are separated, the separation agreement can specify new temporary support requirements, but in the meantime, he has to give you the BAH, at least. Call is commander directly, is my best advice.
2007-01-05 01:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by cavcarl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a lawyer. Fast! Not a military lawyer. The military will protect its own. You need a civilian divorce attorney familiar with the military workings.
2007-01-05 00:08:15 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋