my boyfriend is 48 and i am 32 we live togather and at first it was fine but things between him and i are not as good now he has been chatting with others on the computer and our sex life was great before we lived togather now its next to nothinghe comes off with i am tired and when we do it last maybe 5 min whats up with that i ask myself is it me or is he going else where i ask him is he sure i am who he wants to be with as he did ask me to merry him and bought me a big diamond what should i think
2007-01-05 00:02:35 · 10 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if he thinks enough of you to marry you and bought you an engagement ring, I would say you are safe. You, on the other hand may want to consider whether you want to be married to an older man whose libido is getting slower. You know it happens when we men are middle aged that our libido is not as it once was. There is a difference in a 30 year old man from when let's say ,we are 45 . He slows down and it may be that there is too much of an age gap between you. You need to consider all things before marriage. If you can accept this, fine. If you are going to take this as personal, you need to reconsider.There is 16 years age difference between you and you need to really make sure you will be able to accept things like a slowing sex drive and physical changes that are a normal part of the aging process, expanding waistlines, losing hair, teeth, wrinkles, loss of muscle tone, etc If you can honestly say that you love this person so much that it will not bother you when you look over at night and see him soak his teeth on your nightstand, then you should by all means proceed with your marriage. He may be showing signs right now of the normal "slowing down" that you must accept in a man nearing 50. You must not take the aging process as rejection of you.
2007-01-05 00:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by Alan C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better really do some thinking before you marry this man . Sounds like to me he wants his cakes and wants to eat it too. And I am sure he likes having a younger women , but if my boyfriend was chatting with others on the computer and not having sex with me , I would think he is cheating ,
2007-01-05 00:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by christina3661@yahoo.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things do change when you live together. Try adding some spice to your lives, fix a romantic dinner, and wear something sexy for him. When you get stuck in a routine, the boredom sets in. Good luck!
2007-01-05 00:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my best guess is that nope he dont love you i had the same thing happen to me and he was chatting w/ other girls soon it came to talking on the phone and well you know it ends.....id say leave him you can probably do much better
2007-01-05 00:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by starlight♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he might be getting old. maybe that's why it only lasts about 5 min, maybe it wears him out
2007-01-05 00:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Cavegirl948 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did u ask him if he still does like u or if something wrong with us
Ask him
2007-01-05 00:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by Kells 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get what you give. If you are not doing it for him, someone else is!
2007-01-05 00:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
nah nt reli
2007-01-05 00:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is f+++ing arround with u..
change your believe.
2007-01-05 00:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask on here, then no
2007-01-05 00:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by Wow! I have a pig nose! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋