i split with my ex over a year ago - weve still been living together and ive just found out he has a new girlfriend and has been seeing her for quite some time, i still love him very much and don't know the best way to handle this, continue to be friends or not.
2007-01-05 00:01:10 · 24 answers · asked by sarah s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if you have been living with him for over a year at least you tried. Its an insult however to find out he has a girlfriend that means he has no respect for you. I know you still love him because i still love my ex however there also comes a time when you must break completely away and start a new life. I know its hard because past relationships can have many ties. I myself kinda find im in that situation almost. I was contemplating going back to my ex but he has showed me he has no intentions of changing. Its painful when you love someone, you do all you can and they just dont show no improvement whatsoever. I would say be friends and be happy for him because if he has a girlfriend that is saying he doesnt need you or that he just wants to use you and thats wrong. You have nothing to feel bad about because you have done your part for him. What did he do for you? That is the question you must ask yourself ok. Take a real good look at him remember he has the girlfriend on the side and tell yourself i am better than this life he is giving to me. Its better to be friends than enemies and in the end he will make himself look really stupid. What goes around comes around and he will get his someday....
2007-01-05 00:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by firey_spirit_66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time that he finds a new place to dwell. He should be able to entertain his new gf at home.
You should be able to do the same without feeling awkward.
I don't think you can be friends with ex's. There is too much history and information available.
I think it puts an odd perspective on the whole relationship, and maybe an edge of some sort.
It does not sound healthy and I think the point of whether you love him or not is not it, the point is getting on and letting go.
He already has, now it is your turn.
When a relationship breaks, it doesn't mean you have to hate one another; you should have the warm and loving feelings stored in your heart as memories and that is it.
Everybody does it; they remember their first crush with oohs and aahs and the same with the first date, or kiss or sexual encounter.
It is normal to have warm and fuzzy feelings that never leave.
The thing is you must leave them from whence they came; the past.
This is now and the future lies ahead of you, just waiting for you to hop on and take off in a new direction.
2007-01-05 00:11:17 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ,why are you two still living together for anyway if you split a year ago for, and he has every right to see anyone that he wishes to see ,if you love him that much why did you split in the first place, so if i was you get over it and get on with your life and not to worry what your x as been up to and to stay friends if you could if not move on.
2007-01-05 00:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be reasonable! You're stilling living together and your ex has respected your feelings enough not to bring this woman home. Can't be very easy for him. If you can't remain friends with him without having trouble dealing with your feelings it's time to move out and put a bit of space between you. You can't expect to break up then not allow him to move on with his life. I know it's hard but you have to be realistsic. There's no reason to lose a friendship but time out whilst you come to terms with your feelings might help.
2007-01-05 00:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by ammie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and continue to be his friend...you can never have too many friends. But you may want to make plans to move out. Better you do it on your terms and time than take the chance that he and his new girlfriend may sometime in the future decide to live together.
2007-01-05 00:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people have the right idea but, do they follow their own advice. Its all up to you if you want to decide to move out or not. All I can tell is that you need to realize what you want and will make you happy in the long run. Just cause you have spent alot time together but, was it really going anywhere. Just think about what you really want for yourself and I know that you will make the right decision.
2007-01-05 00:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by CruzTorres 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you still live together? (i still have an ex living with me as well... difference is we only split 2 months ago) does he bring her into your house? you just found out about her, have the two of you been intimate recently? did he lie about her, or just not tell you?
i would suggest sitting down with him and talking about it. explain your feelings and see where he stands. it is possible that you may have to find new living arrangements, but at least you will know where your relationship sits.
2007-01-05 00:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by biz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes your ex but you still live together and hes seeing someone else and you cant handle it....
blimey what a mess.
Move out and move on and find yourself a new partner. Its good that you are still friends but could prove tricky if you still have feelings for him. Best forget it I say and move on. New Year, New You !!!
2007-01-05 00:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by 90210 aka Hummer Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its hurtin u knowin he has a gf then what wud b like wen u c em togetha? if i was u i wud move out so u can get im out of ur system, when u feel ok then u can get bk in touch with him and b friends but while u still love him i dnt think u can stay there as it will only make u unhappy xx
2007-01-05 00:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sure you can stay friends - but you need to stop living together! if ye own the house or whatever together one needs to buy the other out - if you're just renting - one of ye needs to move out! If you still love him - it'll be too awkward seeing him with his new girlfriend and it will only break you heart. xx
2007-01-05 00:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋