I like this guy. I have told him, but it seems like now
we are more distant and we don't talk as much.
I want to be friends, but I need him. He was
there for me through so much.
Just help me please...
How can he not see how much I care about him...?
What do I say, what do I do?
2007-01-04 23:43:13 · 6 answers · asked by Shauna. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you treasure him as your friend, let him go.
You have already told him of your feelings and we know the answer, his decision is not you and you very much must respect his decision. His actions of being distant, maybe he's trying to help you out. As he cant give you his love, he felt he should distance to make you forget about him...
If you want back the friendship, tell him that you do treasure the friendship and you missed the good old times... But of course, you must control your feelings and treasure only friendship...
2007-01-04 23:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am looking at what you wrote and what I read is "I need him." This is indicative of the type of relationship this is. People who help us through hard times or difficulties in our lives, become anchors and provide a sense of security for us. However they are rarely passionate, true romantic relationships. I see relationships as an interplay between these two principles....giving and receiving. While it is great to have a relationship start as a true friendship and blossom into a lover relationship, there needs to be interplay between the two principles. Ask yourself honestly what do you give to this guy? Have you been there for him? Really if you read your words, it seems he has been an "anchor" for you in your life through some profoundly difficult times...but has there been reciprocation, and could he depend upon you. I think this should be the basis of your conversation with him. Explaining that you know he has always been there for you and NOW you wish to reciprocate that same giving to him and to demonstrate that you can give as well. Let it happen naturally if it is meant to happen. Do not give up, but change the dynamics of the relationship and bring it into balance.
2007-01-05 07:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first if he is backin away then i think you should stop persuing in the relationship sense...instead counter with...i really do like you but our friendships means a whole lot more and i dont want to lose that...before he becomes standoffish and really distant...dont pressure him about it..he knows you like him..you have already established that with him...now its his turn...if it works it works if it doesnt yall are still friends...good luck
2007-01-05 07:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by michele m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a talk with him...a good conversation always leads to something good...but if he says that he can only think of you as a friend and nothing more,just let it be..NEVER BEG...NEVER PERSUADE...the guy will stay away from you more because you are too desperate..
2007-01-05 07:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by rika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your confession has made him uncomfortable, and he, obviously, doesn't feel the same way about you. You need to accept this, and move on.
2007-01-05 07:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just confront him and let it out! Tell him whats in your heart and what you really feel. ^_^
2007-01-05 07:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jowi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋