My friend has been given advice by me on this topic now I'm asking the general public. Her boyfriend that she lives with gets drunk and calls his abusive ex. He tells my friend that he loves her but she doesn't believe him because of his calling the ex. From my understanding he supposedly doesn't do it all the time but he does do it. She now feels that because he may be cheating on her she should cheat on him. He's home when she gets there and doesn't miss a lot of work. At night when he goes out either she's with him or he's only gone like 15 minutes tops. Should she cheat on him because she feels based on his calling his ex he's cheating on her. Keep in mind she goes through his cell phone and this is how she knows he's calling the ex or at least talking to her. Good advise is welcomed.
2007-01-04 23:39:21 · 13 answers · asked by Pisces Princess 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She shouldn't cheat cause a mistake will never be corrected by another mistake. The thing that she should do is to talk to him and ask him why when he gets drunk he calls his ex and that she is not happy by these calls.
But from your saying the only time that he can cheat on her is when he's at work, maybe by telling your friend (his g/f) that he's going to work but in reality he will be on vacation leave and meet his ex. Otherwise he can't cheat on her.
As for cheating on him I once again will not suggest her to do so cause when you cheat, you're not cheating on your partner but on yourself too.
Hope this helps and Good Luck hun.
2007-01-04 23:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by Falcon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a case of the classic "two wrongs don't make a right".
To begin with your friend doesn't really know for sure that he's cheating. She first needs to let him know how she feels, if he truly loves her he would not mind cutting off the ex in order to make things right with her.
Also, if he really is cheating, she should leave. What type of relationship would they have if no one was faithful, that's no kind of relationship at all.
Your friend needs to find someone who truly respect & cherishes her. As a woman i know we sometimes feel thats hard to find, but its worth searching for.
Wish her the best!
2007-01-05 07:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not just because he is an *** doesn't mean she should make herself an ***. two wrongs never made a right, and as long as she stays faithful, she can leave the bigger person.
not mention, he is calling his ex while drunk - he may just have unresolved issues with her that he doesn't know how to deal with. it doesn't mean he doesn't love your friend, and it doesn't mean he is cheating. I think she should try getting to the root of the problem.
2007-01-05 07:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if he is cheating on her, cheating on him isn't going to make her feel better. It sounds like she's jumping the gun a little. He's acting stupid right now, but that's no proof he's cheating. I think deep down, she's got someone that she wants to get it on with, and she's using her boyfriends behavior as a pass to do it. If she respects herself, she needs to wise up and make decisions based on facts, not ulterior motives.
2007-01-05 07:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is calling his ex doesn't mean anything is going on.
She shouldn't cheat on him either. Get with reality here. If she cheats she's no better than he is. Actually worse than he is.
2007-01-05 07:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by ash84102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell the boyfriend what sort of a person he's involved with. He may, for all you both know, have a legitimate reason for phoning his ex, whatever reason, it's really none of either of your business. If you won't tell him, give me his number and I will.
2007-01-05 07:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs to talk to him. Not getting to the point can result
in alot of things. Abuse, Cheating, Lying. Stupid things.
If she doesn't get this in order soon, it could be bad for her,
Very bad.
Talk to her, if she has that many doubts, she should leave.
Because women should always trust their intuation.
It's in our DNA...
2007-01-05 07:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by Shauna. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to cut herself loose from this loser. Two wrongs never make a right. Just because she suspects him, she should not lower herself to that level. She needs to remain the better person.
2007-01-05 07:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like she's happy in that relationship. She should find someone she trusts enough to leave his cell phone alone!
2007-01-05 07:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by Savvy Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is Never OK to cheat! Tell her to ask him about it or just break it off!!!
2007-01-05 07:45:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋