i really need some advice on relationships. im living with my bf and are in a serious relationship. Ive had 'hang ups' in the past about boys and sports as them partaking in sports usually lead to arguments about me feeling abandoned and at times, jealous. (because they would be in direct contact with females). that issue isnt bad at the moment as I feel i have come to terms with it. But my only real problem is Martial Arts. My last boyfriend cheated on me with someone from his group and i never liked the physical contact he would always have with all the girls there. anyways, the main problem is now i have this stigma around martial arts and my bf now wants to take up a job position of an assistance manager for a karate company. He feels it will be his ideal job because he likes karate AND it has the 'manager' label. Taking into consideration that he has a quick temper and gets verbally abusive when I try and explain to him my feelings towards martial arts, i don't no what to do!!!
2007-01-04 23:31:10 · 5 answers · asked by Mya K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First thing that grabbed me while reading your quesition is that your bf gets verbally abusive when you try and discuss this with him and that is not good. So my first advice is to be careful because verbal abuse can turn into physical abuse and that would not be good. Next, you may want take a look at the kind guys you are meeting because there seems to be a pattern which in turn is causing you not to trust your bf. If you don't have trust you don't have anything and you should be able to trust him in any given situation. I would also suggest expressing my concern to him and watch his reaction when the 2 of you are having this conversation, if he can't look you in the eye and put you at ease then it is time to let go. Everybody wants and need someone but believe me iit is ok to be by yourself until you find the right one I did and now everything is beautiful. Also think hard about what you want in someone and don't stop looking until you find him. Remember verbal abuse can turn into physical abuse and that can be dangerous. I wish you the best.
2007-01-04 23:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by 2Bsweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Verbally abusive leads to physically abusive, hon. Take stock of your life and think about whether or not you want to live with that for the rest of your life. If it were me, I would tell him good-bye. You deserve a man who's not going to stifle your feelings and who's not going to abuse you in any way. My other half is the opposite, he doesn't let me NOT share my feelings, even when I'm over reacting. He's never critical, he gets that it may be unreasonable, but it's how I feel. That's the type of guy who sounds right for you. I don't know if you have, but try seeing a counselor or therapist to work out your insecurity issues. That's where jealousy stems from. Best of luck to you in finding the answer you're looking for.
2007-01-05 07:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what if he cheats on you, it wasn't meant to be then. And its not like you'd never find anyone else down the road. The main thing is that you must trust him. If he's going to cheat, there is nothing you can do about it. You can only control YOU and not him. Express your concerns to him and if he is understanding, he'll talk to you. If he gets verbally abusive, I'd dump his ***. There is no reason for couples to fight when they are expressing concerns to each other if you do it in a thoughtful way. Just remember that he should express his feelings too and try to understand his point of view as well.
2007-01-05 07:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by daveypa22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your bf wants to cheat on you he can do it even if he doesnt take the job
you cant tell him not to take a job that he like, he will definetely end up hating you
i am sorry to say but i think you are beeing really immature
2007-01-05 07:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by girl24gr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just lick your breasts.
2007-01-05 07:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by spud 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋