Help me . I need people who will listen too this
I am a mum of 4 today i recieved a call from the department of childrens services ( Docs) about an accusation of me hitting my serverly autistic son & causing welts on his legs i have a meeting on monday . Now his school has done this too me i have added it up just before school holidays as he was coming home with unexplainable bite marks bruises etc when i asked them they would tell me they did'nt know how it happened ( should'nt they be watching him?) other parents are also upset with the unit their kids are in but all are too scared to say anything & there have been several upset parents of many years & some complaints against the staff .
My husband went to the school & raised hell for the head of the department & silly but protective father mentined if they did'nt pull their socks up he would get Legal advice . They have always been awful to me where's i have always had my sons intrests at heart. I have never laid a finger on
2007-01-04 23:26:42 · 12 answers · asked by leebeesmum_77 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Get in contact with as many of the other parents as possible asap, go as group to a good lawyer and file for civil action against the department.
This goes on way too much and I can't begin to imagine how stressful it is for you, there is nothing worse than being ac cussed of something you know isn't true. Keep strong and go the course and I wish you all the best.
2007-01-04 23:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by polynesiachick 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Children's Services has an obligation to check out any reports of suspected abuse. It does not mean that they believe something happened. If there is no evidence of abuse they will just file a report and dismiss the case.
If other parents have had problems with the school, ask them if they would be willing to talk to Children's Services about it.
Tell Children's Services that you think the school is trying to get back at you for threatening the school due to the other incidents.
If your child comes home from school with bite marks etc again, call Children's Services and the police immediately to report it. Do this EVERY time something happens --and tell the other parents to do the same.
Over time, Children's Service will begin to have a file on the school --and perhaps will not be so willing to believe them.
If there is anywhere else you can send your son to school, it might be a good idea to make a change.
2007-01-05 12:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First I would pull him out of that school if there's that many unhappy parents, you included. I don't know where you live or what other options you have but you can teach him at home. I know it's hard these days to raise a family on one income but I would look into working at home and keeping your son with you. I also had 4 children and worked part time (out of the home) and full time in the home. You can babysit,take in laundry, check around at your neighboring apt. complexes to see if you can take on a job of cleaning move outs. I did this and took my children with me and put them in a large fold up play pin to keep them out of trouble. There are many ways to earn money without having to leave your children in the care of someone else. If you must leave your son just for a break, (we all need this) try leaving him with dad, a sibling or close friend for a few hours and get away to work or just relax. I truly hope you have support with him as 4 children are stressful enough, but when you have an autistic child the strain can be overwhelming. Bless you for NOT putting him away. As for the Dept. of children and family's, take documented proof with you as to your husbands visit to the school, (trust me they filed something) and you have a right to a copy of your own complainant and maybe any others that have been filed, (ask a lawyer or your case worker). If you know any of the other parents that have filed a complainent get them to sign a statment to this effect, if they wont at least mention this to whomever you meet with an INSIST they investigate (the school) before they follow up on your case. Take your sons medical records with you to document any injuries he has sustained from falls and seizures. STAND your ground do not let these people bully you in any way or make you feel you are a bad parent. I had them come to my house when my two youngest were 2 and 3, I told her to close her briefcase and get the he_ _ out of MY home. She left and I never heard from them again. Good Luck I hope all goes well.
2007-01-05 00:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by whateverhohum 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you should serioulsy think about getting legal advice. I would hope that when you tell the Childrens Services about it that they will see that this was retaliation. I guess they probably have to follow through on ALL complaints. I would definitely look at removing your son ASAP from this place. I hope everything works out for you, and Good luck!! (Another thing I would consider doing would be going to the media) I wish you all the best with this outrageous situation that you have been placed in.
2007-01-04 23:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by shaggy m 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i have a phone number that is toll free it's to a lawyer wynona word 1-877-496-8100 , she usually deals with family issues but she could give you and some of the other families some advise on what you guys could do. i wish all of you the best of luck .
i have a Friend that has a handicap boy in a wheel chair and he comes home with unexplained marks too from school .
the schools really need to start screening the people that take care of our handicap children that sometimes don't have a voice of their own to explain to us what has happened and stop blaming the parents ,when the parents want a explanation to what happen.please give this lady a call she could help.the name of her office is (www. Have Justice Will Travel.com) look on the internet too theres more information about theses lawyers.
2007-01-04 23:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by chan72 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
then it sounds like you need to get a lawer involved it sounds like the school is not there for their kids they are there for the money i would get leagle help before something else happins and talk to some other parents and see if you can get them to write a complaint and sign it the more you have against the school the better off you will be but get leagle help have friends and faimly write letters on how you are around your kids hope that helps good luck
2007-01-05 08:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by jab 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
oh my heart goes out to you and your husband, over this,you must seek legal advise with this. try and speak with other parents and get them to write a log about unexplained marks on thier children, you must also list and photograph any marks that appear on your child after being at this unit, but please seek assistance with this, you must for the safety of your child.
I wish you good luck and all my prays will be for you...i hope that you manage to get this all sorted out, i cannot imagine what a stress this is placing on your relationship. Good Luck
2007-01-04 23:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by jesse 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i would not know what to other than ask (docs) to check Into the school and see if any of the other children have marks depending on the child i would also talk to his Doctor and ask him what to do he may have a suggestion
2007-01-04 23:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by fire 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't worry to much about it just be yourself and if they other parent's are to chicken to say anything that's there problem your not doing anything wrong to your child so who really care's what other's think don't freak out about it who know's maybe you'll be the one to make a differance for your son as well as the school
2007-01-05 08:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by pumpkinbugaboo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Remove your child from the facility. Contact an attorney.......
2007-01-05 07:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by autumn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋