I am married but ahter 20 yrs when I heard his voice it was something else I have a different feeling but should i tell my husband about it or not? I am little tempted to see him. Pls help
2007-01-04 23:19:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't
Don't see him and don't tell your husband!
If he really loved you he would have moved the continents and oceans to find you more than 20 years ago. He didn't yet your husband did each time he was there with you through the good and the bad your husband moved the heavens by showing you committment and love.
A date or a phone call you would think couldn't do any harm. You would think but think again.
An avalanche starts with one snow flake. An innocent single and cute snow flake, then another and another snow flake and it seems to hold until one day it just gives way and causes disasterous damage.
You may not feel the consequences immediately but they are coming.
Trust me now ... believe me later, that person should not even exist for you. That means you don't need to tell your husband because you can't have feelings for someone that doesn't exist.
Don't be selfish and naive destroying 20 years of marriage on some youthful fantasy.
2007-01-04 23:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet n Sour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this situation definately reminds me of a country song by garth brooks...called unanswered prayers
Just the other night a hometown football game
My wife nd I ran into my old high school flame
And as I introduced them the past came back to me
And I couldn't help but think of the way things used to be
She was the one that I'd wanted for all times
And each night I'd spend prayin' that God would make her mine
And if he'd only grant me this wish I wished back then
I'd never ask for anything again
Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs
That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers
She wasn't quite the angel that I remembered in my dreams
And I could tell that time had changed me
In her eyes too it seemed
We tried to talk about the old days
There wasn't much we could recall
I guess the Lord knows what he's doin' after all
And as she walked away and I looked at my wife
And then and there I thankedd the good Lord
For the gifts in my life
Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs
That just because he may not answer doesn't mean he don't care
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers
Some of God's greatest gifts are all too often unanswered...
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers
hopefully this helps you out in your decision....good luck
2007-01-04 23:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by michele m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GO---just stay at home with your husband. I think that we all continue to hold something for our first love---that doesn't mean that you should act on it. Your husband has given you 20yrs--all you have from the other guy is good memories. Leave it like that-------
I understand exactly how you feel---good luck.
2007-01-04 23:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by MamaCat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are married now. you should not speak to this other man. You loved your husband enough to marry him, why shake the waters now?
2007-01-04 23:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for me if iam on your situation i will tell it to my husband..there's nothing to be scared of because if your husband really loves you he will trust you in everything you do...and just tell him that you would like to visit him as a friend... but never let your husband's trust get ruined just do what you told him and visit him as a friend..and also to answer that different feeling your experiencing...maybe it's just nothing and your just missing him...as a part of your past..
2007-01-04 23:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by pineapple 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your first love?????? was it? if he was your love why didn't you marry him and not your husband... maybe you are confusing love with lust... for you not to be with this first love says to me it wasn't the kind of lasting love you have with your husband...DONT contact this man..
2007-01-04 23:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by just_a_bitch61 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DON'T SEE HIM!!
2007-01-04 23:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Bob_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it
2007-01-04 23:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋